Who should be denied cheap flight set up?

[Wayda]

My younger brother is a pilot. For 5+ years I have been lucky enough to get access to very discounted cheap flights. Appreciate that. Has helped my child and I experience many things we simply would not be able to otherwise (single mum). My brother recently mentioned that I along with our other brother need to figure out who will keep the cheap flights. Pilot brother has 5 spots which he can divvy out. He has recently become serious with a girlfriend who he wants to give the discount to.

My brother (not the pilot) is on a far higher salary than me and does not have kids. Yes, he travels more than me but that is due to him having the time to do so. This brother also loaned my younger brother some money to live off whilst training so I think feels entitled to the discounts. He probably earns £80k. Anyway, when we met at the weekend he told me “you had a good run”! The cheek! Assuming I should give up my spot.

Parents witnessed this and did not say anything about their spots. If I were them I would try and help out a single mother. I know it may seem entitled but I’m more hurt by the lack of consideration.

AIBU?

OP, what's stopping you taking 1, brother taking 1, and you...paying for your child?

Top cheeky fuckery from you. Pay for the kid you chose to have and be thankful for anything you get from him. If I heard that you were causing ructions with the brother who supported the training, you'd be getting no freebies at all.

Yes, exactly what I was going to say.

Also 'denied is emotive language that implies something you are entitled to is not being given to you.

This is so far from that it might as well be on the moon.

It's entirely up to the pilot brother. Being used to having something does not entitle you to go on having it.

I think you need to make the argument to your brother, not to us

Yes this!

It's that old saying, when you're used to privilege, equality feels like oppression.

I wouldn’t be giving it to other of you until you both stopped acting like entitled brats.

Pay for your child’s flight and go to more reasonable holiday destinations. You will still be saving loads of money. And yes you have had a good run for five years.

The most obvious solution is brother has 1 ticket and you have 1 ticket. Children are cheaper anyway.

In my version of alternating it would be
Yr 1 parents get 2, OP 0
Yr 2 OP gets 2, parents 0

So they get free flights for an abroad hol every other year. This would have made me SO HAPPY when my Dc were young and we could only afford a hol every third year .

OB gets 1 ticket every year (again if I was OB this would make me v happy)

Gf gets x 2 every year so that she can go abroad with PB, for them to enjoy, since it is him who has earned this perk. And in the end, this perk is HIS.

You give up your child’s so u still get discount yourself and have yo pay for your child

What makes you special just because you have a child ? thats the exact same me and my husband get because we have no children, and also we are expected to be very generous with our time and money to the others why because they have children's and god their lives are harder. You do not know what is going on in other peoples lives and you have had a good roll so far. Its up to your brother who gets them

I was assuming it was PB + 5 (as it he gets discount anyway plus 5 to use for family as at the moment it's the poster and her child, the two parents and the other brother?)

anyone else feel like getting their violin out?

As you said your brother got 'more' discount as he used the perk more.. you would be wasting the perk - as you do not go often. .

I would say one for you and one for your brother. You suck it up .

YABVU expecting 2 tickets while your brother gets none!! You should thank your lucky stars that you're fortunate enough to have had 5 good years and still will only pay for your child going forward.

My friend used to work at Dominos and we'd get free pizza any night she was working. To think how happy we were with that and then you coming on here moaning about your brother actually makes me laugh at how spoiled you are.

A lot of what is possible is airline dependent, but many do allow switching of staff travel nominees on a regular (e.g. annual basis)

Can’t you keep 1 spot and pay for your Childs tickets when you travel.

I see that been suggested a few times but (and yet again it depends on the airline and beyond that also the type of ticket) it might not be the best plan if the discounted ticket is a standby one. Being on staff travel can also lead to very little/nil seat choice, certainly for the individual on the discounted ticket.

Is that you, Taylor?
Wow, that's some level of perceived entitlement!

I think it's a space (like a name on a list or given a discount card or something) rather than just one flight per person per year. So the 5 named people can get as many discounted flights as they want per year. So an even better deal!

So there would be no need for girlfriend to have 2 spaces, pilot brother would presumably travel for free or have his own separate discount on any holiday they went on together, she would only need 1 spot to accompany him.

Leaving 4 other spots to be divided between 5 people (mum, dad, brother, op, ops dc). As most people have said fairest way is for the first 4 to get the spots and op pay for her DC, in the same way as anyone going on holiday with other brother would pay for themselves.

I think if I were your brother, I would be equally fair to the lot of you, and none of you would get one.

I am sure there are many single parents who would have loved even one free flight for them and their child.
You have been incredibly fortunate, yet still expect the same...

Can you explain why you think it’s your family’s job to subsidise your life choices?

Go NC with all your family. Better off without them.