To be angry husband forgot car seat for the 10+ time

[Dodgeballllll]

I’m not really the kind of person to blow things out of proportion because life has dealt my family some tough blows and I feel like I have a balanced perspective generally on life and what to get stressed about.

HOWEVER I feel soooo angry because for what must be at least the 10th time since we had our 3.5 year old my husband has gone to work with one of the car seats in his car so when I came to leave this afternoon to go somewhere I couldn’t actually go because the car seat wasn’t in the car. It was transferred into his car last night because on a weds eve we meet at our son’s activity and he takes one car seat home with him with our other child in it. It sounds complicated but I’m so mad I can’t explain this properly!

AIBU to be enraged that he’s forgotten to transfer it back to my car this morning? I don’t understand how it’s possible to forget the same thing that many times!

So the kid?

Get another car seat or remove it from his car yourself? You can’t possibly think he’s done wrong when your perfectly capable of doing it yourself.

get another car seat.

Buy another car seat.

Urgh feel sorry for these older kids rear facing - have always had terrible motion sickness sitting facing the wrong way would be hell! Can’t even do that on a train.

My husband has done this many, many times. I've ended up buying a second car seat for £30 on Black Friday sale that lives in his car only, as toddler is rarely in his car. I got too enraged.

Husband also has a habit of picking up my keys meaning to give them to me before he leaves and then driving to work with them in his pocket (he's also done this with my phone). The rage I feel.

Ha same - sitting forward facing in the back of the car is bad enough 🤢

All kids families I know including ourselves have car seats in all cars so no problem

The responsibility belongs to both of you but with kids in the morning it’s easy to forget something. I forgot my work keys yesterday! The easiest solution is two car seats. We actually need one on each car for DD as DH drops her at the childminders on his way to work and I pick both kids up from her after work. DS we could get away with one as they alway walk to school as it’s a short walk so DH doesn’t need one for him in the morning but it just easier to have two. If there is an emergency and the kids needed collecting from school/childminder it wouldn’t always be me or DH who would go; whoever answered their phone first would probably go as we both have jobs where you can’t always easily just drop everything and leave. So we both need a seat for each DC in our car.

Depending on what kind you go for at 3.5 £50-£200 to save all this hassle and the seat will last until they don’t need one anymore. We got DS’s last seat when he was 3.5 and it will last until he’s 12/doesn’t need a seat anymore. As they get older they’ll probably be more ‘well you take DC1 to football and I’ll take DC2 to gymnastics’ so in the long run it will save you lots of hassle.

We are grandparents yet we have a car seat in both our cars. Makes sense.

We used to have car seats in both cars. Just makes life easier.

Oh well I’ve learned I’m a bitch from this thread but I made dh drive home and bring me the car seat the one time he did this. He worked an hour away. Like I said, he didn’t do it again. (Dd had a hospital appointment so not driving her wasn’t an option). She’s 16 now and he’s still with me.

Is the irritation really about the car seat, or is it about you husband not thinking about anything but his own life?

You could probably just have the chat around look I was super annoyed/inconvenienced this morning. It’s probably best we get a longer term solution let’s get a second car seat. Then send him to get it with the wee ones in tow and take a bath 😂

YABU to not just buy another seat and save the hassle! We have a seat in both cars as you just never know when something unexpected may crop up and the other parent needs to collect from school etc

As a short arse adult I can tell you dangling legs with no where to rest them is a hell of a lot more uncomfortable than sitting crossed legged which most RF older kids do. It's downright painful. That's without the safety aspect, but keep making excuses for your poor choices, it's your kids safety at the end of the day.

They don't dangle, they have foot rests in my car. Same as when we go on a plane. Its not poor choices either, perfectly legal and safe to be forward facing at these sort of ages. You do you though hun.

Don't think of this as a loss.
It is a win, you will never have car seat rage again.
The new seat will solve it for under £100.

Common sense op- get 2. You could also forget at times. Why look for reasons to get angry when you can just not?

I’d be fuming. But I’d also have bought a second car seat after the third time. I know they’re expensive but you can’t put a price on your own sanity 🫣

Yes, you need a full set of car seats for each car.

My DD is taken out by a relative once or twice a month.

I just brought the relative a car seat after I had a conversation and realised that there are other little children that they go out with.

My DD only started throwing up when she was turned forward.