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to be upset our children are not invited

278 replies

droopyoldbird · 09/04/2008 06:45

I am sure this subject has been done to death but my dh niece is having a meal for her 21st birthday.
They will be eating at 6 prompt as the 'youngsters' want to go into town for the rest of the eve.It is being held at a crap cheap Beefeater place.
We have no sitters that eve and my dh's sister and her husband (who are paying) have said 'they made the decision that it was an adult do and they dont want little ones running about - dont take it personally'
We are the only people invited with little ones.
The niece would like the children to be there.
AIBU to be really upset and cross that they have this attitude ? We are now uanble to go as have no sitters.

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Chequers · 10/04/2008 09:24

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Chequers · 10/04/2008 09:25

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AbbeyA · 10/04/2008 09:26

We don't actually know if the birthday girl wants them there! She may have told her mother that she doesn't but has been unable to tell he aunt to her face that she doesn't!

Carmenere · 10/04/2008 09:26

It is about attitude and generosity of spirit imo. If you have a party that is not appropriate for children to be there fair enough . But if you are throwing a bash at a family orientated restaurant and you pointedly exclude children you are just being mean.
The secret of a good party is being genuinely happy and welcoming to all you guests, letting them know that you want them there, even if they have to bring their children.

I love the sound of MP's party's

morningpaper · 10/04/2008 09:26

Ah yes I was referring to Anna's post

And wedding people that talk about budget restrictions are always lying - the budget STRANGELY never extends to children and yet always extends to monogrammed napkins

Saveme · 10/04/2008 09:27

"the budget STRANGELY never extends to children and yet always extends to monogrammed napkins "

You're really on a roll now MP aren't you?!

SilentTerror · 10/04/2008 09:27

I would send DH without me and DC's.
Even having had 4 Dc's I can understand that not everyone wants children at every celebration.I am often more than glad to be without mine!
Send him,then have a day shopping/lunching with friends/spa, anything to treat yourself whilst he babysits.
And think how much more enjoyable that would be than a family meal!

Anna8888 · 10/04/2008 09:28

MP - inviting one extra guest costs (a lot) more than providing monogrammed napkins for a party of several hundred people.

morningpaper · 10/04/2008 09:28

Carmenere you are OF COURSE invited to my next party

all of them in fact

in fact you all are

come along with all your children and villagers

(I must have a lot of parties - someone turned up to a morning playdate last week and apologised for not bringing wine )

Chequers · 10/04/2008 09:29

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Anna8888 · 10/04/2008 09:29

Monogrammed napkins are very, very vulgar though...

Anna8888 · 10/04/2008 09:30
Chequers · 10/04/2008 09:30

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morningpaper · 10/04/2008 09:31
nappyaddict · 10/04/2008 09:31

it's a bit odd if the niece wanted them there,

madamez · 10/04/2008 09:36

Well I despise the wierd idea that when you are hosting, organising and paying for a party you are supposed to give consideration to the whims of every self-obsessed unreasonable twat who happens to be a vaguely connected member of your family.

morningpaper · 10/04/2008 09:39

what like your brother?

Youcannotbeserious · 10/04/2008 09:40

OMG!! I once knew a guy who had exactly the same principle as MP - Met someone once, therefore immediately LIFELONG friend and threfore invited to every party / barbeque etc going......

He once decided to lecture me on 'his' wedding (I was informed that my part would be to pay for the £50K party he had planned) and (I AM NOT JOKING) He had people on that list he'd met ONCE, often several years ago.

'HE' wanted 'HIS' Wedding etc, etc., What a complete numpty!!!

MP - I appreciate that this might not be what you meant, and I'm not trying to tarnish you with the same brush but the attitude that everyone has to be invited to everything is just as bad!!

Youcannotbeserious · 10/04/2008 09:41

Oh, and yes, the numpty's budget also stretched to monogrammed napkins and also a full size flag of his family's crest / Coat of arms (and, no, he didn't have a 'title' - well other than Ar*ehole!!!!)

Youcannotbeserious · 10/04/2008 09:43

BTW, None of you will be shocked to know that at the grand age of 36, he's not actually found some woman to marry him!!!

I know you are all shocked!!!

I'll shut up now, honest!!

morningpaper · 10/04/2008 09:43

WHAT was that incoherent post? Why did you have to pay for his wedding??

I don't invite everyone I've ever met. There is a woman who does that isn't there and holds parties for around 25,000 people every year, what IS her name?

Saveme · 10/04/2008 09:46

I've not been invited to things that people I know/family members are going to. I don't throw my toys out of the pram like a petulant child. I accept that in life we don't always get included in everything.

People who kick up a fuss about their kids not being invited to things are surely on a dangerous road to making them think they are so important they should be invited to everything.

Youcannotbeserious · 10/04/2008 09:46

MP - I was 'seeing' him at the time (Believe me, talk of weddings was NOT appropriate!)

Saveme · 10/04/2008 09:47

Oh, got you, youcannotbeserious - he was talking about you and him getting married...

I don't think her post was "incoherent" MP - just that part wasn't clear. Much like when you started rambling on about picnics earlier.

morningpaper · 10/04/2008 09:47

Youcannotbeserious

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