DH booked a trip for him for my birthday

[MrsDurrells]

DH asked what I’d like for my birthday (last weekend), I clearly said no trips as I end up doing all the packing, planning, unpacking washing etc.
Hes booked us glamping, leaving after school today. All week I’ve reminded him I’m not packing, meal planning, shopping etc and guess what-he’s done a bit of a shop but no meal plans (eg we have bacon, broccoli and cookies?), there’s 3 kids to pack for still and the weather is set to be hot, cold, sunny, and rainy so all weathers really, and he’s not packed a thing yet!

Part of me says don’t help but another part of me knows it’s me and the kids that will suffer because frankly, we’ve experienced similar before! He is so unprepared about most things in life as he knows I always step in and sort it and he openly says he thinks I’m a perfectionist (I’m not I just like to be prepared and have saved his arse so many times!) It’s exhausting. It’s more a jolly for him than me isn’t it?

Personally I can't think of anything worse than glamping. I would definitely be waving them off and enjoying time alone at home or booking a b and b nearby for me and joining them in the day.

I would develop a migraine/stomach bug and go to bed just before he and the DC leave.

Also, instead of saying “no trip” I would have suggested he buys anything that you like - perfume/jewellery/clothes etc.

A few years ago my late MIL wanted to know what I wanted done for my 50th birthday, this was because she wanted us to drive from Devon to London, have a buffet and fawn over her being so generous and then return home. I said I wanted to have dinner in the Savoy Grill.

Exactly.
Not easy at the beginning, but they do learn
if they want to stay married.
My arse 😡

Don’t’t take C @THisbackwithavengeance advice! YouI’ll be a martyr for life

just sit back and let it happen, what is the worst thing that could happen? !

Kids cold? Your DH will sort it

kids hungry? your DH will sort it

No Loo paper? DH will sort it

kids bored? DH wil sort it

give him a chance to do it his way for once

You say no No trips and he books glamping

My idea of hell

Now if he ignored your wishes and booked a nice hotel then maybe help
Him

But def not in this case

He will listen and learn

Ps maybe take a small loo roll for yourself

Absolutely do not do this for him. If anything it will be a learning experience and maybe he'll appreciate what you do in future.

No reminders, no packing bags, just run without. If it's truly terrible you can all come home.

Smile and wave 👋 whilst sipping a birthday drink.

@oreoloverr bollocks!

We are on our way!

I’m about to ask who he’s organised to feed the cats…

@MrsDurrells maybe he’s packed them!

@sebsmite if one member of a partnership said I don’t want a trip for my birthday what does it make the partner who ignored that request and booked a trip. What sort of partner does that make them?

Women are the best packers

Not in my house, DH is definitely the top packer.

He shouldn't have booked it in the first place as OP said she didn't want a break away, she's not ruining anything

Oh this is brilliant. What was his answer?

Please don't tell me you'd let the cats suffer and go unfed to teach him a lesson? Yes he's an inconsiderate disorganised idiot but the cats haven't done anything wrong.

Is there someone with keys that can feed them when he realises he's forgotten them? (which based on your posts I'm presuming he will have).

Say no. Send him on his own and you do something nice for the kids.

If you keep stepping up, he'll keep doing it

The DH clearly thinks things organise themselves. Including the cat care.

Can't you just pack for him and the kids and stay at home instead?

Effort? What Effort?

Book online, print off a page and fold it into a card. Literally no thought put in or effort gone to. He can't have even left his armchair!

You can figure it out if you read the OP slowly.

This is heartwarming, two soulmates in the unlikeliest of places.

Agreed, I would just sit back enjoy myself and let him deal with any issues.

He'll have to go home tomorrow to feed them and change the litter tray then.