To sleep with a 23 year old?

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Given that I am 42,he knows full well how old I am,we met on a dating site where he wanted to meet older women.ok or creepy age gap?

If you had a son that age, I’m sure you wouldn’t want him having sex with someone twice his age- it’s not emotionally healthy.

I wouldn't want to, but whatever floats your boat.

I prefer older men (although I've only had one partner, so nothing to compare him to) but would be grossed out by myself if I went for anyone young enough to be my son. So a 19 year age gap? No thanks.

It would work both ways. 15 years older than me? Nah.

If you had a son that age, I’m sure you wouldn’t want him having sex with someone twice his age- it’s not emotionally healthy.

Honestly I think I'd not really want to think of my adult son having sex at all!

Creepy. You’re old enough to be his mum. I’d wonder why you can’t fit in with your own age group..

As long as you realise it's probably just sex and you don't get obsessed or he turns into a stalker, then go for it !!
Personally the thought of some randy or inexperienced man-child isn't for me but hey you do you lol.

If you’re happy for a casual thing, I say go for it.
We’re here for a good time, not guaranteed a long time so fuck it mate. Have some awesome sex and give yourself memories that you’ll grin at forever x

It’s legal. A bit icky but it’s your choice. All I can say is it will likely be very disappointing.

I couldn’t do it as it’s the same age cap that’s between me and my dd 😬, I can’t imagine fucking one of her friends, that’s just ick.

It'll be part of his education.

It may not be emotionally healthy for you, but then you’re not the one who’s getting the shag, are you? Great sex can be very satisfying in many ways - maybe that’s a surprise to you.

I’m 10 years younger than you and I was chatting to someone of the same age.

We never had sex in the end because the age gap was very obvious after a while and I realised that not only was he a couple years from being a teenager but he also acted like a couple years from being a teenager.
It made me feel like a creep.

Why is your online dating age range so low anyway?
Your posts read a bit like you are trying to prove something (perhaps just to yourself or someone else).

This is legally absolutely fine but I would feel very uncomfortable that this man is trying to tick me off his bucket list or whatever he’s doing.
I’d rather find someone who wants to have sex with me for me, not because of a fetish.

When I graduated from university at 21, I met an incredible 43-year-old woman on a dating app. I wasn’t specifically seeking an older woman, but she caught my eye, and we decided to meet for a drink with no expectations.

When we met, we talked for hours, and the age gap seemed irrelevant. We understood we were in different stages of life—I was just starting out, while she was already an accomplished, successful woman.

To this day, I still remember her hair, her eyes—everything about her. She was stunning. I wasn’t sure if she liked me, but before we parted, she hugged me and said I was lovely.

We started seeing each other frequently, going out to bars and clubs. I mostly stayed at her place since I didn’t have my own at the time. She would cook, and we would eat, laugh, and share amazing moments together. She was an incredible kisser, and the sex was amazing.

Unfortunately, our relationship didn’t last. I was still finding my way in the world, while she was looking to settle down with a long-term partner.

The point is, she was an extraordinary woman in every way, and I cherished our time together. We were very happy, and I still fondly remember those days.

So, my advice is to go for it and enjoy life. Embrace the experience. You’re doing nothing wrong.

You’re both adults, if you both want to, its nobody else’s business. There’s probably no future in it (I don’t undertand a word 23 year olds say, their world is so different to mine), but a shag? I say enjoy.

I find it creepy

I have had a few young men (loads when I did old) that would tell me I find older women attractive I found this patronising and an there is certainly expectation I should be thankful 🙄

I prefer someone to just find me attractive and it’s not because I am years older then them that is part of the attraction

It's fine IMO. It's only an issue really if you want to have a serious long-term relationship involving children. Though that's not much of a problem for men because they don't have a time-limit like women do.

You're both grown and consenting adults, so i don't see big deal. Stranger things are happening behind closed doors.

Go for it ! You're both consenting adults, and as long as no-one's getting hurt I can't see anything wrong with it :-) Don't let anyone try to criticise you, they're just jealous xx

Absolutely. Two grown single adults of sound mind should be able to make their own decisions free from outside opinions.

My DH is 8 years older than me but apparently I should have went by your ‘contemporary’ views and missed out on almost 20 years of love and laughter all because of those extra 3 years as it makes him pervy and a groomer. Fuck that. Far too many people like to judge and pearl clutch.

It's a thing in the manosphere where if they just want to have sex then they increase their age bracket because they think it's easier to have sex with older women than someone their own age, and they're more likely to get matches in the first place from older women who want to try something novel. I'd feel a bit gross being that option for a man but if you just want to have sex then it;'s up to you.

If you want to then go for it. If you regret it after then lessened learnt. It's only creepy if it feels creepy to you

A friend of mine is 50, her boyfriend of 3 years is 26. Recently they have bought a house and moved in together. Who cares!

I think dating anyone young enough to be your child should be a red line for anyone. Just think of the seedy old men on the dance floor when you were in your twenties.....

In my head - the 23 year old will have a similar - sex drive and stamina level to a 43 year old.

BUT - I'm not sure I could.

If you can - I think it might be very rewarding.

Will not last. And you will feel bad about yourself.
Madonna has cavorted with younger men and she just looks so unhappy now.

The president of France shagged and then married his fucking teacher !

I long stopped worrying about the adult age of anyone I shag so long as they want to shag me.

If folks are freaked out by an age gap, they can go fuck themselves.

Well, I'm 50 and if a 23 year old woman asked me to sleep with her I wouldn't need to be asked a second time.