16 year old son ignored my birthday

[Em2024]

AIBU - my 16 year old son completely ignored my birthday - no card, no present not even a happy birthday Mum! I shouted at him and told him he was horrible because I do absolutely everything for him and he said I shouldn’t speak to a child like that! I feel so upset that I have raised a child who can be so horrible. What do I do?

Well I guess his allowance has been stopped. Anything I had bought i.e. XBox or similar would be confiscated. Let him realise who does everything. 16 ain't no child. Wouldn't do his washing or dinner. Selfish entitled teenager.

Can we all take a moment to to remember that the ADULT in this issue yelled at the CHILD and called him horrible....... and judging by how dismissive she is about her CHILD pointing out that she shouldn't be talking to him that way proves that the ADULT doesn't seem to think that communicating in this manner is a problem.
Just something to ponder........

Apologise for calling him horrible and emphasise that that behaviour is unkind. Tell him that's what you meant.
Then tell him you expect some acknowledgement of your birthday.
He can do lunch or dinner or you can go for a walk together, watch a film of your choice with him making you a cuppa.
Or he can make you a card.
Tell him that what you would appreciate is an acknowledgement of your birthday as this is what you do for him.
It is a learning curve for him to have to do this without any adult telling him.
Birthday wishes and I'm sure you can still do something with him that you both enjoy

I'm sorry OP it dosent sound like you had a good birthday......your son is no longer a child GCSEs or not and even if he didn't remember your birthday, cards on the mantle or windowsill should of propted a happy birthday at the very least when he got home from school.
Regardless if 16 year old live in their own world, I can certainly assure you that when his birthday comes round he wouldn't like for you to ignore it was his birthday.

I think shouting at him was probably just out of hurt more then anything else, so you could of handled your hurt a little better but you have ever right to be hurt and upset.

Put him on ebay