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David Tennant: women should "shut up"

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jacksonlamb · 26/06/2024 13:36

As a (now ex) David Tennant fan I was so disappointed to hear his speech yesterday. Whilst talking about trans rights he told his audience that he wanted a world where "we wake up and Kemi Badenoch doesn't exist anymore. I don't wish ill of her, I just wish her to shut up."

(There's some devious doublespeak here: if you wish someone didn't exist, you obviously wish them ill).

But more importantly, how dare he tell women to shut up about women's rights. Yet again powerful and privileged men tell women what they are and are not allowed to say. They must shut up whilst men speak. Their views are wrong, men are right.

Anyone has the right to believe that the rights of trans people are more important than the rights of women (although I believe this is profoundly wrong). What they do not have the right to do is bully, belittle and threaten women who disagree with them; who are trying to protect their hard fought rights.

I despair.

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cupcaske123 · 27/06/2024 06:26

TheKeatingFive · 27/06/2024 06:20

There are always going to be people defending the indefensible because it's 'their side'. People can see that kind of duplicity for what it is.

I find it interesting that Starmer felt the need to distance himself from that comment - he isn't pretending to not understand the implications, demonstrating more cop on than I would have expected.

Life is made up of difference. People have different opinions and interpret things differently. I wish the Tories didn't exist. That doesn't mean I want to bomb parliament or for a sniper to take them all out. Should he have chosen his words more carefully? Probably. Does he want Kemi dead? Highly unlikely.

Buntycat · 27/06/2024 06:27

SpidersAreShitheads · 27/06/2024 02:37

I think this is the crux of the misunderstandings and misconceptions.

No GC women I have ever spoken to think this. No one is claiming that most trans women are a risk. That misses the point spectacularly.

Think of it this way: most men are decent. Most men don’t sexually assault women. And yet we keep men out of single sex spaces….why?

Because we don’t know which men are dangerous. Women are physically vulnerable and there is no way to tell which men are safe and which ones present a danger. So we keep them all out of designated single sex spaces where we are at our most vulnerable - bathrooms, changing rooms, prisons, hospital wards etc.

This same logic applies to trans women. They have male characteristics and the overwhelming majority still have a penis.

Of course the majority of trans women aren’t dangerous. We know that. But as male bodied individuals who, according to stats, retain the same patterns of offending as the biological male group, we don’t know what trans women are safe. So they all need to stay put - just like other bodies with a penis.

Women have been assaulted and attacked by trans women in spaces that were supposed to be safe. One woman attacked is one woman too many. Women are not a shield, and increasing our risk to protect trans women from other male bodied people is not an acceptable solution. Our spaces aren’t available to anyone who fancies identifying into them. We have single sex spaces for our safety, our protection.

And of course, none of this addresses the other issues. Women who have been raped or subjected to domestic violence - many only feel safe in single sex facilities. Muslim women can only access single sex spaces. By allowing male bodied trans identifying people in - ie/trans women - you are making all of those facilities inaccessible to these women. Theyre being forced out of their own spaces to make male bodied individuals feel more comfortable and included.

I think the point that gets missed is that we don’t hate trans people. Genuinely, crack on. Identify however they want and be happy. This isn’t about trans people, this is about women. Women’s spaces and women’s rights. We have had to fight hard for any semblance of equality - and now we’re having our rights and safety removed to appease male bodied people. Why can no one ever put us first? Why are women always the ones expected to step aside? Why don’t our feelings and our safety matter too?

I would 100% actively support the trans community in creating a third space, a separate sports category etc. Absolutely we understand what it’s like to be at the mercy of violent and intimidating men so it’s completely understandable that a gender non-conforming male bodied individual may feel uncomfortable with men. I would cheerlead loudly for any trans community fighting for a third space because that would demonstrate some care, thought, and consideration towards women. Because presently there’s fuck all of that coming from TRAs, and that includes Mr Tennant and his shitty T-shirts.

100% right, and very well expressed.

