Not sure what to make of this behaviour at a concert?

[Skeletonsandsidewalks]

From the guy I'm dating. He was maybe slightly tipsy, not drunk as he'd only had 2 pints.
Anyway we were at a gig, I had to leave slightly earlier as I had work the next morning and didn't want to be too tired.
He wanted me to stay which is sweet, but he physically wouldn't let me go. It was a seated gig and I had to wrestle him off of me.
It went on for about several minutes, he thought it was funny but he would not let go of me and he's stronger than me. The woman sitting next to him was eyeballing us for a good while and I said to him, "Stop, people are looking."
I got free and he said to this woman "Oh she has work tomorrow."
Just looking back, not sure if it was just playful or not?

Jesus. 'Massively into play fighting'. Sure he is. He's literally training you like a dog.

Given you've previously kicked him in the balls and he hasn't stop definitely throw this one back. He doesn't GAF about consent or boundaries, what he did wasn't ok or acceptable at all.

It's playful (ish) now, one day it won't be.

This is a man that likes to exert his power and control over women.

Last date I reckon.

OP should be able to leave a concert when she wants, for whatever reason she wants.

Run away as fast as you can OP. Scary behaviour and so early on while theoretically he should be on “good behaviour”?! He will only get worse.

its not play fighting if you tell him to stop and he doesn't. Consent is not just about sex.

It might be physically controlling or it might be just really immature. Either way it's not good.

Say it louder.

but he's very into play fighting

No. He’s into play fighting with women. Never tolerate this.

When DH and I were dating we sometimes used to playfight, but never in public and I never ever felt threatened or in danger at any time. And he would always stop when I asked.

I agree that's he's testing how compliant you are, block and move on.

Fuck that. I wouldn’t be seeing him again

Oh, OP.
My ex husband used to do this in the pub when we were first going out together. Keeping hold of me, tickling me, not stopping when l asked him to.
It was embarrassing, people would be looking, and l was mortified. But l was young, and l liked him, so l put up with it.
Over the years this escalated into controlling and abusive behaviour. Including not taking on board that when l said no to sex, l meant no. He actually used the words 'conjugal rights' and 'entitled to'. He even used those words on the divorce papers, without considering why his behaviour made me refuse him.
Please think about that. This will get worse, l promise you.

This^ absolutely.
And I would break with him by text and if you really have to see him I would only go into a very busy place, preferably where there is security.

And that was in a public place. It’s too scary to think about if you’d been alone. I wouldn’t go on another date.

Definitely testing your boundaries.

NB. he doesn't have any

He likes playfighting because he always wins. He wouldn’t like it so much if he was being pinned down by someone much bigger and stronger than him. He’s getting pleasure, probably sexually, from knowing he can do whatever he wants to you and you can’t stop him.

its not a huge leap to assume he will rape you

Do not stay in a relationship with this man, I wasted part of my life in one like this. (He would know I was working the next day but would hold my hand brake on so couldn’t leave and refused to get out my car)
You told him you had work he ignored that, he’s selfish/controlling he’s showing you who he is. An asshole who only thinks of himself

Why the hell are you still.with this.man?

I'd hate this. He would be a hard no from me.

He did that in public. What might he do in private?

Red neon sign. If my boyfriend feels the slightly less moving when we are in an embrace he physically relaxes - I then snuggle closer if I want or he releases and this is in the middle of a cuddle.

Your’s is horrid, immature and abusive.

Christ, why are you minimising his behaviour?

He assaulted you, in public. If he's prepared to do that what is he prepared to do in private?

Run for the hills.

I had a partner who did this. He ended up raping me.
Please end this relationship.

Yep.
Hopefully there won't be another time, but if there ever is with any man, say "stop or I'll hurt you". If he doesn't stop, do something painful just as you said you would. Poke his eye hard, twist and pull his ear, put a fingernail in his nostril and pull hard, press the sternal notch at the base of his neck. The pain will make him let go, and that's when you run if there's any possibility he'll turn really violent.