To sleep with a 23 year old?

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Given that I am 42,he knows full well how old I am,we met on a dating site where he wanted to meet older women.ok or creepy age gap?

Spot on.

@DannyLovesFanny your username is apt 😂

Only being truthful. 😋

There are 24 years between President Macron and his wife.

There are 24 years between President Macron and his wife.

I'm not at all bothered by their age gap per se, but their origin story is rather creepy.

Are you a man? In which case, declaring your sleep with anything that stood still long enough wouldn’t be a huge shocker for most. But especially young women.

I don't see the problem and surprised by the amount of judgment in the comments. But then I'm a similar age and my DS is 4 so I don't really think of your age gap being mother / son territory. If someone thinks it's wrong because you're old enough to be his mum then they had kids too young and that's on them not you!

Ask if he's got a mate. Then you could reenact 'Y tu mamá también'.

LOL, for fuck's sake OP, who really cares?
Most of us have shagged a younger or older man in our time, it isn't really forum fodder.
Just move on and get a fucking life.

It’s up to the pair of you.

I wouldn’t, personally, but I have sons 🤷‍♀️.

I think it's grim, OP, sorry. They're half your age. It's kind of creepy.

What is WRONG with you lot? She gets a male with a stiff p lots of energy, he gets a willing, experienced female not far past her sexual peak. So he must have a fetish, she must - well, I'm not sure what the complaint is, but you all seem determined to take her down! So tight-arsed, I hope you all get piles!

Don’t you have any friends to speak about things like this with? I think coming to a discussion forum to ask whether you should have sex with someone that is X age is rather odd. This is the kind of thing that you mention to a good friend no?

Shag him if you want, it’s your life. As long as it’s fully consensual and nobody is being coerced or manipulated then why not?

I’d been suspecting for some time that it was mums of boys who were being squeamish here. This seems to confirm that.

Just because your son is still a baby to you doesn’t mean 23 year-old men are actually not adults capable of leading their own lives and making their own decisions about sex!

Creepy, gross, and wrong on every level. Why on earth does a 23 year old want to sleep with a 42 year old?

Go for it 👍

A work colleague who divorced recently said she'd never date a man who could be mistaken for her son.

He’s a consenting adult!

if it was the other way round and a man dating a younger woman he’d get a Pat on the back!

Not sure this is a dating thing…. Rather than just pure sex

I have sons and daughters, and if my DD said she was seeing a 42 year old man I would be equally as horrified.

She is old enough to be his mum and that is the ICK factor for me. If the Op was a man who had posted this "he" would have been roundly blasted. That the OP is a woman doesnt mean that there isnt a power imbalance and that its not ok.

So?

I’m similar age to you and I don’t think I could do it. But if you want to crack on. I’m not judging!

Just to be clear, my sons aren’t babies to me. They are adults in consenting, healthy relationships.

I wasn’t commenting from the male point of view, but from my own. I wouldn’t want to have sex with someone close to either of my sons’ ages.

I make my own decisions about sex too.

@LostTheMarble - I don’t think it means he’s crap in bed at all…
many reasons for young men to want older women… one being that maybe older women aren’t looking for commitment, marriage and kids like younger ones are more likely to.. us older women have been there and done all that …. In my case I’m not interested in another relationship at all and am happily single and not interested in men for anything…. But if OP wants some harmless no strings fun, then that’s her prerogative.