To be angry husband forgot car seat for the 10+ time

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I’m not really the kind of person to blow things out of proportion because life has dealt my family some tough blows and I feel like I have a balanced perspective generally on life and what to get stressed about.

HOWEVER I feel soooo angry because for what must be at least the 10th time since we had our 3.5 year old my husband has gone to work with one of the car seats in his car so when I came to leave this afternoon to go somewhere I couldn’t actually go because the car seat wasn’t in the car. It was transferred into his car last night because on a weds eve we meet at our son’s activity and he takes one car seat home with him with our other child in it. It sounds complicated but I’m so mad I can’t explain this properly!

AIBU to be enraged that he’s forgotten to transfer it back to my car this morning? I don’t understand how it’s possible to forget the same thing that many times!

Maybe you need a car seat for each car do it's no longer an issue?

Surely you’re both equally responsible for making sure they are in the right place? Or if you can just buy one for each car?

Being pretty brutal...you can afford 2 cars ..get a second car seat?

That is really annoying but surely at this point you just buy another one and keep one in each car?

That would really annoy me. I'd be taking it out myself immediately after the Wednesday activity.

Remembering anything in the morning rush is always extra stress. I'd either sort it on Wednesday evening or better yet buy another car seat and keep one in each car.

It's easy enough to forget in the morning rush. I'd make sure that the car seat set up is correct the previous evening, so no one had to be shifting car seats around in the morning. Or buy a car seat for the other car.

This is why we had seats in both cars, plus different seats suited each car better.

Can you get a second car seat?
It saves this sort of thing happening.

This. If child is 3.5 get a spare hbb

Personally I think it's the job of the person that needs the car seat to make sure they have the car seat.

Yes at 3.5 I would just buy a high back booster now that stays in that car for the once a week it’s used

Second carseat is your friend!

You also can take the car seat for the 10+ time can't you?

Man I really thought I was right about this one! Thanks for the replies, second car seat it is. I shall humbly accept my fault in the matter and proceed to not give my husband an earful 😂

Mine has done this though only once. I nearly did it yesterday but noticed straight away. Agree it should be sorted Wednesday evening so not forgotten in morning rush but don't see why it should be your job just because he always forgets. Mine can be forgetful so I end up doing way more than my share and am exhausted. Ask him to be responsible for bringing it in on a Wednesday when he gets home

We bought a second seat of car seats when we bought a second car for DH’s commute. I could probably count on 1 hand the number of times DC have been in that car but it was worth every penny knowing there’s no fuss transferring car seats or if DH unexpectedly needs to pick up/drop off, he’s always got seats for them.

No matter how easy this is to fix it is annoying that he has frequently forgotten something that affects your day so much, it's almost as if he doesn't regard you at all which is a shame.

Very annoying but wouldnt it make sense to bring it in the evening before rather than him faffing around in the morning on the way to work?

In a morning before work I can see why it's been forgotten. I wouldn't be mad at this but I'd be finding a solution like another car seat

I constantly forget take things out or put it into my car. Or forget something at home when going out. Or forget something in the work fridge. How can he forget something in the morning? Quite easily, I imagine. Like the rest of us, we just get out of the house and go to work and then realise we forgot our lanyard at home, or something... Are you telling me you have never done that?

Or just share both cars and one is for the child free person and the other is for the person with the child

Annoying for sure, but a joint responsibility.

definitely get one for each car - there are times when you might need it unexpectedly or in an emergency etc.

We had this twice, so we bought more car seats! Dh ones are rarely used as my car is bigger but it's well worth the knowledge that it doesn't matter. Also we thought what happens if one of us had to do an emergency pick up or hospital run and the other one had the car seats

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