To be angry husband forgot car seat for the 10+ time

[Dodgeballllll]

I’m not really the kind of person to blow things out of proportion because life has dealt my family some tough blows and I feel like I have a balanced perspective generally on life and what to get stressed about.

HOWEVER I feel soooo angry because for what must be at least the 10th time since we had our 3.5 year old my husband has gone to work with one of the car seats in his car so when I came to leave this afternoon to go somewhere I couldn’t actually go because the car seat wasn’t in the car. It was transferred into his car last night because on a weds eve we meet at our son’s activity and he takes one car seat home with him with our other child in it. It sounds complicated but I’m so mad I can’t explain this properly!

AIBU to be enraged that he’s forgotten to transfer it back to my car this morning? I don’t understand how it’s possible to forget the same thing that many times!

We have 2 car seats in each car so we don't forget, because we would, and then it'd be a mini argument. I don't think you're wrong to be frustrated at all but getting the extra is my advice to you xx

Car seat per car then. This way you have one less thing to think about

I think this is an easy mistake to make as well but I'm not a morning person at the best of times. I would factor this into your joint night before planning. Make a list of what you need to do the night before to be ready for the next day and add this to it so it's got a daily reminder and is happening when noone is in a rush to get out the door. Then just divvy up the list of what needs done so you can both sit down in the evening and know it's all ready.

This is solution, swap cars on a Wednesday evening instead of moving the carseat

Erm, buy another seat so there’s enough in each car? Also, you want the car seat the next day, why is it not your responsibility to remind/ask him if he’s put it back… this sounds like a joint issue that you don’t want to have any responsibility for. Your car seat, your job to make sure it’s where you need it to be… otherwise you’re walking. Give him a break, if you can’t remember to ask him if he’s put it back when you’re the one who’s going to be inconvenienced, how can you expect him to remember?

Not sure about this, as OP presumably forgot too? (Speaking with a vested interest as an absent-minded person haha)

Wow so many replies!

I don’t know why I’m admitting this because it’s pathetic of us…… but it happened again today. I went out to the car with the kids and the car seat wasn’t there because it was still in my husband’s car 🤦‍♀️

Suffice to say this evening we are ordering a car seat that will stay in his car!

Definitely Op I'd go for a multi stage seat. Life is stressful enough without extra worries about stuff.