TRA's just don’t want to believe that being gender critical doesn’t automatically mean you "hate" trans people or want to "erase them" or "deny their existence". Or maybe the TRA's just don’t care if it’s true or not. It’s much easier to portray themselves as permanent victims and people who have different opinions as hate-filled bigots.

TheKeatingFive · 27/06/2024 06:27

cupcaske123 · 27/06/2024 06:26

Life is made up of difference. People have different opinions and interpret things differently. I wish the Tories didn't exist. That doesn't mean I want to bomb parliament or for a sniper to take them all out. Should he have chosen his words more carefully? Probably. Does he want Kemi dead? Highly unlikely.

You can keep trying to excuse it, I doubt anyone is convinced.

IpsyUpsyDaisyDoos · 27/06/2024 06:31

cupcaske123 · 27/06/2024 06:26

Life is made up of difference. People have different opinions and interpret things differently. I wish the Tories didn't exist. That doesn't mean I want to bomb parliament or for a sniper to take them all out. Should he have chosen his words more carefully? Probably. Does he want Kemi dead? Highly unlikely.

I don't think he should have said it, but everyone has someone they wish didn't exist. Most of us just keep it as an "inside thought".

It's like those people that spout on about how they respect everyone. No they don't, there are people we all have a lack of respect for.

But you don't publicly wish someone out of existence.

cupcaske123 · 27/06/2024 06:33

TheKeatingFive · 27/06/2024 06:27

You can keep trying to excuse it, I doubt anyone is convinced.

I'm sure no one will remember this in a couple of days because it's a storm in a teacup.

TheKeatingFive · 27/06/2024 06:34

cupcaske123 · 27/06/2024 06:33

I'm sure no one will remember this in a couple of days because it's a storm in a teacup.

Hmm, we will see

cupcaske123 · 27/06/2024 06:36

IpsyUpsyDaisyDoos · 27/06/2024 06:31

I don't think he should have said it, but everyone has someone they wish didn't exist. Most of us just keep it as an "inside thought".

It's like those people that spout on about how they respect everyone. No they don't, there are people we all have a lack of respect for.

But you don't publicly wish someone out of existence.

I didn't interpret what he said to mean that he wants her dead. No longer exist as a minister was how I interpreted it. Poor choice of words perhaps.

Acapulco12 · 27/06/2024 06:49

This news with David Tennant really reminds me of Gary Lineker’s criticism of Suella Braverman on Twitter last year.

Both of these men are fairly well-known, have the right (like we all do) to say what they think and (in my view) have put across their opinion of a fairly controversial politician in a polite, reasonably measured way.

I think it’s a sign of a healthy democracy, when we can get criticise or question politicians’ language or views, whatever political party they’re from. I think both Kemi Badenoch and Suella Braverman have frequently expressed very inflammatory views, and it’s important for people to point out that their position gives them a lot of power and responsibility, which they need to bear in mind and use appropriately.

So in summary, I support both Gary Lineker’s and David Tennant’s decision and rights to speak out as they have, and I think this should be encouraged.

Meetingofminds · 27/06/2024 06:55

Acapulco12 · 27/06/2024 06:49

This news with David Tennant really reminds me of Gary Lineker’s criticism of Suella Braverman on Twitter last year.

Both of these men are fairly well-known, have the right (like we all do) to say what they think and (in my view) have put across their opinion of a fairly controversial politician in a polite, reasonably measured way.

I think it’s a sign of a healthy democracy, when we can get criticise or question politicians’ language or views, whatever political party they’re from. I think both Kemi Badenoch and Suella Braverman have frequently expressed very inflammatory views, and it’s important for people to point out that their position gives them a lot of power and responsibility, which they need to bear in mind and use appropriately.

So in summary, I support both Gary Lineker’s and David Tennant’s decision and rights to speak out as they have, and I think this should be encouraged.

Even if it means these women might be attacked and killed because some of the activists are so violent and extreme?

You don’t think they bear any responsibility at all?

Democracy I might also add does not and should never stretch to RACISM.

Your support of racist, misogynistic attacks on black and brown wonen is quite repulsive because that’s what your view boils down to. Racist attacks singling out deliberately black women.

