Colleague has sent me a dick pic

[Iambetteroffsingle]

Well not a completely full-frontal one, he is clothed on it but it's a picture of his 'hard-on'. (Sorry this is TMI)

I vaguely knew of him before and we went on a team-building weekend activity as a group. Got on well, stayed in touch a bit over the last week via text, just talking about work and holidays mainly.
There's been no flirting or innuendos of any sort, then I opened my phone to this.
The man is 41 FFS.
He's put a caption in the picture talking about his 'tan' but I'm not stupid, I know what a lot of men are like.

If this were out of work I'd block straightaway, but I feel so awkward with working together. We aren't in the same team but have mutual friends. I just don't know what to do.

I was slightly interested before and would've been open to a date or something similar but this has shown me what he thinks of me.

You don’t need to feel you shouldn’t go to events. He needs sacking. How awful to intimidate you. He’s scum.

If he has clothes on how can it be a dick pic?

Come off it with the faux naivety.

@Iambetteroffsingle why on earth are you worrying about drinks nights? If this has bothers you do something about it. If you don't want to then don't.

@Iambetteroffsingle I don't understand how he's drawn refernce to his "tan" if he's wearing trousers?

Don't send the laughing emoji!

Those saying report to HR need to understand it isnt a simple email and there you go. Most big places have lengthy (pardon the pun) procedures for what would probably start as a disciplinary procedure. There'd be interviews, statements and a big old investigation. They'd go over the previous texts (but would have no right to see any of them) OP would also have to state the effect it had, and what outcome she wanted. Of course the chap himself would give his side of the story. Porking the payroll as it's known is difficult and a minefield for HR. Im no expert but the fact he was fully clothed is in his favour and I sincerely doubt a sacking would ensue unless the OP was genuinely traumatised and off on the sick, which i dont think is the case.

A naked pic would have probably been a different matter.

Report the dick.

Not mine but I once saw this and I would totally do it (maybe doesn't work so well as it's not naked)

"If it’s unsolicited copy and paste this (I have it saved in my notes):
AUTOREPLY: We have detected the transmission of unsolicited pornographic images of a potentially illegal nature [code:36489-a] and your device's IP address has been forwarded to the police department pending an investigation. If you think this is a mistake, reply 'STOP' to talk to an operator." — bigbootyjr22
"Then every time he says stop you say [error]." — dragonslayer694296

Screenshot and report to HR

Why?

He is the one who should feel awkward.

Do you have a work team chat - could you ‘accidentally’ send it there ? So everyone can see what a scumbag he is.

then delete like 10’mins later with ‘oh Tom prob didn’t want me to share that - sorry’.

But report to HR if you have one. Why should he get away with it?

Do not do this.

Please report him.

It's sexual harassment and is illegal.

Totally agree with this.

Are you the sender

As an employer, he has jepordised his career. You would be covering for a sex pest.
I completely understand you might choose not to report, but his career should not weigh in that decision.

OP certainly should not be forwarding it to other colleagues!

this makes me so fucking angry.

Yet again, a fucking man making a woman feel uncomfortable.

He's assuming you're not going to say anything and he'll get away with it, again.

But it isn't a 13 yo is it .

OP is an adult which still doesn't make it right but it is not the same thing .

It's like "Would it be ok for a F31yo to date a M41yo" ? Yeah they;re both adults .
Would it be okay for a F13yo to date a M23yo "? Hell no .

Ewww report him

Take a screenshot, then block him. That will stop him being able to send more if nothing else. Then on Monday morning, you go to your line manager or HR and ask for a private conversation and just show them.

He could be doing this to much younger women as well. This is not your fault, you haven't encouraged it and he's a creep at best. So do something about it and report him. Then it's not on your shoulders to deal with.

They are developmentally at different stages

He is wearing 'short shorts' and the photo is close up on his knob.
Honestly, I just don't want all the hassle, don't know if I'll get a rep as a troublemaker, it would cause division at work and so on. I'm just worried.

I can't believe that grown women are suggesting such ridiculous ideas on this thread. This isn't about not remotely witty responses to the photo. It's about making sure that OP responds calmly and professionally, because if any action is taken, she needs to be squeaky clean and not seen to be playing games.

Please report him to HR.

There is no way this is acceptable behaviour. Any other response he'll class as "banter" and he'll carry on.

Being a child means you do not have the capacity to consent. Being an adult means you are entitled to choose whether to consent or not. The OP did not.