Who should be denied cheap flight set up?

[Wayda]

My younger brother is a pilot. For 5+ years I have been lucky enough to get access to very discounted cheap flights. Appreciate that. Has helped my child and I experience many things we simply would not be able to otherwise (single mum). My brother recently mentioned that I along with our other brother need to figure out who will keep the cheap flights. Pilot brother has 5 spots which he can divvy out. He has recently become serious with a girlfriend who he wants to give the discount to.

My brother (not the pilot) is on a far higher salary than me and does not have kids. Yes, he travels more than me but that is due to him having the time to do so. This brother also loaned my younger brother some money to live off whilst training so I think feels entitled to the discounts. He probably earns £80k. Anyway, when we met at the weekend he told me “you had a good run”! The cheek! Assuming I should give up my spot.

Parents witnessed this and did not say anything about their spots. If I were them I would try and help out a single mother. I know it may seem entitled but I’m more hurt by the lack of consideration.

AIBU?

@SD1978

To avoid any offense that reply to you should have been an “ignore my post”, not an “ignore” you…long story but having a tech nightmare ATM, hopefully MNHQ will along to tidy things up shortly.

The brother has been benefiting the whole time. Now someone has to give up a spot for pilot brother’s gf, and older brother has unilaterally decided it should be OP.

I know the older brother has no kids. He had one spot. OP had one spot. OP’s child (pilot bro’s nephew) had one spot.

It’s not that complicated.

I think the famous MN lack of reading comprehension strikes again.

OP has one spot. Her child has one spot. Older brother has one spot.

It’s not a case of OP being asked to give older brother a turn, and refusing.

Older brother has had a spot all these years too.

Could you're NP Brother have the discount and then do a name change on the ticket to your DC? 🤔

@notimagain- no offence taken! Or should I suddenly develop faux upset and have a tantrum......🤣

You sound so entitled. It's embarrassing.

good way to get the pilot in a whole heap of shit and benefits removed. Very very frowned upon

the brothers right ops household has has a good running getting two tickets to use purely on the basis of being a sibling no other reason.

OP will still get millions more replies saying it's his turn 🙄

Or OP's DC. She as a sibling has two spots, her brother has one. .

Paying for one ticket instead of two is a big saving.

Wonder if OP gets married if she'll expect her partner to have a spot too.

The spot is a bonus from Pilot brother to his immediate family. It has nothing to do with jobs, status, wealth etc.

It's like getting a free ticket to any other experience like Wimbledon or Formula One. The money you'd have spent on it goes towards something else, but most people wouldn't have had that money to spend anyway so are grateful.

Mind budgeting the brother's finances is grabby.

She has one spot. A person can only have one.

The older brother will continue to pay for no tickets instead of one. Why isn’t it him who’s grabby?

He helped pay for brother to learn. Vs “I’m a single mum” which one actually sounds more grabby then.

I helped pay and aprciate the benefit in return

vs

im a single mum and want both tickets. Its unfair for me to not have both. Just one isn’t acceptable, and five years worth of both isn’t enough either.

Because he has no kids. If he had a child or even two kids, it would be grabby of him to expect the spots for them to be a given.

5 years of free travel for both her and her DC. If one can't bring themselves to be grateful for that, then it is grabby.

This was my immediate thought, ok some one of you have to give up your spot and neither of you are more entitled to it than the other so why is the non flying brother just assuming that he will get to keep it and it’s you who should give it up?! I also work in this industry, we can swap who has our slots every 3 months, so I think you and your brother should just alternate, there must be this option I’m sure.

Not sure if it makes any difference to the argument but FWIW the OP said the deal was discounted tickets, not free…generally across the industry you at the very least pay the taxes due, and often quite a bit more on top.

You sound spoilt and entitled. You've has really cheap holidays. Now your miffed because it's gone. Get a grip.

Yeah? Is that why she's miffed?

So nothing to do with the other brother who gets the freebie deciding for them.
The brother who travels lots anyway and earns £80k.

Yeah it's just cos she's grabby clearly 🙄

I think that before long pilot brother’s girlfriend will want those spots for her family so that’s even more people to compete with.

As the OP said This brother also loaned my younger brother some money to live off whilst training so I think feels entitled to the discounts.

Just speculating a bit here but if it wasn’t simply “some money” to live off but it was actually a wedge of cash or help with loans to fund training (and it that case you’re looking at well over 50-60k, sometimes in extremis up to 100k) just maybe that might explain why the high earning brother feels a slight entitlement to hang onto one of the discounted travel nominee slots.

Wait till they have their own kids too.
OP is going to have a fit.

@Tel12 what a ridiculous comment

I agree

If pilot brother is serious about his GF, it may lead to marriage and then kids. His free tickets will go to his wife and children. OP did indeed have a good run with the freebies, but she has to accept that sooner or later, those free tickets will be a thing of the past.