Underthinker · 27/06/2024 06:55

@Acapulco12
Has Badenoch ever said she wanted someone to no longer exist? And if she had, would you see that as "polite and reasonably measured" or if she said it would it be an example of her "inflammatory views"?

Acapulco12 · 27/06/2024 06:58

Meetingofminds · 27/06/2024 06:55

Even if it means these women might be attacked and killed because some of the activists are so violent and extreme?

You don’t think they bear any responsibility at all?

Democracy I might also add does not and should never stretch to RACISM.

Your support of racist, misogynistic attacks on black and brown wonen is quite repulsive because that’s what your view boils down to. Racist attacks singling out deliberately black women.

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I don’t see how I’ve been racist in my post - or how Gary Lineker’s or David Tennant’s comments were racist either.

Acapulco12 · 27/06/2024 07:00

Underthinker · 27/06/2024 06:55

@Acapulco12
Has Badenoch ever said she wanted someone to no longer exist? And if she had, would you see that as "polite and reasonably measured" or if she said it would it be an example of her "inflammatory views"?

I agree the bit about wanting Kemi Badenoch to no longer exist wasn’t a good choice of words, but it was clearly humorously meant, and I think I would see that intention regardless of whoever said it (David Tennant, Kemi Badenoch or anyone else).

cupcaske123 · 27/06/2024 07:09

Acapulco12 · 27/06/2024 06:58

I don’t see how I’ve been racist in my post - or how Gary Lineker’s or David Tennant’s comments were racist either.

Braverman has quite rightly been critisised for many of her views. Calling pro Palestinian marches, 'hate marches', saying that homelessness is a 'lifestyle choice ', her fanatical devotion to the Rwanda scheme, dehumanising language towards asylum seekers and immigrants.

We should be allowed to hold politicians to account without being accused of being racist or wishing them harm.

Meetingofminds · 27/06/2024 07:11

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Underthinker · 27/06/2024 07:12

@Acapulco12 It's an interesting feature of the gender debate that you can make an innocuous comment in favour of women's rights and be told you are denying trans people's right to exist, and simultaneously someone can wish you out of existence and that be an innocuous comment.

Acapulco12 · 27/06/2024 07:13

cupcaske123 · 27/06/2024 07:09

Braverman has quite rightly been critisised for many of her views. Calling pro Palestinian marches, 'hate marches', saying that homelessness is a 'lifestyle choice ', her fanatical devotion to the Rwanda scheme, dehumanising language towards asylum seekers and immigrants.

We should be allowed to hold politicians to account without being accused of being racist or wishing them harm.

Absolutely. I completely agree.

Meetingofminds · 27/06/2024 07:15

cupcaske123 · 27/06/2024 07:09

Braverman has quite rightly been critisised for many of her views. Calling pro Palestinian marches, 'hate marches', saying that homelessness is a 'lifestyle choice ', her fanatical devotion to the Rwanda scheme, dehumanising language towards asylum seekers and immigrants.

We should be allowed to hold politicians to account without being accused of being racist or wishing them harm.

Yes we should be able to hold them to account in a civilised way, but sadly David and fucking Gary didn’t do that! They choose to use words like shouldn’t exist. They choose to silence those black women instead. That is the issue! You should never be allowed to be racist and misogynistic!! WTF!

And this is Labour all over, they come out with the ‘correct’ sound bites but when it comes to it they are a deeply racist, misogynistic party. Look at how they treated Diane Abbott! FFS. It’s disgusting.

TheKeatingFive · 27/06/2024 07:18

I agree that we should be able to hold politicians to account for their positions.

I would argue that telling the minister for women and equalities that they should 'shut up' when it comes to speaking out for women's need for single sex services is not 'holding to account'.

Its trying to silence women's voices in a deeply misogynistic way

Acapulco12 · 27/06/2024 07:18

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It’s not racist to criticise the views of someone who is a different skin colour or race to you.

It is clearly racist to suggest that someone has specific views or behaves in a certain way because of their skin colour (whether they are white or black).

