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Boyfriend not coming back from holiday

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Madnessinblue · 27/06/2024 22:31

Boyfriend had gone on a business trip and extended by a few days to spend time with his friend. He won’t tell me when he’s coming back as he is undecided and says he just needs a break. It started with one extra night to now on day 3.

Now normally this would be understandable. However he has hardly been spending any time with me over the past few months as he has been so busy with work and life.

I asked a few months ago if he would take a holiday with me (it’s next week as I have time off work) and he said he could not spare the time off of his work and that he also could not afford to do it. He does however seem to have the money to fund a trip with his friend and lavish fine dining meals for breakfast, lunch and dinner plus super expensive bars for a few extra days at a luxury destination.

AIBU?

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CatLady22222 · 30/09/2024 01:21

Sorry, I saw the update after posting my reply. So glad you dumped him! Hope you meet someone better.

Sometimesright · 30/09/2024 09:16

Madnessinblue · 27/06/2024 22:44

Yes this is the feeling I have been having recently. He doesn’t make much effort to see me and if he does it’s all a real hassle for him as he is so busy.
I definitely don’t feel like a priority to him.

It sounds like he wants to end things but doesn’t have the balls.
He is treating you like this so you will dump him and let him off the hook!
Back away and find someone who will treat you properly.

LilacReader · 18/06/2025 16:46

Sorry my lovely, he doesn't seem to know what he wants at the moment. If I were you, I would book to go away somewhere nice and hot (I've done it on my own and it's liberating and not at all lonely) and leave him to wonder what you are up to.

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