To feel pleased that neighbour’s kids are being pulled out of private school?

[grengat]

I am friends ish with my neighbour and I do feel very conflicted about this. Since we moved in 5 years ago we have had it ALL about her son’s education. How he’s doing so well, on the path to a brilliant future, all the sports he’s doing… every time we see her she manages to mention something about the bloody school! We could never afford it and she knows this. Anyway… turns out he won’t be going back after Christmas and they are looking round state schools this week. I feel great about it. Finally my kids are on a level playing field with this kid and I am glad it’s happened. Think I just need a safe space to say it as obviously can’t IRL!

Wow! Thats an awful way to look at this. You sound bitter and jealous! You are not a good human.

You are a mean spirited, envious woman - and you know it.

Schadenfreude

yep not uncommon.

I assume this is a goady made up thread to get folks frothing.

Well played op.

Finally my kids are on a level playing field with this kid and I am glad it’s happened.

instead of the constant race to the bottom, why not being sad for your own kids not having access to better opportunities, and why not being angry that state schools kids are missing out on better education?

Your kids won't achieve better in life because others lose a spot in a better school.

If private schools were only about fancy uniform, posh grounds and fancy school trips, fine. But it's more than that isn't it?

Your kids will never be on level playing field.
I won't bother to attempt to explain why if you don't get it

Have one of my grapes op. Yours are sour!

Was she bragging, or just talking, probably in response to OP chit chatting. Thats what people do, they tend to talk about themselves or their lives.

People are so defensive and paranoid now, so what if someone else can have something or do something that you cant?

Maybe she can't afford it?? There isn't a single high school in my town with an outstanding ofsted report! They are all abysmal.

My younger kids go to an outstanding primary school and I'm left with no choices for decent secondary schools absolutely none! If I could afford private I would do it In a heart beat

I would not enjoy her boasting about it either, but that's her being shit. Being happy she is having to take child out of school is you being shit. I would try not to.

But why?
What does this actually give you?
😳

Sounds like he's smart and sporty so will do well wherever he goes to school.

He's not suddenly going to become stupid and not sporty just so you can gloat.

Yeah it sounds tedious AF and bringing it up all of the time and how amazing it is to someone who can't afford the same for their child is crappy. I'd find it intolerable, whereas if it came up naturally in conversation now and again wouldn't even spend any time thinking about them going to private school.

You've no idea of the struggles and sacrifices they've made to send their son to private school. Hopefully, he'll thrive in the public sector and you can continue to seethe as he soars

What a cow you are

I don’t agree with private school. I still think you sound like a massive cow.

Well let's be honest, you aren't friends are you? You don't like her. If you're going to be fake as fuck, that's on you. And to be gleeful about a situation that is going to upset and quite probably affect a child is deeply unpleasant. Hope MN has helped you get it out of your system.

He may not be having a top notch education.

We also don't know the reasons why he had to leave the school. He may have been a naughty boy....

With any luck the neighbours child will break his ankle in the summer holidays and then you can really crack open the champagne.

🤷 You're saying it anonymously, not yelling it in her face while pulling party poppers. It's not a huge deal to have unpleasant thoughts from time to time.

I don't think the op is being unpleasant. They sound quite boastful and that gets tedious quickly. I wouldn't be gleeful at the child's situation but I'd probably have a wry smile at the parents.

All the tax does is give spiteful people a lift from a child having to move schools. Depressing

You’re just a vile human really.

@Mummy2024 my cousin could afford the discounted fees, but doesn't feel it offers value for money

She's happy with her local state school options. I'm sorry it's not the same for you

But please don't assume that ALL private schools are good and ALL state schools are awful. That's absolutely not the case