To be angry husband forgot car seat for the 10+ time

[Dodgeballllll]

I’m not really the kind of person to blow things out of proportion because life has dealt my family some tough blows and I feel like I have a balanced perspective generally on life and what to get stressed about.

HOWEVER I feel soooo angry because for what must be at least the 10th time since we had our 3.5 year old my husband has gone to work with one of the car seats in his car so when I came to leave this afternoon to go somewhere I couldn’t actually go because the car seat wasn’t in the car. It was transferred into his car last night because on a weds eve we meet at our son’s activity and he takes one car seat home with him with our other child in it. It sounds complicated but I’m so mad I can’t explain this properly!

AIBU to be enraged that he’s forgotten to transfer it back to my car this morning? I don’t understand how it’s possible to forget the same thing that many times!

Why would their legs dangle?

Car seats in each car are definitely the way forward. We actually have a car seat for DD2 in both mine and DH’s cars and both of my parents’ cars. She’s in them both regularly enough.

In the mean time, set a reminder on your phone to remember to sort the car seats out. Don’t leave it until the morning stress.

Yeah.. we each have a car seat - Joie 360 that is amazing

I couldn't be annoyed with swapping about, fuck that

If you can afford it get another seat - it saves so much hassle

I mean forgetting happens.

but investing in another car seat is cheaper than divorce! Lol. But seriously. Just get another car seat.

And this isn’t on you. He is the forgetting one. He should have been bringing up a solution.

Second car seat.
Its easily forgotten.

Agree it’s best to get another car seat. This is a joint responsibility and should be figured out right after you get your child out of the car, not the next morning.

As others have suggested, one for each car avoids this situation. Xx

You totally need two car seats. You'll have years of use out of both

Yay!

Thank you and congratulations for being the first OP I have read that has accepted they were wrong, and not drip fed, argued, explained why they were right or flounced off.

👏🏻👏🏻

Just get a second hand car seat. Edit - just seen your further post OP. Glad it’s sorted

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This. Everyone had their own carseats or you risk them not being fitted properly if they are being moved constantly.

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Sorry OP if you need the car seat I think it's your responsibility to check you have it. 2 car seats will make it a lot easier

I had two car seats for mine. Incase I needed to take another child in the car or give one to someone temporarily e.g. friend picking up daughter from nursery. I also gave my parents a car seat to keep at theirs. Couldn't be faffing around moving one car seat between cars all the time.

How is it his responsibility to make sure YOU have what YOU need in YOUR car?

With you on this OP
it’s not just about the car seat - it’s more about you having to take on yet another responsibility on top of everything else. Mums generally take on all the mental burden of everything! So here’s yet another example of dad not helping.

but it doesn’t sound like a second car seat would be helpful

As it’s in HIS car! When you loan something to a friend is it your responsibility to go and collect it. No it’s their responsibility to return it.

Surely a parent doesn’t “loan” another parent anything required for their children?

You’ve completely missed my point, no doubt intentionally. The seat was in HIS car therefore why should she be responsible for moving it. I can only assume you enjoy having a man child you need to do everything for as well.

Why do you assume everyone is straight?

Also, why would you attribute such to a complete stranger? Shit, that’s really dire to go around thinking everyone is intentionally missing your point based on one interaction. You spoiling?

It's your responsibility as much as his. If you knew that you'd need it, you transfer it.

Yes it’s frustrating. It also has a really simple solution - buy a second seat and have one in each car. My husband and I did this very quickly once he started to drop our son to nursery and I had to pick up, even though we worked in the same place our cars would be in public car parks so it was a pain. A second seat saves all the drama and means you always have a seat when you want it