To think Mumsnet is a load of bollocks?

[lexiebell]

What good advice do you ever get from here really? From everyone person that agrees one will say you are the worst (Mum,Wife,Friend) ever ! So judgemental and would love to know the people who are doing the judgement! Telling people to leave a marriage because of some minor upset, its a joke! Get a bloody life ,Life and Marriage isnt easy,we all get annoyed by stuff,but you dont give up cos the mumsnetters tell you ,RUN ,RUN FOR THE HILLS ,if you have good foundations,have some fight and try and make it work,dont forget sometimes the best most fulfilling route is not the easiest,but the best for you and your kids, we only hear one side on here dont forget ! Parenting is hard ,full stop ! Wether a single parent or otherwise( have been both )vulnerable people will be influenced by the sometimes shit advice on here,just please be careful what you dole out

I like that you can debate and argue the toss on here so in the real world you can put across a well thought out, well stance. I've had my opinion change on many things from trans issues to fathers in birth certificates.

What I don't like is when posters try to shut down the threads either by patronising comments ( hun) or outrage ( vile) or top trumping with something unarguable like SEN or terminal illness but that isn't relevant to the poster.

Also I have bought some shit outfits and products from reading Style and Beauty. And any savings made on the Christmas threads are mitigated by buying twice as much as I might have,

Closing other women for having an opinion is not feminism

Is it having for an opinion, or is it because they don't want to be told they should share any spaces with men, regardless of how they identify? You see it as closing down, many see it as asking for facts to back up what posters say.

Again though, no one forces anyone to visit any boards/topics. I don't have any interest in pets, babies or baby names, so I stay away from those boards.

The media-fuelled transphobia is a real embarrassment on this site. You can guarantee the people spreading hate have never interacted with a trans person in their life. Bullying, gross behaviour.

You can be whatever you want to be on here!There are a lot of people faking wealth and social status in posts.

The ones with stealth or not so stealth boasts, to the effect that, I'm 'MC': went to Russel Group Uni: 6 figure salary: Lynchpin of a team in some cool job: kids at private school: kids are well ajusted little geniusesGot an AGA are such shite.😂

Someone's trying to impress the tattlers.

Got to love an OP giving us bollocks advice on a forum they think is known for bollocks advice, and that they think is in general a load of bollocks 🤣🤣

Oh give over. It's not transphobia. It's just a evidence-based, scientific awareness that there are only two biological sexes. I know a trans person and I still only believe in XX and XY.

Denigrating people who believe in this biological reality, and calling them "transphobic" (and claiming that this is on the same level as racism, misogyny, antisemitism) is bullying. pure and simple. And it's bullying because you wish to intimidate them into agreeing with you.

Don't think people can't see what you're up to.

I say are you on glue all the time tbh. It's not from mumsnet. It was from the outtakes of Pheonix Nights.

Exactly. I never understand the point of these posts. Is knowing a trans person supposed to convince me that people can change sex?

As it happens, I have a family member who thought she was trans and later detransitioned. Unfortunately the testosterone she was taking has left her with long term health problems. However at least she didn't have surgery. For that we are all grateful.

Nobody is forcing you to be here. It you don't like you can fuck right off.

I had some reassurance when my cat had a deep cut on its eye, have had some good book recommendations, bought some excellent comfortable sandals after a recommendation and found out what the hell was happening in the assault on women's rights (yes, they really are putting male offenders in women's prisons and there are 70+ men and boys playing on women's/ girls football teams in the uk). Thanks Mumsnet!

I know a trans person and I still only believe in male and female.

Yeah, I know two and still withal, I have managed to cling on to very very basic biology. Whilst also liking these two young people and being pleasant and respectful towards them.

I hope her health problems get better.

It looks like people are starting to wake up to the fact that women should not be taking high doses of testosterone and that it does them no good.

https://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/2023/10/06/transwomen-hormones-95-pc-more-likely-suffer-heart-disease/

I actually enjoy it because it is a good window into how different people are! A lot of social media platforms only show you the content you agree with, whereas I see a lot of opinions on MN that I’ve never encountered in real life. I enjoy seeing those opinions as it helps to broaden my own perspectives about things.

I learned from Mumsnet that if you spit in swimming goggles they don't mist up. So no, it's not a load of bollocks.

Agree with you op

I notice that there are totally different responses depending on whether it's a woman or a man who have done something, ie had an affair etc!

Entertainment for the bullies but not so much to a already vulnerable person.

Forums like these are a hugely valuable resource for sharing women's views and experience. So many times a woman goes 'Is this normal? Is this right? Is this okay?" and gets a really good set of answers.

Women aren't a homogeneous group, individual views and values need to come through. If you can't cope with a spread of views the Internet is the wrong place to seek discourse.

I agree there are some decent women on here who know how to give tough love but some dish it out in a horrible nasty way.

I am not here to give or recieve support. Its entertainment for me and it can be bloody entertaining at times.
I think a lot of people don't understand that MN is a commercial profit driven site, its not a bunch of old ladies sat around a camp fire dishing out sage advice.
I am not saying you can't pick up useful info here sometimes but its here to make money not help people and if you approach it with that mindset its great.

Why should you be grateful that 'at least it wasn't as bad as'.

It's 2024. We should have evidence based medicine. Not ideological interventions in healthcare.

It doesn't matter which area of healthcare you talk about - as soon as it's ideologically influenced rather than led by evidence you get harms.

People who point out the issues with mixing ideology and medicine are not bigoted and it's disturbing that we are in a narrative that it is.

A lot of women on MN are speaking up precisely because they have closed family or friends who have identified as trans - not because they don't know any trans people. They are seeing close up and directly experiencing various harms. There isn't a 'media fuelled' anything for these women.

Transwidows are one of the particular groups most directly affected.

Anyone saying it's 'media fuelled' is incredibly ignorant of who is speaking about these issues on MN and WHY they are speaking about them.

Far from being brainless sheep following a media narrative their voices have been against a lot of what has been pushed by the media and they have managed to challenge uncritical dangerous policy as a result.

It never fails to amaze me how many people want to reduce the women on MN to being unthinking, uneducated, brainless, lacking in life experience and in capable of forming their own opinions independently etc etc stereotypes.

I do have to ask the question about why this is particularly targeted at MN.

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Actually, I've had some really sage advice from old ladies on here 😁

The temptation is to write Bye 👋

But I Shall control my mumnettian response and engage.

Personally I find it useful for travel advice nowadays. In the past it was useful for breastfeeding advice, weaning, what to pack for hospital when you give birth. All that parenting young dc stuff. I find the child mental health threads useful now.

Yesterday a mumsnetter reminded me to message my mum and ask how her power of attorney works should we ever need to use it.

When DMIL had cancer I found out real life experiences and shared some facts with her about the survival rates. She was grateful.

The religion board is generally a haven of lovely people praying for my intentions or I pray for them. They got me through the dark days of covid (I ignored the rest of mumsnet then because I'd given it up for lent but apparently it was seven shades of batshit).

Mumsnet is both entertaining and helpful. I love it. You have to know what is and isn't real. You have to ignore "noise" like the current crop of political posters about private school or every time Madeline McCann gets mentioned in the news.

Speaking of news, when news happens I usually hear it here first and switch to a news outlet. Like when the Queen died mumnetters were watching the announcements and speculating. I switched to my usual news outlet and refreshed and refreshed until the front page came out. When the Manchester Arena (local) was bombed I heard about the serious police presence on mumsnet first and watched Anxiously for real news about what was going on.