Dm took all the food for my kids!

[Littlechesnuttree]

Newly single mum here hi!

dm visited this weekend to ‘help’ largely consisted of me running errands for her and bringing cups of tea.

here’s the thing, she brought her dog who she only feeds meat (she won’t listen) so steak, chicken, mince etc.

i went to the butcher on the weekend and bought our meat for the month, steaks, whole chickens, lamb leg, chicken breast, meat and even duck breast.

all in all £80 or more likely. Had them in fridge before I could sort and put in freezer.

i had a kids bday party so was getting kids ready whilst dm was packing up.

go to the fridge this morning and it’s all gone… all the meat.

she thought I bought it for her dog. So now not only got to do a freezer tea for the kids but ive got to rebuy it all.

dm didn’t offer to replace and lives too far away to return.

aibu to think this is barmy behaviour? You check before you clean out someone’s fridge

I'm sorry it's come to this mum, but I don't want to see you again. You're literally stealing food from my children and I and I cant respect anyone who'd do that to us. You didn't help, you sat around drinking tea and looked after your grandchildren for one afternoon, most grandparents do that because they want to, not as a paid position. Keep the £80 as payment and have a good life.

Can't believe a mother does this. Yanbu op, that's truly disgusting. She knows you're a single mother too!
My dm comes armed with loads of stuff, treats, food, thoughtful gifts for all of us when she visits. I can't imagine her doing this, all for a dog.
I would tell her that she has to refund you, or she isn't visiting again!

She knows she's in the wrong because she keeps changing her story. What sort of person steals the food from their grandchildren?!

Don't invite her again. Hopefully she doesnt have your door key!

She must surely have form for this sort of behaviour OP? Nobody suddenly becomes like this overnight unless there's something majorly wrong with them.

Who is more important your kids or your mum? Just ask her to transfer you the money.

This was not a mistake. She stole from you. She knew what she was doing.

Tell her that if she thinks you owe her £80 for babysitting her own grandchildren for an afternoon ( which she did badly by the way) she need not bother visit or help again .

i would make the point of cancelling her next visit. She is a thieving old bitch.

You're being unreasonable for buying your kids that crap

She’s not done anything this batshit before but she’s very me me me

What crap? It's fresh meat.

Christ, with a Mother like that who needs enemies.

by crap you mean meat from a butcher? Is this like the whole chilli and celery is junk food Mn nonsense?

You can always rely on the MN food nutters to come along and miss the point

How dare you ruin your children's lives by buying fresh meat OP?

Oh and she doesn’t have dementia

How can you be sure, it could be the early stages 😂

Well to the best of my knowledge she doesn’t and she loves to tell you in depth about any perceived ailment and is prone to exaggeration in that regard, so if it was mentioned im pretty confident I’d have heard about it

I’d just send her a message and say you can’t afford to replace it or feed the children now, so here are your bank details and to transfer because she will have the money in her account since she didn’t need to spend anything on her dog.

This is absolutely bonkers!

So your mother asked you to get 2 steaks for her dog, you purchased two steaks as asked alongside your own meat and went out of the way to specifically label the steaks she asked for as being ‘for the dog’ so she knew which ones to take and somehow from that she’s miraculously concluded that all the meat is for the dog! Bullshit, that or shes thick as shit.

Given it was fresh meat you’d expect it not to be loaded into the car until ready to go / leaving so the fact that she’s smuggled it past you indicates she was possibly trying to hide it. If she was unsure it’s literally a two second question - is all of this meat for the dog? No mum, just the steak! It’s really not difficult to comprehend.

Saying she’ll replace it in a month doesn’t help you out right now, I can’t understand why she wouldn’t just apologise and pay you to replace it. Then saying she assumed it was payment, see question above, two seconds to clarify, you don’t just wipe out someones entire fridge on an assumption! It doesn’t sound like a genuine mistake to me and she doesn’t sound at all remorseful.

I would be fuming! And I wouldn’t be having her round again anytime soon, sounds to me like not having her over would have been less hassle given you spent the time she was supposedly there to help running her errands.

Wtf 😂

I think I'd just say pay me the money for the meat or don't bother coming next time.

Then if / when she pays I would not bloody see her anyway!

She's just charged you for coming - £80!

WhatsApp a fucking arseholr she is

I'm so sorry, OP, this must be extra horrible and at a time when it sounds like you mightve recently left a shit partner? A shit parent is no replacement.
And I don't want to upset you being rude about your mum, presuming you love her, but that was an epically shitty thing she did. And is persisting with.
My own mum is batshit in ways but not selfish and uncaring like this. This is horrible.

I can't express how enraged this thread has made me. I would never let in in my door again . She sounds like an absolute nutter . Spending that kind of money on a dog ?? That's the first sign she is not right . Then stealing food from her own child's fridge and not paying it back . I'd not let this go

I would tell her to not come over again. She's a horrible horrible person and a shit excuse for a mother.

I feel really sorry for you OP. You just need to be strong and carry on. You can do it. You don't need people like her around.

Yeah my husband has been gone for 2 week now. So it’s very new. I don’t really have the bandwidth for more drama. That’s why I’m so pissd off because I was trying to keep afloat. Meal prep and freeze so after school they could have a dinner ready quick, or quick fry steaks and chips as a treat. But now that dog gets it all.

she’ll give the money eventually it’s just the drama and inconvenience in between