However, it’s not racist at all to criticise someone’s views if they are a different skin colour or race to you. If this was racist, most people would never be able to have debates or question each other’s views, as our society is so diverse and made up of so many people from different races and backgrounds and with different skin colours.

Acapulco12 · 27/06/2024 07:20

Meetingofminds · 27/06/2024 07:15

Yes we should be able to hold them to account in a civilised way, but sadly David and fucking Gary didn’t do that! They choose to use words like shouldn’t exist. They choose to silence those black women instead. That is the issue! You should never be allowed to be racist and misogynistic!! WTF!

And this is Labour all over, they come out with the ‘correct’ sound bites but when it comes to it they are a deeply racist, misogynistic party. Look at how they treated Diane Abbott! FFS. It’s disgusting.

David Tennnant spoke about not wanting Kemi Badenoch to exist, and I agree he should have probably used a more polite choice of words, but I also think it was clear his words had a humorous intention. Gary Lineker used a much more polite tone and words when he tweeted about Suella Braverman’s policies last year.

Meetingofminds · 27/06/2024 07:22

Acapulco12 · 27/06/2024 07:18

It’s not racist to criticise the views of someone who is a different skin colour or race to you.

It is clearly racist to suggest that someone has specific views or behaves in a certain way because of their skin colour (whether they are white or black).

However, it’s not racist at all to criticise someone’s views if they are a different skin colour or race to you. If this was racist, most people would never be able to have debates or question each other’s views, as our society is so diverse and made up of so many people from different races and backgrounds and with different skin colours.

It is absolutely racist to say to a black woman she needs to ‘shut up’ and not exist. Have you no idea the impact that will have on a woman of colour? Are you that stupid that yelling that someone ‘should not exist’ will have given the history??????

Of course it is revolting - unforgivable language. And deepky racist veiled language. He knew exactly what he was saying. I hope he never works again.

Acapulco12 · 27/06/2024 07:23

Underthinker · 27/06/2024 07:12

@Acapulco12 It's an interesting feature of the gender debate that you can make an innocuous comment in favour of women's rights and be told you are denying trans people's right to exist, and simultaneously someone can wish you out of existence and that be an innocuous comment.

I don’t think it’s a particular feature of the transgender debate, specifically. I just think it’s because it sounds much worse and more serious if you appear to be wishing ill on a big group of people and on just one person.

cupcaske123 · 27/06/2024 07:23

Meetingofminds · 27/06/2024 07:15

Yes we should be able to hold them to account in a civilised way, but sadly David and fucking Gary didn’t do that! They choose to use words like shouldn’t exist. They choose to silence those black women instead. That is the issue! You should never be allowed to be racist and misogynistic!! WTF!

And this is Labour all over, they come out with the ‘correct’ sound bites but when it comes to it they are a deeply racist, misogynistic party. Look at how they treated Diane Abbott! FFS. It’s disgusting.

Perhaps you should calm down.

Lineker has been vocal on the plight of asylum seekers and even had refugees in his home. He criticised Braverman on her inflammatory language and said it was like something out of the 30s. He was critical of the way asylum seekers were being treated.

He said nothing racist to Braverman. She was 'singled out' because of her views which many didn't agree with.

The Tories accepted funds from a man who said he wanted to shoot Diane Abbott.

Bromptotoo · 27/06/2024 07:23

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I'm not seeing the relevance of the men's skin colour and wealth or the race of two prominent Conservative politicians neither of whom are shrinking violets when it comes to courting controversy.

Tenant and Lineker have publicly disagreed with their stance on matters of public policy.

That's all.

Meetingofminds · 27/06/2024 07:24

Acapulco12 · 27/06/2024 07:20

David Tennnant spoke about not wanting Kemi Badenoch to exist, and I agree he should have probably used a more polite choice of words, but I also think it was clear his words had a humorous intention. Gary Lineker used a much more polite tone and words when he tweeted about Suella Braverman’s policies last year.

That’s what all bullies say, it’s just a joke. Except no one is laughing.

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