To think Mumsnet is a load of bollocks?

[lexiebell]

What good advice do you ever get from here really? From everyone person that agrees one will say you are the worst (Mum,Wife,Friend) ever ! So judgemental and would love to know the people who are doing the judgement! Telling people to leave a marriage because of some minor upset, its a joke! Get a bloody life ,Life and Marriage isnt easy,we all get annoyed by stuff,but you dont give up cos the mumsnetters tell you ,RUN ,RUN FOR THE HILLS ,if you have good foundations,have some fight and try and make it work,dont forget sometimes the best most fulfilling route is not the easiest,but the best for you and your kids, we only hear one side on here dont forget ! Parenting is hard ,full stop ! Wether a single parent or otherwise( have been both )vulnerable people will be influenced by the sometimes shit advice on here,just please be careful what you dole out

I can't really bemoan mn, there has many a thread that moved me, or had me hooting.

Glad you got some good support MrsC.

I find it odd that people make friends online, but tbh I probably couldn't manage it with a 1000 page manual

The ability to raise political awareness, for women to organise and campaign for women's rights seems to a pretty good part of MN.

But people want to believe it's all about brainless bitching and nasty snipping because to admit that MN has more use than beyond the trivial and that some women on MN are pretty damn clever and worth listening to because they are wise isn't fashionable.

I am not really interested in being trendy. I've always been a nerd. I'm happy being a nerd. I wish others had more confidence to be nerds.

Flouncers corner is >>>>>>>

Don't let the door hit ya where the good lord split ya.

😂 agree but it's entertaining!

I've always been a nerd. I'm happy being a nerd. I wish others had more confidence to be nerds

Agreed there, nothing wrong with being a nerd, I'm a proud nerd myself.

It gets worse round here after 11pm UK time.

It's almost like certain posters wait until the Mods clock off... Weird right.

And it's full of clean freaks!

Yes. It's all bollocks

Being born is bollocks

Your parents are totally bollocksing about and making a total bollocks of your life

Nursery is bollocks

Primary school is bollocks

Secondary school is bollocks

University is complete bollocks

Adulting in general is total bollocks

and here we are, bollocking about on Mumsnet

Total bollocks

Off you pop.
O do fuck off dear.
Have a biscuit.
Are you on glue?

Give your head a wobble!

Agree, everything is bollocks and a bizarre construct. Oh god I have gone a bit existential. Nerds unite BTW.

It’s like they’re pretending to be posh to patronise the other person

Adulting in general is total bollocks

Amen to this 😂

I’ve been here for years. It was MN made me see the lightbulb moment while in an abusive marriage which I’ve since left.

I do think it’s gone a bit downhill since, though and there is a lot of bullying and judgement.

The "are you on glue" thing, always made me think of Grange Hill for some reason

Isn’t 100k+ 1 percent of the population - Apart from couples with joint incomes I suppose. I think it’s more common to be like yourself and a lot of posts on here are fantasy/made up

If you're not commenting to share a common story, empathise or constructively challenge then just feck off to bed. Starting any comment with you're wrong or you're an idiot isn't hitting the above.
Just always consider if this person could be tethering on the edge is my comment gonna push them over or help pull them back.

Let's be real.

If anyone is at the point that they're posting on MN for advice / help their relationship isn't healthy.

Sometimes it takes a few harsh words of reality to slap you in the face and make you see you're being abused or coerced or mistreated in some fashion.

And there's always the "He's a great partner but .. he wants too much sex / he doesn't help around the house / he doesn't help with kids / he goes doing his 'mysterious - Think Fishing but not that' hobby etc and so forth.

Posters rightly pont out that, actually, he's not that great then is he?
And back comes op and all of a sudden the OH is Mr Wonderful.. if you don't want a light shining on the cracks of your relationship, dont ask people to turn on the torch.

I find MN v helpful for lots of things, but I cannot ABIDE the MN pillars: "give your head a wobble" "Paddington stare" "did you mean to be so rude?" (Yes, almost always.) "do you think they/you might be autistic/suffering from dementia/have ADHD/anxiety" (some people might just be...arseholes? No, surely not?)

I feel bad that my wean isn't "6ft, sport and lean", he's just "at that age", a bit tubby and a bit mouthy. "Massive growth spurt" into a civil human on the way though!!

I haven't seen the netmums insult for awhile, somebody came close on this thread with a pointer to nethuns lmao.

I'm getting quite disillusioned with the place but for different reasons. The ones ruining it for me are the ranty, argumentative posters, with the most superficial grasp of a topic, who just can't engage in any reasoned discussion but won't leave a thread until they've had the last word.

The same people who pay no attention to the actual content of the OP or updates and just swoop in like seagulls to make a lot of noise and shit everywhere.

I'm actually starting to wonder if the site is being infiltrated by trolls who are only here to derail good threads and drive away the people who want to have a proper conversation.

I also think 90% of the time, the LTBs are well deserved. You can tell most OPs on the relationships board are miserable as hell and only posting the tip of the iceberg at the start.

Not been on Netmums for years, I hope it's still a thing 🙂

Well I bloody well love MN and it’s not just about advice. This place has seen me through some of the roughest times of the last 10 years since I joined and I wouldn’t be without it.

i don’t watch tv so this gives me my daily dose of entertainment. If you don’t like it then you don’t have to be here!

i couldn’t be arsed though to actually start a thread to pick holes in the site, it is what it is and we’re all adults here. Supposedly.

Problem with MN and online forums in general is that they’re basically platforms for performative sanctimony, self-gratifying one-upmanship and triggered overreaction.

The web, a world-wide stage for bad-faith semantics and squabbling by people all too often lacking the self-awareness even basic honesty requires as a bare minimum.

I had a pile on when I had PND and honestly was suicidal. The inability for people to read between the lines always astounds