To feel uncomfortable in working class pubs as a woman of colour?

[Dreamsaregood]

Just that really. I walked in and immediately got heckled by a (presumably) drunk man. Why did this man think this is ok?

I felt really uncomfortable after that and he continued to stare at me every time I walked past. It ruined my evening, and to be honest I felt a little threatened being the only woman of colour in my group.

AIBU to think very carefully before agreeing to meet up in certain places (local pubs etc)?

Tbh I’m white and there are quite a few pubs I’m not comfortable walking into - either because it’s got the “ working men’s club vibe” - everyone’s wearing trackies and is half cut or the pubs where you walk in and evidently it’s a locals pub and everyone stares at you

Sadly there is a number of reasons why you would be made to feel uncomfortable walking into a pub and race is just one. Even being a woman can illicit this response. Or as I discovered, just not being a regular or 'known' was enough to have people looking at me and asking if I was lost. It's hard to know which it was in any given situation.

@helpfulperson she was with other women. She was the only person of colour. How does that make it hard to know what it was?

This is why I was confused…..

I understand now. (I was confused but see you’ve clarified you are non-white) Yes I think that as a white woman I would never even notice the only non white woman/person in a pub or anywhere. My DS’s GF taught me a lot about privilege and perspective.

My friends do not notice, as I said before it does not affect them so why would they go out of their way to look out for me as a WOC.

Fuck.....!

They are not your friends. I would certainly not have let you walk in there by yourself if I had ANY reservations about your treatment if I knew what kind of place that is.

But then I have a biracial child who is now an adult so... I've had some horrible racist things said to me about it, including people dropping me like a hot potato on finding out. Good. I wouldn't want them in my life anyway.

So sorry you went through that OP.

Haven't read the whole thread but the poster talking about hearing about them talking about Enoch Powell's hateful rhetoric still in this day and age gives me the creeps.