Who should be denied cheap flight set up?

[Wayda]

My younger brother is a pilot. For 5+ years I have been lucky enough to get access to very discounted cheap flights. Appreciate that. Has helped my child and I experience many things we simply would not be able to otherwise (single mum). My brother recently mentioned that I along with our other brother need to figure out who will keep the cheap flights. Pilot brother has 5 spots which he can divvy out. He has recently become serious with a girlfriend who he wants to give the discount to.

My brother (not the pilot) is on a far higher salary than me and does not have kids. Yes, he travels more than me but that is due to him having the time to do so. This brother also loaned my younger brother some money to live off whilst training so I think feels entitled to the discounts. He probably earns £80k. Anyway, when we met at the weekend he told me “you had a good run”! The cheek! Assuming I should give up my spot.

Parents witnessed this and did not say anything about their spots. If I were them I would try and help out a single mother. I know it may seem entitled but I’m more hurt by the lack of consideration.

AIBU?

But he's had as much of a turn! Why is it still his turn automatically?

Because the OP will still get to keep one discount? She wants to keep two. That’s just not fair. She can have one and her brother can have one… and she can pay for her own damn kid like every other single mum.

If your brother travels more than you, then perhaps he should keep the discount, and give you half of what he saves, or just subsidise your flights to the same degree (which might cost rather less than he's saving). That way, as a family, you get maximum value from the discount.

Probably cheaper than a holiday abroad for 2.

The GF, parents, you and your brother should all get the discount - you should pay for your daughter.

And how is the other brother not selfish for wanting to keep the discount for himself? These replies are wild! I just could never be so selfish. Seems most people on here don't really have any ties to other members of their wider family and would just grab whatever they could for themselves no matter the circumstances.

@Wayda is assuming it’s fair that she should have 2 discounted spots and her other brother should have none.

The compromise would be one each and the OP pays for her DC.

Not with discounted flights.

You should be appreciative of all the nice trips you’ve had up until now and maybe realised before this situation it would eventually come to an end. If I were him, I’d give up your two places to his partners family if they are getting serious, this way it doesn’t put him in an awkward situation choosing between two entitled siblings.

With staff travel there is no airline I know that would allow an adult and child to travel together but one on a commercial ticket and one on a staff ticket. Those saying take one spot are not understanding this is not an option.

The older brothers attitude is just as entitled though isn't it? He decided he's keeping his spot and that the OP 'had a good run' even though he also had a 'good run'.

She has said she wouldn't be able to afford that. So no point in her keeping one discount.

I just could never been that selfish. Saying it has to be 'fair' 'one each' is just so childish. In adult life things are more nuanced.

And 'she can pay for her own damn kid like every other single mum' - the classic. Because I don't have it, why should you? More playground stuff.

Parents get a spot each. One for each sibling. One for pilot’s girlfriend. I can’t see why they would be split any other way!

The older brother has demonstrated an entitled attitude which has upset his sister.

Crazy that people are saying she is entitled!!

Can you really not see? You can't imagine one sibling saying 'You know what, I'll still get to have multiple trips a year without the discount but I know my sister and her child won't be able to afford their one trip a year without it, so take me off.'

I can't see how anything other than one each is fair.

Then she’ll have to budget, won’t she.

There are two available, so her and her brother can have one each.

She grew up in the same house as them with the same opportunities. They are both successful and without kids. She is low paid and had a kid. She made her own choices, they made theirs. She isn’t more entitled. They get one each.

This.

Irrelevant but I’m curious - if your older brother is late 20s, and your younger brother has been a pilot for 5 years, what age do they qualify? I have to admit to being slightly terrified of being in a plane flown by someone in their early 20s for some reason

I've not had any nice trips, unfortunately!

You seem very entitled as a family.

If I were your brother, I'd be taking away all of your spots.

Firstly, you have no idea of her situation and how much of it was choice.

But you're missing the point.

I could never be so selfish. I could never be so childish. That the brother has been like that I find astounding. And that people think that is fine!

It's not about whether the OP is 'entitled' it's the behaviour of the other brother is so selfish.

Give up your child's spot and go on fewer or cheaper holidays.

He's worked to get himself into a good position, why should he be punished for it?

How is he being 'punished'?! Graciously passing on a benefit to your niece/nephew is not punishment in my book!