to be upset our children are not invited

[droopyoldbird]

I am sure this subject has been done to death but my dh niece is having a meal for her 21st birthday.
They will be eating at 6 prompt as the 'youngsters' want to go into town for the rest of the eve.It is being held at a crap cheap Beefeater place.
We have no sitters that eve and my dh's sister and her husband (who are paying) have said 'they made the decision that it was an adult do and they dont want little ones running about - dont take it personally'
We are the only people invited with little ones.
The niece would like the children to be there.
AIBU to be really upset and cross that they have this attitude ? We are now uanble to go as have no sitters.

Freckle I admire your tenacity on this thread - you have been very reasonable throughout amidst unreasonable provocation at times.

I think the op is not being unreasonable in feeling hurt. The invite is at a child friendly place at a child friendly time time - and the family have travelled 200 miles to be there - not unreasonable to be hurt if your children are not invited. It seems such a waste if the OP and her dh can't see them somehow. But I don't think the SIL is being necessarily deliberately mean and intent on excluding the OP's children. She may have just assumed the OP could sort out babysitting and didn't realise the OP does not want to do this.

Blimey, this thread is still going!
The birthday girl in the OP is about to turn 50.

Am loving the idea of fetish-wear at Beefeater.