Just found out I’m pregnant I must be over 30 weeks I am scared!

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Hi posting here as this thread seems to get the most traction.

I found out I was pregnant this morning. I haven’t had periods for 2 years as I’ve been on the pill and they’ve stopped them. I had no symptoms until recently. My belly is tiny, I’ve lost weight. I have been feeling so sick and dizzy, Saturday I went to a theme park with my daughter, I fainted and was sick everywhere. The medic came over and asked if there was any chance I could be pregnant and I laughed it off. I recovered and we went home.

Today I thought oh I will just take a test to rule it out. I was going shopping anyway so I didn’t specifically set out to buy a test, I just grabbed one with my shopping. I fully expected it to say negative, I was just doing it to humour myself. I knew there was an extremely slim chance but I was 99.99% sure it would be negative. I didn’t even look for 20 minutes as I was adamant it was a waste of time and would be negative. But no, two lines appeared. Because I left it so long I thought a possible false positive so I went out and got 6 more including a digi. All were dark positive and the digi said pregnant.

I went in to panic mode. I have not had sex in 30 weeks, the last time I had sex was November the 24th. I was dating somebody and things broke up after a few months as he moved abroad. I have not had sex or even dated since.

I called EPU, I explained the whole situation and they’ve said as I’m over 16 weeks, they can not take me under their care and I need to do an online referral for a midwife and urge the importance of the situation in my online referral. I have done an online referral and stressed they contact me asap. I can not find a direct number for the midwife’s, only the number for antenatal day Assesment unit. I don’t know what I should do, do I just go to a&e. Do I wait until the midwife’s have got back to me?

I am so scared. For all I know there’s more than one baby, the baby could be sick, the placenta could have developed incorrectly, the baby could be deformed, the baby could have a disability. Anything; because I haven’t been checked! So now I’m worrying!

I also drink a bottle of wine most weekends.

I am terrified something would have gone wrong but I’m in limbo until the midwife’s contact me back after they’ve received my referral. I don’t know what to do, do I go to A&E?? Am I going to be in trouble for not knowing until now?

I feel so uncomfortable sat here doing nothing about it until they’ve got back to me when I’m anywhere from 30-36 weeks pregnant. My other daughter was born at 33 weeks so I’m worrying!!!

please what do I do??? Do I go to a&e???

Hey, OP, congratulations.
It's scary, isn't it. I had this happen to me TWICE - one pregnancy was with twins, too. And like you, when I was pregnant with the twins, I'd had a drink on 3 occasions because I didn't know.
Ring your GP surgery tomorrow. The doctor will do some OBs and do a referral for a scan. A&E won't do anything. They'll tell you to contact MAU or the GP.
Try not to panic, I know it's hard, but you'll be ok.
You've got to this far, 1 more day before you can get the ball rolling.
Take care 🙂 x

Ring maternity assessment, you said you have their number. You could be waiting hours for 111 to get back to you the way things are at the moment, they are not going to be able to give you the reassurance you need and they’re likely to direct you to maternity assessment anyway.

(I rang 111 on thursday night and the doctor never rang me back they took me off the callback list because it was too busy)

Glad a doctor is phoning you back. If you are worried about the cramping I would go to the nearest maternity unit, I can't see them turning you away!

I was over 20 weeks when I found out, and then had a very premature birth so I can imagine how you are feeling 💗

I think 111 might be too slow. They usually take 10 hours to call us back. Might it be worth just going to the door of A&E and asking them to redirect you to the maternity unit?

Or if you didn't mind telling us where you are we could work out the right phone number for you. even by PM if that would help.

I bet there are some champion googlers here.

Goodness this must be a huge shock. Without trying to worry you more, but did you have sex before that date oh November, just highlighting you could be further through than you think - if so worth relating back to 111 due to your previous history of fast and early delivery. Good luck and things WILL be ok

What's the obsession with a private scan. They are not going to be able to do anything but say yes, pregnant, this gestation.

The OP needs to go to hospital and be seen but the people who can actually help.

It must be such a shock for you. I really hope everything is ok and you get to see someone soon💐

Hope you are ok and managed to get seen. Please keep us updated.

If you google your local hospitals maternity unit you should get the phone numbers come up as they do with mine. Then I'd try labour assessment unit and see what they say, at the very least they should be able to give you some advice.

just go to your local maternity unit!!! Just turn up, explain you have just found out you are pregnant and are at least 30 weeks and think you may be in early labour and have had no antenatal care. They will have you seen straight away as they have a duty of care and you'll be sorted same day. Just go honestly you'll have all the answers you need by the end of the day!

Yes I agree. Just go to the maternity hospital and explain.

You’ve literally just told mumsnet you think you’re in early labour (cramping) with a baby you conceived as a result of sex in November. You’re 32+ weeks based on the date. You need to call triage and tell them that. The fact you only just found out is irrelevant really. I appreciate this is scary.

Don't wait for 111. They always take hours and then just say that you should go to A&E, Pointless to wait for them.

I’m glad you’re ringing 111. In my area you can also self refer to midwifery but I imagine if there’s a problem and you call triage, explain the situation and that you aren’t even booked it, they will help you.

Hadn't seen your latest update about the cramping and the previous fast delivery.

Have you got someone who could come and stay with you or could you send DD on a sleepover?

I wouldn't go for a private scan though at one of these trendy places because they're only to look at the baby. At this stage she needs a really detailed medical assessment.

It might be worth ringing A&E, explaining what you've told us, and asking them to direct you to the right department.

I thought after 20 something weeks a positive pregnancy test does not show, even if you are pregnant?

I'm sorry for your worry op bless you xxx

I agree I would call the maternity unit rather than 111. Since you’ve called 111 you could always call the maternity unit while you wait for 111 to call you back. I have never found 111 helpful in the past.

Good luck op!

Just turn up to Maternity Assessment Unit I wouldn't waste time waiting for a Dr phone call. Your local Maternity hospital with have one, it's where u go when u have reduced movements or bleeding during pregnancy.

Definitely ask for a scan. I also thought that pregnancy tests don't work after a certain point because HcG levels change.

Most maternity units have a Maternity assessment which you ring when you're in labour, ring them and explain. Especially if you have cramping, they should see you straight away.

I would contact that phone number you have and were going to call. They will be able to signpost you if nothing else.

Further to what I just suggested, and as others are saying, you need to speak to someone in the maternity unit. That's if you're able to get through to the ward or a 24 hour number. Any maternity clinic 9-5 Mon-Fri lines aren't going to help here, hence the suggestion to ring A&E and have them direct you to the right line.