Just found out I’m pregnant I must be over 30 weeks I am scared!

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Hi posting here as this thread seems to get the most traction.

I found out I was pregnant this morning. I haven’t had periods for 2 years as I’ve been on the pill and they’ve stopped them. I had no symptoms until recently. My belly is tiny, I’ve lost weight. I have been feeling so sick and dizzy, Saturday I went to a theme park with my daughter, I fainted and was sick everywhere. The medic came over and asked if there was any chance I could be pregnant and I laughed it off. I recovered and we went home.

Today I thought oh I will just take a test to rule it out. I was going shopping anyway so I didn’t specifically set out to buy a test, I just grabbed one with my shopping. I fully expected it to say negative, I was just doing it to humour myself. I knew there was an extremely slim chance but I was 99.99% sure it would be negative. I didn’t even look for 20 minutes as I was adamant it was a waste of time and would be negative. But no, two lines appeared. Because I left it so long I thought a possible false positive so I went out and got 6 more including a digi. All were dark positive and the digi said pregnant.

I went in to panic mode. I have not had sex in 30 weeks, the last time I had sex was November the 24th. I was dating somebody and things broke up after a few months as he moved abroad. I have not had sex or even dated since.

I called EPU, I explained the whole situation and they’ve said as I’m over 16 weeks, they can not take me under their care and I need to do an online referral for a midwife and urge the importance of the situation in my online referral. I have done an online referral and stressed they contact me asap. I can not find a direct number for the midwife’s, only the number for antenatal day Assesment unit. I don’t know what I should do, do I just go to a&e. Do I wait until the midwife’s have got back to me?

I am so scared. For all I know there’s more than one baby, the baby could be sick, the placenta could have developed incorrectly, the baby could be deformed, the baby could have a disability. Anything; because I haven’t been checked! So now I’m worrying!

I also drink a bottle of wine most weekends.

I am terrified something would have gone wrong but I’m in limbo until the midwife’s contact me back after they’ve received my referral. I don’t know what to do, do I go to A&E?? Am I going to be in trouble for not knowing until now?

I feel so uncomfortable sat here doing nothing about it until they’ve got back to me when I’m anywhere from 30-36 weeks pregnant. My other daughter was born at 33 weeks so I’m worrying!!!

please what do I do??? Do I go to a&e???

If they say they can't help because you're not on the system with the midwives, just turn up and make them see you. They can't turn you away.

If you’re in pain or dull ache etc, ie other feelings that are potentially labour, I’d go to triage. I hope this works out for you.

Please don’t panic OP. This happened to my cousin, she found out 2 weeks before she gave birth, she was a smoker and drinker, and her baby was fine. Phone your GP’s tomorrow and take it from there. Good luck!

Explain as you have here. You’re not the first and you won’t be the last to discover a pregnancy quite late, so don’t let that scare you. They’ll have encountered this before and know what to do.

Hope they can help and provide some reassurance.

I would just turn up at your hospital’s maternity triage/assessment centre. Good luck!

Good luck! I know nothing about this, but I am crossing my fingers for you.

One of my best friends found out she was pregnant at 5 months. She was extremely surprised.

This.... Good luck op.

Phone local hospital maternity and explain about previous early birth. There are also some medical conditions that can cause positibe pregnancy tests.

Try not to worry too much. Their are women who go all the way to term without knowing, and pop out out a perfectly healthy baby.
Good luck and I hope all turns out good for you xxxx

I would go to triage. The midwives are there to help you. They won’t turn you away if you have pain/cramping.

Either that or travel and pay for a private scan?

If day assessment unit won't see you they will have a number for community mw team you can call tomorrow, or call your gp.

I said: If you are in pain, go to A&E.

I found I was pregnant and 6 days later gave birth
I hadn't got my head round it at all-it was the worst week of my life
I can't remember the full details,but my gp got me booked in with maternity and for the scan
(Found out on the Monday,scan on the Wednesday and birth on the Saturday)
Do keep an eye on your mental health-i ended up with pnd and am convinced it's because I hadn't had time to think,let alone get my head round it
(Sorry if you think I'm being insensitive-not fully read the full thread)

No advice OP just wanted to say I feel for you and good luck!!

My local clinic doesn’t have appointments till Thursday, 2nd closest don’t have appointments until Tuesday. I’m not sure what they could do aside from confirm the pregnancy?

I am just terrified of giving birth alone. My 33 weeker came very fast. Fortunately I was already in hospital but my pain went from mild to extreme within an hour and baby was out after 2 hours. I’m terrified of giving birth home alone and baby not surviving due to prematurity and no NICU doctors.

I decided to call 111 instead. I’m waiting for a call back from a doctor

Congratulations is not the right word.
OP is scared, did not want another child, is feeling unwell, is by herself with another older child to care for and has had no maternity care and has not followed usual pregnancy advice. Not all pregnancies are a good thing!

I agree with PP you need to see your GP and urgently get referred. And make provisions for care for your older child.

Oh goodness OP what a shock!
Hoping you are ok, take one day at a time ❤️

Unless you have pain or bleeding or feel otherwise unwell at all then you do not need to go to A&E. A pregnancy ultrasound is not available in A&E.

Ring your local hospital (with maternity provision) and ask to speak to maternity triage - that should put you through to the nurses on the Labour ward for advice. They may say to pop down, given there’s a possibility that you’re 36 weeks, and have a history of premature delivery. But equally - they might be comfortable for you to wait until tomorrow to pick it back up with outpatient maternity services.

Given that you have gotten this far into the pregnancy without any symptoms/problems - chances are that everything is absolutely fine with the baby and they will be healthy and normal.

Have you got any real life support, an adult to talk to about things? I recognise that the babies father will need to know at some point very soon, but I think right now the most important thing is that you have someone who loves and cares about you who is located nearby to talk things through with and help you process everything.

Wishing you all the very best op. If it helps remember that women have been having babies for millennia without scans and checks

Keep us updated of what the doctor says OP.
This must be the biggest shock of your life. I hope you are ok ❤️

I don’t know if I missed whether you are in the UK if so I would call the maternity unit at your local hospital, they will at least be able to advise you.

The next step would be GP first think tomorrow morning. Try not to panic if possible!

I think you need to try and get a private scan asap. Congratulations bit I'm sure it's a shock

Yes, you definitely need to speak to maternity triage - explain you’ve just found out that you’re pregnant, unknown gestation - circa 33-36 weeks and that you have a history of premature precipitous labour.

OP, if I could call them for you, I would.

Take care and good luck x

The movements sound pretty normal. My DC2 would just shuffle a bit and then go back to sleep.

I'd speak to the GP first thing and download the Count The Kicks App.

Ah I’m sorry about that. I suppose just to put your mind at rest about how far you are but you hopefully can get seen before Tuesday.