Husband to not attend nursery graduation?

[AleenaM]

Nursery graduation at the end of the month and summer party right after, but husband says he has a sports/hobby competition that day. Don't know if he's joking but even the suggestion annoys me.

AIBU to expect him to attend party? Child won't graduate again but I'm sure they'll be competitions again. He is just getting back into this sport and it's a regional competition, it's not like a once in a lifetime olympics or something ...

there's no way he "wouldn't care" if we hadn't attended. It really was a huge deal to him.
I don't think anyone's said it doesn't matter if "we" didn't attend. The argument was whether it required both parents and whether one parent should give up their hobby for it. To which I think they don't need to. Unless both parents had something on in which case one would need to compromise then the parent who already has plans doesn't need to be resented for keeping them.

Fair enough. I did say it was unlikely, but of course it's possible.
There are (very roughly) about 300 local authorities and about 10,000 nurseries, so OP would need to know over 100 different families across all those nurseries.

Well I’m very glad that every school I’ve worked at, every school and nursery my DCs attended and every school and nursery my friends’ DCs attended didn’t / don’t have fake graduation ceremonies. Why DDs first “graduation” was from university (she actually graduated TWICE - BA & MA). Everything else was simply the end of term, moving up a key stage or going to a new school - none of these things is a graduation!