Husband to not attend nursery graduation?

[AleenaM]

Nursery graduation at the end of the month and summer party right after, but husband says he has a sports/hobby competition that day. Don't know if he's joking but even the suggestion annoys me.

AIBU to expect him to attend party? Child won't graduate again but I'm sure they'll be competitions again. He is just getting back into this sport and it's a regional competition, it's not like a once in a lifetime olympics or something ...

How old is your child? A graduation is a ridiculous concept for a 4 year old in my opinion, but they’d be upset if one parent wasn’t there so that’s probably what we’d do.

It would be nice for him to want to show up but obviously it isn't important to him.

Graduation from Nursery? That's a new one for me.

Finishing nursery?....is that a big deal??
Wouldn't bother me to be honest

I wouldn't expect my husband to come with me even if he was at home all day tbh. It's hardly a significant life event imo.

I can't believe there's now a ceremony for children leaving nursery.

YABU. All these "graduations" are nonsensical. It's not like your child has obtained a degree.

A what now?

I absolutely resent having to go to my son's nursery graduation. It's made up non event. (I am a loving parent I promise)

I think one of you should go though or a grandparent, aunty or uncle.

I bet it's his turn to go though. If it is, he should go.

Omg is this a thing now? My husband would have laughed at the idea of attending! And I'd think the nursery was nuts doing this sort of thing. Ditto Y6.

Graduation from nursery? Wtf?

OK, I am aware that this is not the answer you are looking for, but as the subject comes up.

I am from the generation where a Graduation ceremony was very very special, as it rewarded 17 years of hard study. And yes, old foggy me, I do think nursery graduation are just, well, just another thing we have adopted from 'Murica, with baby showers, etc. Apologies in advance for saying this. Coat, out.

Nursery graduation? Nursery? Graduation?

If you're going to survive parenting with your sanity intact you have got to calm down.

My cousin graduated from nursery 20+years ago. DD did 7 years ago. Its not new.

However... as long as one parent is there, that's all that matters. Or a grandparent, or aunt or uncle, or family friend if necessary. Lots of parents can't make these school things.

Child won't graduate again

They will have many last days of more significance than this. It's sweet if you like it, but not the big deal you're making it out to be. Almost every other child who ever existed has never had a nursery graduation until very very recently and even then, not at many places. Sorry but YABU and he's fine not to go.

A four year old with a degree? Impressive 😬

Seriously though I wouldn't be bothered. Yes it's a milestone but not that much of a biggie. Just take a pic of your child leaving for last time and do that for each progression. That's pretty much all you remember anyway.

What on earth is a nursery graduation? 😂

Honestly, it's fine. It really doesn't matter.

This

Nursery? Dear gosh no. She’s not “graduating” - there is no achievement on her part just the passage of time. I’d literally do anything apart from going to this.

also it made me chuckle - so a regional competition (which to my mind is a pretty big thing) isn’t sufficiently important but the olympics would be 😂 it’s a made up graduation!

Oh great. Another nonsensical event to guilt-trip working patents.

Dear God! Nursery graduation, urgh why is that a thing.

"Child won't graduate again"

So your child has a last day at nursery, and it happens only once. Come on, you must realise the 'graduation' stuff is cute but nonsensical.

There will be times when it's important for your DH is there, but this really, really is not one of them.

Christ I just collected mine and went to the park.

Is he a fully present and responsible parent or is this typical behaviour? Will he not show up for other events in the future?

I wouldn't expect many children to have 2 parents at a nursery graduation. Whoever normally does the pick up just turns up a bit earlier. Take a photo, your DH can look at it later.

Call it what they like but it's not like a degree graduation. It's just their last day at nursery. The kids are 4 and totally don't see it as a massive milestone. As long as someone is there for them, they'll be happy.

Yes, my nephew had a ‘graduation’ from nursery (I have a photo of him wearing a gown and mortar board!). He’s now 24.