To feel pleased that neighbour’s kids are being pulled out of private school?

[grengat]

I am friends ish with my neighbour and I do feel very conflicted about this. Since we moved in 5 years ago we have had it ALL about her son’s education. How he’s doing so well, on the path to a brilliant future, all the sports he’s doing… every time we see her she manages to mention something about the bloody school! We could never afford it and she knows this. Anyway… turns out he won’t be going back after Christmas and they are looking round state schools this week. I feel great about it. Finally my kids are on a level playing field with this kid and I am glad it’s happened. Think I just need a safe space to say it as obviously can’t IRL!

This, what a horrible person you are op! Would you like it if you own and someone who rents took pleasure if you lost your job then house?

I can understand you don't want to hear her gloat about her son, however, I am puzzled why you so invested in her downfall or her life.

Wow. Of all the things I've read on MN, this is probably one of the nastiest. You sound really bitter ans jealous.

Your probably right..... doesn't change anything though does it?

Personally I think the kids that behave like this should be placed into another provision, given work placements on some days and secure class room provision the rest and delivered there and dropped home. Like community service for children.

People will say I'm wrong idc, if they don't want to learn what's the point in them being there anyway and it may give them some compassion and a will to be a decent part of society.

You sound like a PEACH.

How nasty!

This child is about to be uprooted from his school and leaving his friends. I know its a small world problem. But its big feelings for kids.

He will have to adjust to a new school, new teachers and friends. It's also not easy on parents to have to make these choices.

But you're happy. How jealous and low can a person be.

Do your own kids a favour. Don't raise them to be like you.

There's no mention of disabilities?

@LadyFeatheringt0n yep exactly this!!!

that’s a bit nasty to feel like this.. what a shame he’s having to move schools if it’s not voluntary.

After Christmas? What, he's going back in September but only for a term?

@summersofdoom well this is why I feel our grossly unfair that all these years my dc have been at a disadvantage. All kids should start from the same place.

Anyone who says they wouldn't feel smug about this is a liar!

Yeah and the poor child is just collateral damage...

OP imagine your poor kid being forced out of school tomorrow, it closes or something would you be happy if this mum came on here saying she's absolutely delighted by your sons misery because you were delighted at her sons? What would you think of her?

Hmmmm be careful. Things have a way of coming back on you threefold 😏

Poor kid can’t help it if their parents are annoying idiots. What a strange thing to be happy about.

@soupfiend it wasn’t chit chatting. It was regular put downs of things our dc could never do.

Everyone is sooooo holier than thou!

if Someone mentions their AUDI every conversation or how they are just back from their holiday home in IBIZA or how they love their MULBERRY handbag it would get very annoying. And if said items then got repossessed then you’d have to be superhuman not to find it funny.

poor kid tho. But his parents should not have over reached themselves.

Of course it's 'that much', especially if there's some money spare to send DC to private school.

You're vile.

You're living in cloud cuckoo. No child ever starts off from the same place. From their basic intelligence, to how they're brought up, how they're parented, what they do, who they know... There is no level playing field. Fuck knows how bitter you'll be when their child is still excelling next year.

Speak for yourself.

You're glorying in a child being distressed and having his education disrupted.

It makes no difference to you or your family's situation at all.

You're not nice, are you!

There is no equal playing field op, none at all. Kids don’t start from an equal footing ever. Even siblings don’t (first born will always benefit from that vital one to one stuff)

yes I can imagine the boasting is annoying but your reaction isn’t justified by that

but once they start its never equal, some will learn quick, some will struggle, some will have tutors, some will visit museums, historical areas, some will be encouraged by others to learn more, so basically the whole state vs private being equal etc is a faciallicy to begin with because regardless of school, its still down to the individual and wether they have the drive to study more and learn more etc

It's not her fault that your kids have been at a disadvantage though, nor should you want a child lucky enough no to be disadvantaged to be disadvantaged so that they won't end up more successful than your child.

I have to say this says alot about you OP, tbh. I'm happy for any kid that gets a decent education and I don't blame them for the fact that my kids don't or want theirs taken away.