Who should be denied cheap flight set up?

[Wayda]

My younger brother is a pilot. For 5+ years I have been lucky enough to get access to very discounted cheap flights. Appreciate that. Has helped my child and I experience many things we simply would not be able to otherwise (single mum). My brother recently mentioned that I along with our other brother need to figure out who will keep the cheap flights. Pilot brother has 5 spots which he can divvy out. He has recently become serious with a girlfriend who he wants to give the discount to.

My brother (not the pilot) is on a far higher salary than me and does not have kids. Yes, he travels more than me but that is due to him having the time to do so. This brother also loaned my younger brother some money to live off whilst training so I think feels entitled to the discounts. He probably earns £80k. Anyway, when we met at the weekend he told me “you had a good run”! The cheek! Assuming I should give up my spot.

Parents witnessed this and did not say anything about their spots. If I were them I would try and help out a single mother. I know it may seem entitled but I’m more hurt by the lack of consideration.

AIBU?

I’m a pilot, and the benefit of Staff Travel is mine to use, mine to share and mine to allocate to whoever I want to. My family have, on occasion, suggested that they decide among themselves who gets to have access to it. This is not going to happen - world war 3 would break out among them all clamouring that they are the more worthy recipients, as has seemingly happened in this case. I can use my Staff Travel in various ways, and have always made a huge effort to get the best seats and prices for any of my family members who have asked me to help with flights. They’ve travelled the world, often in First Class paying effectively a handful of pounds for flights that would cost thousands if they bought them the normal way. If any relative of mine was as ungrateful for the years of cheap flights they’d had as a result of the work I do (it is not a freebie, it is a perk I earn by virtue of doing my job) they would be off the list and not going back on.

I’m a pilot, and the benefit of Staff Travel is mine to use, mine to share and mine to allocate to whoever I want to.

Pick me. Pick me. PICK ME 🙋

Personally I think that you are being very entitled and selfish. Surely it was your choice to have children and your brother’s not too? I can’t stand the but I’m a single parent attitude!

🍿 wonder if the girlfriend has any siblings…

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Get in line @CharlotteBog
I’M A SINGLE PARENT!!!!

This is so true and also so depressing

I thought the solution was alternating too, but apparently the OP wants 2 tickets. So alternating means OP gets 1 ticket in year 1 and 2 in year 2, whereas other brother gets 1 in year 2 and zero in year 2. Where's the fairness in that???

You’re acting very entitled! For 5 years you’ve had cheap flights and now you’re whining because your brother is quite rightly saying you’ve had plenty. Save up like everyone else for flights or holidays and stop acting like a spoiled brat.

My DB is a pilot and not one member of our family would expect him to offer cheap flights. He does, but that’s not the point. Simply because family members get perks in whatever career they’ve chosen doesn’t automatically entitle other family members a share of those perks.

Yep YABU. Just because brother doesn't have kids doesn't mean he should miss out on the discount. The fair thing is you now get 1 discounted fare.

You sound entitled. It’s not your brothers fault you had a kid and are a single mum.
Hes entitled to some discounts just as much as you.
Hes also helping out his brother.

You don't have to let him railroad you. Tell him you don't agree and want the tickets. It sounds like you might be a doormat who lets people walk all over her, you should stand up to your brother instead of whining on mumsnet.

spend a lot of time out of the house to provide for my child and those cheap holidays are precious as they allow us to reconnect.

I am also a lone parent working full time.
You do not need holidays (cheap, free or otherwise) to reconnect.

@Wayda

When you say 'railroaded' do you mean you've told Pilot Brother (PB) to give the seat to Other Brother (OB) because OB has pressured you? Because that's what railroaded means, forcing someone to do something. Or did OB just announce that he's having the seat with no discussion, because that's not 'railroading'.

Either way, you need to tell PB that you and OB are (apparently) unable to reach a compromise as both of you want the seats. It's up to PB at that point to either make the decision himself or say that if the two of you can't compromise then neither of you are having them. Which is probably what I'd do if I were PB. Two people squabbling over my generous gesture would make me want to cancel the offer.

Other PP are right though, if OB & your parents helped PB financially to enable him to become a pilot then they should have first dibs. He wouldn't be in the job that allows the free flights if they hadn't helped them.

Being a single parent is tough, no doubt. But it doesn't give you privileges above others simply because you're a single parent. At least, not in this case.

Well then you should have one and your brother should have one and you pay full price for your child, surely.

You all sound as entitled as fuck
Get a better job or holiday local/ that's what most people who can't afford to fly on holiday do

Errrmmm.....I'm a LONE parent!

God, I can't believe I have stooped so low as to play 'hardest life' Top Trumps. This is what greed and jealousy does to you!

@Testina you can go ahead of me, I've booked my holiday for this year.

Eyes rolling so hard they become inbedded into my skull.

You brothers finances, marital status, lack of children etc is absolutely irrelevant.

There is only 1 CF in this entire scenario- I'll let you guess who that is 🤔

Have you considered working on your career so you can earn £80k too? Rather than asking for everything on a plate.

It’s all memenememememememe because I have a child.

Maybe other brother can get a gf and take both tickets 😂😂

I reckon pilot brother expected you to be graceful and offer up one ticket as a show of being a decent human being. But you’ve shown or are about to that your just a grabby user.

Don't think this is going the way OP wants.....deletion message in 3......2......1
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How old are you and how old is your child?

Op has concerns about their privacy so we are pulling the thread

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