..to expect my 15 year old son NOT to be wanking in front of MY computer in MY living room in the middle of the day when I walk in the front door with his younger siblings???!

[BloodyHell]

Before you all say it's healthy.. it's normal... I know, I KNOW! But it is NOT healthy or normal to have to wonder now what DD (9) is thinking and how the hell to broach the subject with her!!

Fortunately DS (7) has SN was oblivious but DD at the very least, saw him sat there with his jeans round his ankles! We all did! He didn't even make any move to pull them up, I suppose he would have had to expose himself in the process. He jsut said "sorry.. sorry" and waited for me to leave the room so he could run upstairs!

It would have been much easier to have just daughters I swear. Why the HELL couldn't he go and have a wank on his bed! He KNEW we were due back at some point in the afternoon!

Obviously he is appalled and humiliated but as far as I can see he's brought this on himself. This is not the first time I've caught him red-handed; last time it was late at night on the sofa, whilst watching the "free ads" on the porn channels on the telly. On that occasion I said would you PLEASE not wank in my living room!! And certainly not when we're all walking around upstairs still having only just gone up! I was looking for HIS clothes he'd requested for the morning on that occasion.. like a sucker, while he played with it downstairs!

I have just been and shouted at him (rightly or wrongly; I'm angry, that gibes me a right I feel) that I don't want him to use MY WORK COMPUTER for that, even though it is a family computer in all other respects which is fine. But I really DON'T want that on the hard drive. And why the hell do men HAVE to so recklessly take advantage of the oh-so-freely available visual stuff.. can't they just use their imaginations??! (I shouted that at him too!)

I am shuddering that his bare arse has been on this very chair, and his (topically from a thread last night!) "penisy hands" been all over THIS mouse!

Ugh ugh ugh.

He needs to wank.. fine, but I don't see why I should have to keep catching him doing it!! I don't want it to be any of MY buisness but it seems I keep having to be "involved"! And I am SO cross that his younger siblings who are too young (perhaps thankfully) to know what he was doing, had to see him sat there like that!

Bloody men and boys.

YANBU - it's just a typical teenage lack of respect. Maybe ask him how he would feel if you and DH/P had sex on his bed? That should gross him out and put it into perspective for him.

glad i have girls

I imagine that the shame of being caught will curb his (umm) enthusiasm for a while though.

Hello Fio. Yes it's me and yes it was him, that boy you think so well of.

Grr

at MissingMyHeels. I bet that would work.

That's pretty thoughtless on his behalf. Can he not do it in the shower like other blokes?

I imagine now he's been caught pink red handed he will tame it down a bit, publicly at least!

Oh and of course YANBU

If it's any concelation (I really can't spell that word, sorry!) I think he will be absolutely devastated that you caught him-he must be dying of embarrassment inside! But sadly I think it's just his age-obsessed with sex and can't get enough of it so will take any opportunity he can to look at scantily clad ladies! At least he wasn't having sex while watching it-I know that's not going to make you feel too much better but it could have been a tiny bit worse to walk in on that. I can still remember my mum finding my vibrator and putting it on top of my neatly ironed laundry to show her finding of it and great distaste

I don't think you're unreasonable to ask him to masturbate in his bedroom or the bathroom - is there a man around to tell him this cos that sooooooooo seems like a conversation for the boys

YANBU. Friend had similar problems with step son. His Dad had a good chat with him and they established some ground rules on the basis of 'son, I know its going to happen but you have to respect other family members etc etc'. Good luck.

My hard drive is now full of "Jessica Alba naked" and worse.

I'm sorry but ROFL ..

it's like the Apple Pie in American Pie .. go and talk to him about sex as punishment

Sorry, but that is so funny! You explained it with such wit Bloodyhell. Poor you and poor embarrassed DS.

LMFAO.
Sorry, but it is funny.
I have a son though so am sure I'll have to deal with it at some point..

who is jessica alba?

i am pmsl @ the boy who turned the grandparents photo round out of respect though. teenagers are so strnage.

Surely the fear of you telling everyone he knows loudly about this would be enough to stop him doing it again

roffling @ turning the grandparents picture round

I am laughing so much I can not help you, but I shouldn't be laughing because I have a son. He's two and already his hobby is having poke about down there.

I HOPe your daughter isn't too traumatised..!¬

pmsl sorry

isn't she pregnant?

I have 2 ds and a dss.....oh no.

jessica alba

We've had that chat before; I have said he needs to do it in bathroom, on anywhere he knows he won't be caught. Ok so he doesn't have a bedroom of his own at the moment (will do soon) but I don't see that as a good excuse I'm afraid.

So we've had the chat, and the humilation, and it's still happens. What shall I do with him??!

He's hiding upstairs. Perhaps I'll jsut take a big knife up there and chop it off

I SO expected to be told I was being unreasosnable (probably still will) but actually you've hit on my biggest issue (apart from the siblings), the dispresepct of it all!

YANBU tell him to buy some top shelf mags and wank away in his room....it is disrespectful and crosses the line IMO.....not to mention the potential viruses thta you can get on your computer off those scuzzy sites