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Just found out I’m pregnant I must be over 30 weeks I am scared!

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Goldflamingo · 23/06/2024 13:20

Hi posting here as this thread seems to get the most traction.

I found out I was pregnant this morning. I haven’t had periods for 2 years as I’ve been on the pill and they’ve stopped them. I had no symptoms until recently. My belly is tiny, I’ve lost weight. I have been feeling so sick and dizzy, Saturday I went to a theme park with my daughter, I fainted and was sick everywhere. The medic came over and asked if there was any chance I could be pregnant and I laughed it off. I recovered and we went home.

Today I thought oh I will just take a test to rule it out. I was going shopping anyway so I didn’t specifically set out to buy a test, I just grabbed one with my shopping. I fully expected it to say negative, I was just doing it to humour myself. I knew there was an extremely slim chance but I was 99.99% sure it would be negative. I didn’t even look for 20 minutes as I was adamant it was a waste of time and would be negative. But no, two lines appeared. Because I left it so long I thought a possible false positive so I went out and got 6 more including a digi. All were dark positive and the digi said pregnant.

I went in to panic mode. I have not had sex in 30 weeks, the last time I had sex was November the 24th. I was dating somebody and things broke up after a few months as he moved abroad. I have not had sex or even dated since.

I called EPU, I explained the whole situation and they’ve said as I’m over 16 weeks, they can not take me under their care and I need to do an online referral for a midwife and urge the importance of the situation in my online referral. I have done an online referral and stressed they contact me asap. I can not find a direct number for the midwife’s, only the number for antenatal day Assesment unit. I don’t know what I should do, do I just go to a&e. Do I wait until the midwife’s have got back to me?

I am so scared. For all I know there’s more than one baby, the baby could be sick, the placenta could have developed incorrectly, the baby could be deformed, the baby could have a disability. Anything; because I haven’t been checked! So now I’m worrying!

I also drink a bottle of wine most weekends.

I am terrified something would have gone wrong but I’m in limbo until the midwife’s contact me back after they’ve received my referral. I don’t know what to do, do I go to A&E?? Am I going to be in trouble for not knowing until now?

I feel so uncomfortable sat here doing nothing about it until they’ve got back to me when I’m anywhere from 30-36 weeks pregnant. My other daughter was born at 33 weeks so I’m worrying!!!

please what do I do??? Do I go to a&e???

OP posts:
Tangerinenets · 06/10/2024 02:08

Hope the op comes back with an update!

WithACatLikeTread · 06/10/2024 08:06

She also can't terminate at 30 weeks. It is up to 24 weeks unless there is a severe disability.

ThatVoodooThatYouDoooo · 06/10/2024 13:04

WithACatLikeTread · 06/10/2024 08:06

She also can't terminate at 30 weeks. It is up to 24 weeks unless there is a severe disability.

OlderGlaswegianLivingInDevon · Today 00:54

@Childfreecatlady

The Op was 33 weeks and 3 days when she last posted which was 25th June - over 3 months ago - 14 weeks and 5 days to be precise !

EachandEveryone · 06/10/2024 20:43

I hope everything turned out well for you x

BeingATwatItsABingThing · 06/10/2024 21:34

Just done an advanced search on the OP’s username. 🤔

IWantThisSoMuch · 06/10/2024 21:42

She mentions her other daughter was born at 24 weeks, this refers to 33. People change details all the time to keep anonymous

BeingATwatItsABingThing · 07/10/2024 03:43

IWantThisSoMuch · 06/10/2024 21:42

She mentions her other daughter was born at 24 weeks, this refers to 33. People change details all the time to keep anonymous

I know that.

Gogogo12345 · 10/10/2024 15:52

BeingATwatItsABingThing · 06/10/2024 21:34

Just done an advanced search on the OP’s username. 🤔

No mention of a baby in the post she made recently. Hope she's ok

BeingATwatItsABingThing · 10/10/2024 15:59

Gogogo12345 · 10/10/2024 15:52

No mention of a baby in the post she made recently. Hope she's ok

🤞🤞

Shivermeoldtimbers · 10/10/2024 19:34

Cop on!

caringcarer · 11/10/2024 00:04

I'd be worried sick about having drunk a bottle of wine most weekends. I'd be worried sick about baby having foetal alcohol syndrome.

gingertigercat · 13/10/2024 15:39

caringcarer · 11/10/2024 00:04

I'd be worried sick about having drunk a bottle of wine most weekends. I'd be worried sick about baby having foetal alcohol syndrome.

What an awful post. If you bothered to read a single post you would know OP was clearly very worried so your message contributes absolutely nothing. Also check the date she posted. It's a bit late for the "helpful" comment.

Stripeysocks1981 · 13/10/2024 22:33

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iambutachickenfinger · 14/10/2024 15:43

caringcarer · 11/10/2024 00:04

I'd be worried sick about having drunk a bottle of wine most weekends. I'd be worried sick about baby having foetal alcohol syndrome.

Personally I'd be worried sick finding out I'm heavily pregnant with a baby I had no idea existed. No need to pass judgement where it's not necessary.

Sleep10 · 24/06/2025 21:07

I was 30 weeks and 5 days when I found out with my eldest and 20 weeks and 5 days with my twins.
I went to my GP with my eldest because my belly button popped out, I had no signs etc, he felt my tummy and sent me up for a scan that day.

With the twins i took a test and waited for the midwife, obviously didnt know it was twins until i had a scan a few days later.
Please, don't panic. We joke and say eldest is the only one normal one (this is acceptable in our house, we're all loving and kind/joking with each other) even though he was the one I didn't know about and did everything you're not supposed to do.
Don't fixate one the things you haven't been doing, I'm sure you'll be ok. Now time to get sorted, I enjoyed it as it wasn't long to wait until I had my bundle of joy x

mnahmnah · 24/06/2025 21:34

@Sleep10 This thread is from a year ago!

Createausername1970 · 25/06/2025 00:14

Ah, I was hoping it was an update from the OP. I wondered what happened in the end.

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