Just found out I’m pregnant I must be over 30 weeks I am scared!

[Goldflamingo]

Hi posting here as this thread seems to get the most traction.

I found out I was pregnant this morning. I haven’t had periods for 2 years as I’ve been on the pill and they’ve stopped them. I had no symptoms until recently. My belly is tiny, I’ve lost weight. I have been feeling so sick and dizzy, Saturday I went to a theme park with my daughter, I fainted and was sick everywhere. The medic came over and asked if there was any chance I could be pregnant and I laughed it off. I recovered and we went home.

Today I thought oh I will just take a test to rule it out. I was going shopping anyway so I didn’t specifically set out to buy a test, I just grabbed one with my shopping. I fully expected it to say negative, I was just doing it to humour myself. I knew there was an extremely slim chance but I was 99.99% sure it would be negative. I didn’t even look for 20 minutes as I was adamant it was a waste of time and would be negative. But no, two lines appeared. Because I left it so long I thought a possible false positive so I went out and got 6 more including a digi. All were dark positive and the digi said pregnant.

I went in to panic mode. I have not had sex in 30 weeks, the last time I had sex was November the 24th. I was dating somebody and things broke up after a few months as he moved abroad. I have not had sex or even dated since.

I called EPU, I explained the whole situation and they’ve said as I’m over 16 weeks, they can not take me under their care and I need to do an online referral for a midwife and urge the importance of the situation in my online referral. I have done an online referral and stressed they contact me asap. I can not find a direct number for the midwife’s, only the number for antenatal day Assesment unit. I don’t know what I should do, do I just go to a&e. Do I wait until the midwife’s have got back to me?

I am so scared. For all I know there’s more than one baby, the baby could be sick, the placenta could have developed incorrectly, the baby could be deformed, the baby could have a disability. Anything; because I haven’t been checked! So now I’m worrying!

I also drink a bottle of wine most weekends.

I am terrified something would have gone wrong but I’m in limbo until the midwife’s contact me back after they’ve received my referral. I don’t know what to do, do I go to A&E?? Am I going to be in trouble for not knowing until now?

I feel so uncomfortable sat here doing nothing about it until they’ve got back to me when I’m anywhere from 30-36 weeks pregnant. My other daughter was born at 33 weeks so I’m worrying!!!

please what do I do??? Do I go to a&e???

OP hope you're OK for the moment. Just to take a little bit of pressure off - in spite of all they say about no safe alcohol limits, I know someone whose mum drank unhealthily throughout pregnancy and she's still OK.

And an Italian friend tells me that a limited quantity of red wine used to be encouraged in pregnancy - b/o iron content I guess? So the bottle of wine on the WE doesn't have to weigh on your mind. It's done.

I hope you get reassuring news soon.

Wot a shock. I found out I was pregnant when I was 45 and 28 weeks gone. That was a shock so I can only imagine how you must feel. Please keep us posted and best wishes.

Sorry 18 weeks

No one should or can advise her at this point - not 111, not her GP, not us - this os a pregnancy full of unknowns with limited to no information to be able to draw any conclusions or give any assurances.

The ONLY information we have is that previous pregnancy was premature birth, that mum is on medication not recommended in pregnancy, that she’s at least 30wks and that she’s now experiencing cramps.

Anyone not advising her to seek midwifery care immediately is an idiot.

What a shock for you @Goldflamingo I hope you get a call back from 111 asap. Be really pushy and emphasise that you have been experiencing cramps for 3 days and you really feel you need to be seen/scanned as a matter of urgency.

Do you have a family member or friend nearby who you can call for support? Xx

It means she thinks the op is making this up.

Hi OP. I can imagine your shock. I agree with all PPs saying to call your local maternity triage. They are the best placed to help you as soon as possible. Your GP will only refer you and I imagine 111 will too. Lots of luck and positive thoughts your way.

If your pregnancy was planned and registered you would go and be seen at maternity. So go now. Pain needs investigated. They aren't going to tell you off!!

Good point from a PP that this pregnancy could be further along than 33 weeks, assuming the OP was having coitus prior to the Nov date.

Also, being bipolar is surely in itself a risk factor, for her MH?

Good luck @Goldflamingo

You must be very worried - hopefully you’re seen soon. You need proper maternity care asap!

Let us know if you can, I hope everything is fine.

This is NOT what a&e is for.

I'd go to maternity triage at the hospital and beg them to do something.

Phoning 111 is probably the correct thing to do though, I fear you'd be left waiting at A&E as you wouldn't be seen as immediately at risk.

OP I'm so sorry you must be terrified.

Agree with other posters, phone day assessment unit or maternity triage instead of waiting for 111 as you could be waiting hours.

Hope all is ok x

You’ve probably already called 111 now, hopefully they send you to the day unit and you can get a scan asap. Hope all is well.

What a shock for you. I hope you get seen ASAP.

Oh you poor thing. What a shock.

Don’t bother with a private scan - they are for bonding and sexing, not for identifying anomalies. If anything is wrong you would just be even more anxious waiting for a nhs scan. I would phone your local maternity unit.

111 still haven’t called me back. I have phoned antenatal day Assesment and they’ve said to come in as soon as I can as I need to be seen by one of their doctors asap given my history of preterm labour.

I have told my sister who lives an hour away. She is coming with brother in law, brother in law is taking daughter back to his to baby sit and sister is staying with me.

Will try to update later if I can. Just hopeful it’s not premature labour. I know some people have said that HCG doesn’t show on a test beyond a certain point. Wishful thinking wants me to believe that. Midwife I spoke to says that isn’t true, I did take a pregnancy test at 28 weeks in previous pregnancy as I wanted a positive test for her memory box and that was positive. I’m hoping that I’m not but I understand I’m being completely naive by thinking that but a blood test or scan will confirm.

I know some will suspect I knew and I’m worried the midwife’s will think the same. Had truly absolutely no idea. No weight gain, no periods which was normal for me. Had hyperemesis in previous pregnancy so knew straight away. Have only been sick once during this pregnancy and that was yesterday. I’m exactly the sort of person who’d say “how can you not know you were pregnant that’s stupid” now I’m in that same situation.

will update if I can
thanks

She'll get a scan but there's no real urgency as in it has to be today. A midwife will be able to measure and feel baby.

No weight gain at all? How is that possible?

Goodness me what a shock. A work colleague's wife had a similar situation except she was menopausal and they thought she'd got a bowel problem as she was have and pains. Ambulance came and it turns out she was in labour. Neither of them suspected a thing! It does happen and it's quite a shock! Good luck op. I hope everything is ok

Call triage, they will see and very likely scan you. It won't matter at all you haven't booked- it happens all the time. Good luck OP 💐

Gosh what a mind boggling situation to be in. Keeping my fingers crossed both you & baby will be fine and in times it’ll all sink in. 💐

I was 26 weeks when I found out with my third 🤣
I had absolutely zero symptoms and hadn't had a period in three years.
Everything was fine and I had a perfect little girl delivered by section 13 weeks later x

Just seen your update, glad you are getting seen, good luck.