To sleep with a 23 year old?

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Given that I am 42,he knows full well how old I am,we met on a dating site where he wanted to meet older women.ok or creepy age gap?

Yes. Every time. It’s predatory.

This is such a ridiculous take, probably best ignored. How are you dying on the hill of 32 and 50 being immoral?

Having such a strong opinion on grown (mature!) adults being in relationships meanwhile they're living their lives and dgaf

It all started as a way to protect young people, specifically teenagers from relationships they couldn't truly understand, possibly choosing to marry and have children with someone and having trouble down the line. People are now taking it too far

To me it was definitely a feminist issue. It so harks back to the convention of young women finding a secure financial base. Age never an issue. Surely we have gone beyond that? But no, old rich men are seen as more successful for getting younger and younger wives. Yet older successful women humiliated for having younger husbands. Women being attracted to powerful men is what I feel is creepy and verging on prostitution . Develop your own power. And if a younger man applauds that and is attracted by your independence then great. Happy times.

My concern is for teenagers and even actual children as young as eight years old being married off to grown men in other parts of the world. Or indeed adult women being forced into marriages they don't want.

Fretting about a grown adult having enthusiastically consensual sex with another grown adult seems very frivolous.

It's legal - you only live once so grab life by the (ahem) balls & enjoy it 🤓👍

Haha,I'd thought the title meant you were sharing a bed with your 23yo son :) co-sleeeping!

As for dating, nothing wrong with it,as long as it's all legal,it's no one's business

Please, show me where I've said that I'll "sleep with anything that stood still long enough". Or is it simply a case of you being unable to resist a bit of good old man-bashing misandry?

Read it again, did I say you’d actually said that? And don’t make me laugh, you said yourself you’d jump at the chance to sleep with a young 20 something woman despite being a middle aged man. The fact that you have no shame in saying that somewhat proves my point about men, sex and what is moral/appropriate.

What @Magnastorm said is spot on.

I find it gross. And would pity the younger person, esp when they reach 60 and see what lies ahead.

But of course I would never say something like that to a couple in real life. And I don’t generally give it a second thought! Only when specifically asked my view on MN ;-)

"And this guy was clearly a married creep and trying to lure you in by showing you what he knew you wanted to see."

What a wild interpretation. Good Lord. 😂

Yes, I would. Why should I feel shameful about that?

Perhaps you should get off your high horse and drop the holier than thou judgemental attitude. It isn't particularly endearing.

It is consensual and with reasonably matched expectations, enjoy.

I would feel differently if the younger one was freshly 18, but there must be some age when we consider people able to decide for themselves, and for me it is around 21.

Because it’s gross. No 50 year old man should be going near a young 20 something woman looking for sex.

Endearing to whom exactly 🤣.

But why?

Why would you have sex with a boy half your age?
Because you can?
Oh well, I guess it's "because you can", and you're both consenting adults, but I think it's decadent and vulgar.

Urm yes they would. It’s just as grim for a man. If my 23 year old daughter started seeing ac49 year old man I’d be extremely concerned about it. It’s absolutely grim.

As someone who was recently single at the age of 41 and thought no-one would ever find me attractive again, it was the most pleasant surprise that it was mostly guys in their 20s messaging me. A LOT of them have a milf/older lady thing.
If you have a genuine attraction to this guy, and are ok with likely being a fetish for him then i say shag him. You are both adults. Just dont catch feelings or become emotionally involved and never ever shag the son of someone you know!! (not that I have btw but can you imagine!). Also ask to see photo ID
I actually did sleep with a 23 year old inadvertently - he told me he was 27 and I only found out a few shags later. Lesson learned
Am now very happily in a relationship with a man 6 years my junior!

Wow this post is an eye opener. Imagine if the females posting that it’s fine and to go for it were older men and the 23 year was a girl . I’m shocked at how many women around my age think this is ok. 🤯

Plenty of women in their 20s who are into older men. As long as its what they definitely want and have not been coerced or manipulated in any way, I dont see anything wrong with it.

I can easily imagine that.

Admit it, you're jealous of the OP, aren't you? 😂

decadent and vulgar. 😂

Imagine if the females posting that it’s fine and to go for it were older men and the 23 year was a girl

Fortunately, 23 year olds are adult women, not girls, hence it wouldn't be a problem.

Jealous of what exactly? Is that what you think of women, if they have a disagreeing opinion they must be ‘jealous’? That we can’t form an opposite view without it being some desperate need to have what they do? Or are you just deflecting from the quite creepy way you’ve come across…

Jealous of the OP being attractive to young men. You come across as very bitter.

I have personal moral objections to casual sex, but if you’re going to have it, do I think it’s a problem that he’s 23? No. People on this site are way too caught up in the false idea that the dynamic between legal adults is some kind of mathematical calculation based on their ages.

You’re hitting misogynistic words bingo here, think you’ve only got the main one to go. You also seem to think that’s it’s an insult that 23 year old men wouldn’t be interested in me, I can assure you it’s not.