Women with rich husbands looking down noses at others

[Ifyouholdonforonemoreday]

It bugs me!

I live in a v wealthy area, lots of mum friends of mine don’t work, lovely people, husbands earn enough, fantastic situation I’d do the same (I work part time) but many other women who don’t work, days spent lunching, playing padel, getting nails done, yoga and so on…but just really up their own bums, very snooty and looking down at others. Have to admit it annoys me, it’s not their money, they didn’t earn it, why act like that? They could lose it all tomorrow, anyones circumstances could change..just eurgh

@doeeyedstan Poor guy. All that pressure.

Maybe they are sick of people with chips on their shoulders who think everything revolves around them and who come up with conspiracy theories 'omg she looked at me and is judging me' and they probably don't spend as much time and effort thinking how hard done by they are?

Boring and vacuous individuals with little but money and pampering in their lives.

Yes well said, I am on the receiving end of this.. I would not describe myself as snooty and have many wonderful friends from all backgrounds but I quite often get a lot of judgment for being a SAHM… people ask me what I do all day and how dull it must be. So much so I often think about going back to work, but I love spending time with my son and DH travels a lot for work.
It really gets to me tbh. These women probably aren’t snooty once you get to know. Perhaps they aren’t as confident as you think so give off a standoffish vibe. Staying at home to raise kids post partum can actually be quite damaging to your confidence.

You mean the meagre part time pay? So that is all they are bringing? The SAHM contribution is worthless? The only contribution is money? Seriously?

Well by that reasoning, their contribution is so pathetic that they are living off their dh

@doeeyedstan Any chance you many have misheard him?

What pressure?

A true love story. Thanks for sharing.

You really are desperate to believe something negative. It is beyond your ability to accept that some people are really very blessed and that both partners feel that way.

I don’t ‘work’, I often do lovely things and look after myself while my children are at school.

Many of my mum friends aren’t employed either - but they generally work extraordinarily hard keeping the cogs of family life running, and picking up the mental load while their husband / partner works mad hours.

you see the Pilates + lunches. You don’t see the diary management, the entertainment schedule etc. You don’t see that many of them have excellent degrees from good universities and pre-child professional careers. My husband always says there is no management consultant on earth who could maximise the efficiency of our team like I can - partly because I am good at it, but mostly because I know + love them. it’s a huge privilege to be able to put my energy and intellect into my family. I am aware of that. But it’s not all pedicures + padel.

I don’t think the women in the same boat as me are particularly snobby at all. Plenty of working mums in our school gang. It is easier to make time for people on the same schedule as me (and it’s certainly easier to find space for people who don’t think my life choices render my existence hollow…)

@doeeyedstan A true love story as @blueshoes put it.

@blueshoes
Yep. It is. 32 years and counting.

The whole point is that not all women who do not work are living miserable controlled lives dictated to by their narcissistic abusive husbands

This sums up my situation too, I would never judge another mum for working and not raising her own child by herself.
However I receive so much judgment from those mums, and I don’t I have my own investments so I don’t have to depend on DH either. Sad world we live in where lots of women only want to tear others down.

@doeeyedstan And the great thing is if he lost his well paid job tomorrow you could leave him and still be wealthy! 😀

I get the point that not all rich husbands are arseholes. But something in your story makes me think the lady doth protest too much.

You aren't coming out of this looking great. You are sounding more and more bitter

@doeeyedstan Sounds great 🙂

@blueshoes

I get the point that not all rich husbands are arseholes. But something in your story makes me think the lady doth protest too much.
No. I just had caffeine too late in the day and can't get to sleep.

I’m sure many highly paid escorts feel ‘blessed’ too.

I know a woman whose husband put all his assets in his wife’s name. He was a people trafficker! He was a millionaire though with staff so that’s alright then.

Dodgy, dodgy.

Oh which reminds me, Philip Green did that too.

@doeeyedstan Still dont understand why on earth all of the assets are in your name? I hope your husband has protected himself financially as he sounds like an incredibly hard working man and has been all his life.

So is the story true or not? Caffeine does not make me exaggerate.

@blueshoes I think that may depend on the coffee brand? My ex-husband consumes coffee expelled by the rear-end of a civet and he believes he's 6 ft 2.

In school I cleaned houses a lot, one client was an elderly lady who insisted we sit outside and have tea and toast before commencing. She’d say, you smoke don’t you? Go ahead and have one now dear. She’d cackle about my Latin lover Esteban. She was very wealthy, old money, big money and so warm and kind.

Another client screamed at me that I didn’t know how to make a bed when she was mad at her husband and locked me outside in the rain after finishing one day as I waited for my ride. Night and day.

lol, hopefully that is not why he is an ex.