To sleep with a 23 year old?

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Given that I am 42,he knows full well how old I am,we met on a dating site where he wanted to meet older women.ok or creepy age gap?

I feel like people on this thread don’t know any 23-year old dudes

YOLO babe 😘 why not? If you're attracted to him and him to you, what's the problem x

Disgusting

i wouldn't expect to live happily ever after (but you never know you might), but i doubt it.

Crack on, you are both consenting adults, personally its yukky for me, i have kids older than that! but fill your boots

Un-clutch those pearls.

I can see the OP getting lots of offers. At 51 I am more in demand than I ever was at 21!

Women of a certain age and personality are a bit more "up yours!" at life and that is attractive.

But 23 would be a step too far at your age. I have always personally gone for ten years older than my eldest child, anything younger would be wrong for me.

Oh blimey, for some reason I interpreted when you said "Ye" as that meme "Yee" that was going round a couple of years ago... I now realise that you just meant an abbreviation of "yes" in a kind of youth-speak way (God, that makes me appear old even though I'm 43 😂😒😳)

Here I was wrongly thinking I felt young by knowing what a slang term used by young people was... and of course, being a middle aged woman, I got it bloody wrong 😂😳😂

I'll find the 'yee" meme and post it for a chuckle...😂

I wouldn’t, but he’s legal. So do what you like.

(and mine is younger than I am by seven years!)

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I think OP's fully aware that it's 'up to her' but she can still ask for advice!

Neither the OP or the guy she's referring to, are under 18???

Eeeewww.

Sounds great tbh. For a just sex thing, I would have though someone in the prime of their life, with everything that goes with it, would be ideal?

If it were me, I might get a bit embarrassed if people I knew around the school gates or whatever knew. But I'm on the socially anxious side. If no-one finds out, or you're less of a people pleaser than me, it's definitely no worse "morally" than having a random shag with some old geezer with a bad back!

Old enough to be his mother - that would be a no from me, but if that doesn’t bother you then go for it!

no 1 cares.

nasty, but many men would do it if it was the other way; and I'd think they were grim too. It's up to you though, nothing illegal.

I dont think its creepy as such, you are both consenting adults. It only feels creepy if he makes you feel the age gap and you feel awkward. If you are with him on a date and hes all 'your gorge' or i think you got 'rizz' (my adult DD's talk who's 19) id be like erm no and running for the hills lol. There is that generational gap there and if it blatantly shows, it would just feel all too weird. Even if it was for the one off, id be making my excuses and leaving.

Probably a fetish for him to shag an older woman, I don't think there is anything wrong with it if you know it won't be anything more and don't lead him on. Some men have mummy issues like women have daddy issues.

A guy I'm seeing was telling me he had a bad relationship with his mum and at 17/18 he used to seek women in their late 20s

You're both adults, if you're both consenting that's fine imo.
Too young for me but each to their own!

Posters finding lots of reasons to judge here (unsurprisingly).

You’re both adults. If you both want to do it, I’d go ahead!

It does seem slightly off to see so many posters telling OP he’s doing it for a bet. Tbh it smacks of jealousy. It’s perfectly possible for the guy to just fancy OP! As a pp said, is it so absurd for a woman in her 40s to be sufficiently attractive just in and of herself, rather as some novelty item or weird fetish?

And whilst some are anxious that he’s wielding some sort of power in that way (giggling ‘down the pub’ with his mates), others are worrying that she’s holding some sort of power over him and would be ‘taking advantage’. The mind boggles.

So many reasons to find fault with an attractive, sexually confident woman in her 40s having enjoyable, consenting sex with someone slightly outside the Pearl Clutcher’s Handbook of Acceptable Sexual Partners! It’s depressing.

Bollocks. I'm 40 this year and I think I'm still attractive. I think I could get a 23 year old to shag me, men aren't fussy anyway. It doesn't make you special. I just wouldn't want to. It's weird. If the sexes were reversed it would be just as grim.

You obviously know what you want sex-wise, Just read your updates.
Him being younger doesn't guarantee that he will be powerful as a partner but it makes it more likely.
Suppose he is not very experienced, how do you feel about being in gentle control as a tutor to him? I would like that, I was recently the one being taught.
Great time!!

I find it creepy with such a large age gap. His brain hasn't even full developed yet and I think he is a walking red flag wanting to have sex with someone old enough to be his mum

Sorry, which bit is ‘bollocks’?

You seem to be agreeing that 40 year old women can be sexually attractive, so we’re on the same page there. Where did I say anything about me, or OP, being ‘special’?

The fact that you personally wouldn’t want to shag a 23 year-old is fine - that’s the beauty of it: you get to choose your consenting adult and OP gets to choose hers! Why so snappy?