Eww just found out my fiance voted UKIP before

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Just that really. And the fact that he likes Nigel Farage and agrees with him. I feel very disturbed.

Why’s he responsible for Brexit? He wasn’t in power when the referendum happened. The vote was given to people by Cameron and the Tories.

@NotGotAClue1
Well there's only one thing for it....LTB

Are you kidding? Brexit was his baby- he pitched it to the country because he was our MEP. Cameron ran with it because he thought it would ruffle feathers, but nobody thought it would actually happen.

That’s just the same as any other high profile individual backing it. He didn’t make Brexit happen. Just backed it and agreed with it. Ultimately Cameron gave the vote to the public, and that’s why Brexit happened.

Well Farage got to the final on I'm a Celeb so more people quite like him than they will ever admit publicly - your fiancé isn't a freak of nature.

But for me it's this: if you've been together long enough to get engaged and have a kid WITHOUT this cropping up before then why does it suddenly matter now?? He can't be a political extremist or you'd already know his views. It sounds like he must be politically laid back in daily life or this would ALREADY be impacting your relationship / parenting etc. Surely he's entitled to his view as long as you're both in harmony otherwise.

I think politics have to align if it MATTERS a lot to the couple. If you've been rubbing along nicely up to now and were none the wiser before then who cares?

More than a.bit controlling, aren't you? Vote the way.I do or else? Do many people meet your criterion for friendship or romance?
What makes you think that you are right in whatever you believe and that everyone else is wrong?

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That's.what I took her to mean also. Anti UK. Imagine being against your own country!!

YABU

You need to get a grip, you have a two year old with this man.

I cannot believe you are thinking about ending a relationship with the father of your child over a vote he cast years ago. Wise up. You just come across as a bigot.

I agree with the pp. If he was racist or xenophobic or generally awful, I'm pretty sure you would know by now.

Why? I like Nigel Farage and will be voting for him. What is wrong about being patriotic and wanting to follow British values?

You think that’s bad, I’ve got a relative who’s actually close friends with him 🤦🏻‍♀️

Maybe he thinks the way you vote is "Ewww" but he looks past it for you.

Wow, they have a child? I hope this thread is fake.

"Mummy, Daddy, why did you split up? Was it cheating? Domestic abuse?"

"No, it was the crime of voting that made you have to spend holidays and weekends elsewhere."

What a pathetic, privileged outlook. The OP doesn't understand how lucky she is.

Well, it would be a deal breaker for me, but then again, voting Tory would have been a deal breaker as well so I wouldn't ever have got this far down the road with him personally.

Of course, everyone is entitled to their views in a democracy, but I'm also entitled to choose who I want as my life partner. And for me, it is important that our values align. Anyone who votes for the Tories/UKIP/Reform etc does not have values that would ever be compatible with mine, so it would be a non-starter.

I think it would be helpful if you expanded on his views and what he said when you asked him why he likes Farage/ why he voted UKIP?

What did you think of his answers to those questions? Did it reassure you at all?

Well, you picked him….the only opinion that counts is yours.

I guess the question is, OP, if you were comfortable with knowing that he voted Tory...bearing in mind what the current Tory party is... what is it about Nigel Farage/UKIP in particular that you find unpalatable?

So you are happy for your child to be parented by a person with such views?

Yes I think so. There are several other issues. He’s 14 years older than me, I think this is where a lot of our differences stem from as we’re from different generations. He does generally treat me nicely but there are times he can overreact to things and be really verbally aggressive out of nowhere. He has ptsd which he says causes this, but still this can be a lot. I would say he’s changed from when we first got together. He has become angrier, grumpier, we argue and obviously now I know this. We have nearly broke up a few times but it’s hard with our son.

Fucking hell... go outside and touch some grass...

And?

Are you on something?

If not, do you need to be on something?

Doesn’t it terrify anyone that some people (who usually think of themselves as liberal and open minded and inclusive) want a society akin to North Korea, where only approved opinions are accepted and everyone else should be denied a voice and have ridicule and scorn poured on them?

Indeed, you've pretty much summed up all MN political threads. There really isn't a right or wrong and irrespective of what I vote, I'd like to think I'm a thoughtful and respectful person in my everyday life.

There's a certain irony and hypocrisy in people branding Farage or the Conservatives as intolerant while being extremely intolerant (and self righteous) themselves about anyone that doesn't vote Labour.

LTB. And that's the first time i have ever said that on mumsnet.

I couldn't be with anyone who held such racist and abhorrent views