To sleep with a 23 year old?

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Given that I am 42,he knows full well how old I am,we met on a dating site where he wanted to meet older women.ok or creepy age gap?

Oh I def would be under 21 is a bit too young

I connected with a 22year old when I was 35 on a dating site. He sought me out as he “liked older women” at ahem only 35 I found that a bit offensive but I got over it and he charmed me enough to meet him. I got the sense that he thought I’d both have sex with him more readily than women his age out of desperation and that I’d be up for all sorts. It left me feeling a bit sad. I think the amount of porn young men consume has affected them.

When I was 42 I began a relationship with a man who was 26, it lasted for 10 years, some of them good, some of them less than good, but none of that was to do with the age gap. Sometimes I did feel ancient and a bit conscious of not being a pretty young thing but on balance we were both consenting adults and I do not regret it

But if a 23yr old girl/ woman wanted to shag me … boy oh boy - I would be in 7th Heaven!
Her bragging w her mates … Am I bothered?

Me reliving & nurturing the time we had.

A quick shag or a longer time together. so what? To whom would it matter? Honestly?

I’d prefer, but would also take a quickie.

And I hope she wouldn't give my number to her mates …

OLLI

Many interesting replies which say a lot about MNers! Those saying 'go for it if you wish', would their responses be the same were this a 42 year old man and a 23 year old woman? The contemporary view tends to be that an age difference of more than about 5 years makes him pervy and a groomer.

Well legally it's fine as he's an adult and can consent to whatever he wants.

But personally I would be a little nervous - there is always going to be a power imbalance with someone so much younger, however mature he seems.

At 23, he probably has some kind of fetish if he is going after a woman so much older - I'd be worried about what you might be getting into there and his possible vulnerability.

I would be worried about him getting in too deep emotionally. It's almost always harder for the younger one in that situation.

Omg! How ridiculous. Have you ever met anyone in an age gap relationship?
Horrified....that you even are horrified by it!

Someone else might have said this already, not RTFT so apologies if duplicated.
A 43 year old man probably wouldn’t think twice about sleeping with a 23 year old woman.

Ha, that’s true!

A bit gross.

Well, I'm 61, would you be ok with me hooking up with a 30-year old woman?

42 is a funny age. You're not young but you're not old and plenty 42 year olds look in better condition than someone who is his own age.
If a girl liked a 42 hear old man then noone would even care, so why does it matter that he likes an older person?

My thoughts too. I have been in a relationship for over 3 years ...
23 year age gap
Happiest years of my life, I might add his too.

Vomit

Have fun! As long as he's 21+ I'd say it's fine!

this! On both sides.

An age gap isn't of itself creepy. Liars, violent people, thieves, scammers, keyhole peepers - they ARE creepy. How do you know a young man thinks about his mother when he's having sex with an older woman? My late DH was 35 years my senior. My DP is 18 years my junior. Call me creepy all you want. My life, my rules.

As my child is around that age, and all her friends, I would find it really off. I am older than that but even at your age I'd have struggles due to knowing young trainees at work, etc - they've just seemed so much younger.

If you're both willing then it's no one else's business. I don't think its creepy at all. I don't know why you'd ask this lot as you must have known you'd get lots of tight arsed little comments about it being yuck and creepy!

Go for it! If you’re both up for it then why not, you’re both consenting adults after all. Fuck what anyone else says, have fun 😁

Fuck these judgemental bitches on here and go fuck! Enjoy it!!!

No, but many onlookers would see it exactly the same regardless of changing the sexes around.

I would think it was a bit off which ever way round it was.

Knowing a number of 21-24 year old men, through DD and her friends, I can't imagine ever seeing them in that way. I know most, if not all, wouldn't be seeking out a much older partner either.

That’s just creepy,Far too young.
Cradle snatching.

Well, I'm 61, would you be ok with me hooking up with a 30-year old woman?

Yes of course. Because she's an adult woman, she can hook up with whoever she wants.

I'm 30 and not sure I would.