Just found out I’m pregnant I must be over 30 weeks I am scared!

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Hi posting here as this thread seems to get the most traction.

I found out I was pregnant this morning. I haven’t had periods for 2 years as I’ve been on the pill and they’ve stopped them. I had no symptoms until recently. My belly is tiny, I’ve lost weight. I have been feeling so sick and dizzy, Saturday I went to a theme park with my daughter, I fainted and was sick everywhere. The medic came over and asked if there was any chance I could be pregnant and I laughed it off. I recovered and we went home.

Today I thought oh I will just take a test to rule it out. I was going shopping anyway so I didn’t specifically set out to buy a test, I just grabbed one with my shopping. I fully expected it to say negative, I was just doing it to humour myself. I knew there was an extremely slim chance but I was 99.99% sure it would be negative. I didn’t even look for 20 minutes as I was adamant it was a waste of time and would be negative. But no, two lines appeared. Because I left it so long I thought a possible false positive so I went out and got 6 more including a digi. All were dark positive and the digi said pregnant.

I went in to panic mode. I have not had sex in 30 weeks, the last time I had sex was November the 24th. I was dating somebody and things broke up after a few months as he moved abroad. I have not had sex or even dated since.

I called EPU, I explained the whole situation and they’ve said as I’m over 16 weeks, they can not take me under their care and I need to do an online referral for a midwife and urge the importance of the situation in my online referral. I have done an online referral and stressed they contact me asap. I can not find a direct number for the midwife’s, only the number for antenatal day Assesment unit. I don’t know what I should do, do I just go to a&e. Do I wait until the midwife’s have got back to me?

I am so scared. For all I know there’s more than one baby, the baby could be sick, the placenta could have developed incorrectly, the baby could be deformed, the baby could have a disability. Anything; because I haven’t been checked! So now I’m worrying!

I also drink a bottle of wine most weekends.

I am terrified something would have gone wrong but I’m in limbo until the midwife’s contact me back after they’ve received my referral. I don’t know what to do, do I go to A&E?? Am I going to be in trouble for not knowing until now?

I feel so uncomfortable sat here doing nothing about it until they’ve got back to me when I’m anywhere from 30-36 weeks pregnant. My other daughter was born at 33 weeks so I’m worrying!!!

please what do I do??? Do I go to a&e???

I would be paying for an immediate scan if you can afford it.

I would ring triage at your local maternity unit and see if they can get you a scan today.

Agree with PP, book a private scan, you can usually get one within a day or so.

Congratulations! I would probably get the ball rolling down the GPwith the midwife and ring the hospital maternity unit too just incase they could fit you in a scan.

I would also book a private scan asap. A&E won't see you. It might be worth trying maternity triage.

Try not to panic about the “what ifs”.
Call the local hospital maternity unit for advice. Speak to your GP urgently too.

I wouldn't pay for a private scan - I imagine you will need to keep hold of your money. I think if you make an emergency appointment with your doctor, they will arrange for a quick scan and an appointment with a midwife.

I wouldn't worry about twins if you're tiny.

I thought pregnancy tests weren't reliable after a certain date? Have you felt any kicks at all?

It's Sunday, you're not going to get much help today.
Tomorrow morning, get an urgent appointment to see you GP, flag up what you've said, that DD was born at 33 weeks and you could be anywhere between 30-36 weeks and that you are scared. You won't get into trouble, you aren't the first person that this has happened to, it's not your fault.
Like WithACatLikeTread said, get a private scan if you can, but I don't know how fast you can do that, it may be that once you are in the NHS system, they will sort a scan more quickly.
This must all be a huge shock for you.

Can I ask why you started your post with “congratulations” when the OP has made it very clear that she’s worried and terrified? She hasn’t said how she feels about having a baby so defaulting to “congratulations” is insensitive and pointed.

OP, can you give your GP a call in the morning and get checked out for some of the basics? Would second private scan if finances allow.

First of all, try not to panic. Definitely call the GP so they can get you in with a midwife asap. You may even be able to call the pregnancy/ maternity unit at your local hospital, explain and see if you can be seen, however this might be more easily done through the GP. If you can't get seen at the hospital book yourself a private scan if you can afford it, so you can get an idea of due date, check baby is OK etc.

Ive felt some movement but nothing major. Since my 6 year old daughter I’ve had phantom kicks pretty consistently and I’ve looked in to them and it says it can be normal. I’ve had them various times whilst not being pregnant. I haven’t had any strong kicks just slight movement I put down to phantom kicks.

I feel slightly in pain like dull period cramps. I don’t know if I should phone triage just incase it’s the early onset of labour or something since my daughter was born at 33 weeks but I’m not sure if I phone triage they will see me as my pregnancy isn’t registered

I think this is your best shot for today. Thinking of you OP this must be a huge shock xx

Do you have a walk in centre?

If you are in pain and you have someone who can take care of your daughter, I would go to A&E.

If you’re feeling pain, call triage. They’ll check you over, do an urgent booking, take some bloods and get you scanned. Good luck.

Try to ring the maternity unit - failing that go to a&e

Don’t bother with a walk in centre, they won’t be able to do anything unfortunately. You need a hospital where there are obstetricians and midwives.

Finding out you are pregnant is not a. Accident or emergency. They will refer to maternity anyway.

The triage is your best bet. I would even just turn up and advocate for yourself, say you're in a state of panic and need assistance.

BTW the magic words to get a scan are "I have abdominal pain". The nhs has become a checkbox nightmare so might as well play them at their own game.

I was thinking the exact same thing. You can practically hear the (understandable) panic in the OP’s tone so why say congratulations?! Very insensitive

I’d call the day assessment unit - it’s what they are for

You poor thing. For today if you're worried you could call 111 and they should be able to advise. First thing tomorrow call your gp surgery so you can get some support and registered in the system. What a shock.

I’d go to triage and explain the situation x

Do you have someone to mind your daughter so you can work through what to do today? I'd try calling the maternity unit too. I wouldn't go to A&E- they will send you to maternity anyways.

Phone any numbers remotely connected to maternity that you can find for your local hospital. Do you maybe have contact details from your previous pregnancy still saved somewhere? Do not worry about being annoying; the midwives will be wanting to hear from you when they understand the situation but you need to get to them first.

That is my only practical advice but I feel for you and really hope you get support soon.

It may be an emergency if o/p has previously had a 33 weeker, estimates she is 30/36 weeks now, has had no pre natal care and is getting some cramping as she says.

i’d phone the pregnancy unit o/p. Explain, with your history I reckon they’ll see you asap.