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To just hate rich, braying people today. I know I am, but I am just not thick-skinned today, angry, RANT alert

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Lauriefairycake · 06/04/2008 18:51

So we went out for a lovely afternoon waffle at the fabulous waffle house in St Michaels (St Albans). We don't go out much so it was a real treat.

Middle aged almost (mid 50's) couple next to us - him in burberry jacket, Hackett scarf and shirt. Her with £800 quid Chloe bag.

They were on the table next to us and came in the same time. They kept saying how lovely it was and how quick the service was. They had virtually the same as us. Their bill came to £16 - they paid with a twenty. They kept the change. The bloke said what about a tip. The woman said "that'll do, she's only young".

When they left they put 40p on the table for the waitress

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2shoes · 06/04/2008 22:43

yabu
and need to get a life

MicrowaveOnly · 06/04/2008 22:58

Laurie do you tip your hairdresser, postie, milkman, dustmen ????

me 0/4.

I'm not mean, just increase the meal price instead. I hate the tradition, it started as a patronising act for those jobs that were/are deemed less important and saves the employer from paying a decent wage.

DOWN WITH TIPPING ra ra ra!

milliec · 06/04/2008 23:41

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Desiderata · 06/04/2008 23:44

You see, Laurie, where it all falls down is when you noticed that the lady had an £800 bag.

Ask yourself why you care ... because I sure as hell wouldn't know an £800 bag from an £8 bag.

Because I couldn't give a shit.

Mumcentreplus · 06/04/2008 23:47

With the Rich it's all about the accessories...expensive watch..hangbag...or shoes...anyway...how do you think they stay rich...it's by being tight arses

edam · 06/04/2008 23:49

The waffle house is jolly nice. And very bad for my thighs/hips/tummy/double chin...

I live in Harpenden and it is full of rich people. But I haven't noticed too many objectionable ones.

jajas · 06/04/2008 23:54

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edam · 07/04/2008 00:01

'mostly harmless' is about right, jajas. The wannabe footballers' wives are quite entertaining, though.

PollyPentapeptide · 07/04/2008 00:01

Oh I don'tknow

Rich people who bray in public about just how wealthy they are are bloody annoying not to say vulgar.

I can see how it would annoy (a bit like Americans who insist on talking sooooo loudly!!)

It would be enough to spoil my meal to be honest especially if they were being so obnoxious and so I would want to come on here and let of some steam

Swedes · 07/04/2008 00:05

Edam - Are there any wannabe Footballers' wives in Harpenden?

jajas · 07/04/2008 00:14

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Swedes · 07/04/2008 00:19

jajas - Waving to an ex local. Where do you live now? tbh I find Harpenden people very understated about their wealth, unusually so.

jajas · 07/04/2008 00:24

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SparklyGothKat · 07/04/2008 00:58

Misdee I know where the park is. We will have to go there one day when the kids are at school, and find the waffle house

nappyaddict · 07/04/2008 08:17

haven't read the whole thread but i am a waitress and obviously do love the whole tip aspect of the job. some people tip, some people don't. you'd think if you gave great service you'd get a nice tip and if you weren't on the ball that day you wouldn't. it doesn't work like that. many times i have thought i really haven't put much effort in with this table if i don't get a tip fair enough and then they go on to tip probably cos that's just what they do and think they should. other times i've worked my backside off and gone the extra mile for a table and they've left nothing. yesterday one man paid and he got out a huge wad of cash. must have been at least £500 there. did want to mention he probably shouldn't be carrying such a huge amount around with him let alone flashing it around but obviously didn't. the bill had come to about £100 for 7 of them (all adults). now when i go out we normally put a £1 in each. an extra £1 to your share of the bill isn't really anything and it's nice to know that if you go back you will probably get good service. i gave him change which was £3.73. he left me the 73p. i had given another table their change which was 4p and put it on the table. as they were leaving he actually came up to me and said oh you can keep the 4p . i have been known before to give it them back and say in a really patronising voice no, no it's ok you keep it. (only done it with younger people who you can tell leave you like 1p to take the piss and snigger when they give it you)

phew that was a bit long!

Wisteria · 07/04/2008 08:32

I am amazed that you have undergone counsellor training (as presumably you have, in order to work as a volunteer for the samaritans).

What happened to non judgemental acceptance? Or is that only reserved for the 'less wealthy' in our society?

bergentulip · 07/04/2008 08:39

yabu.

I waitressed too. Never 'expected' a tip. Was nice if I got one. My pay was rubbish, but then I knew that when I took the job.

I leave a 10% tip if I think the waiter/waitress has been friendly and helpful. Nothing to do with the food IMO, cos then I would walk into the kitchen and tip the chef(!- which, obviously, would be weird).

Could not stand it in the US when we went on hols. We'd leave 10% if it was not already added, and the ever so friendly waiter/waitress would suddenly become all frosty as we were leaving!! If I have paid for a meal, I have paid for a meal, and I expect it to be the employer's job to ensure the cost of the food is enough to cover everyone's wages!!!

NiceShoes · 07/04/2008 08:44

NMC Code of conduct has got quite a bit to say about treating individuals with respect and dignity. try reading it

funnily enough laurie not calling them
total scum
or hating people

as a trained nurse will you care for those whom you deem worthy or approppriate enough

no rich people on your ward then?

horsish · 07/04/2008 08:50

"I hate you. You are total scum"

That's unreasonable

harpsichordcarrier · 07/04/2008 08:52

so are nurses and counsellors never allowed to let off steam, anonymously and away from work?
so all nurses and counsellors must feel only love and acceptance for everyone they meet, 100% of the time?
the holier than thou attitudes on this thread are quite something.
this is really mumsnet at its very worst.

bergentulip · 07/04/2008 08:54

here here,
nothing wrong with letting off steam.

Still think the OP is being unreasonable though.

misdee · 07/04/2008 09:01

is this thread still going on?

[leaves]

i'm going to find the waffle house.

harpsichordcarrier · 07/04/2008 09:03

yes she was being unreasonable, as I think admitted, in the er thread title
yes I fancy a waffle too. no waffle houses round here, but I could get you an egg mcmuffin misdee or anything with chips??

EHM · 07/04/2008 09:09

Yes, what business of your yours is it how much they left. I wouldn't know a £800 bag if it hit me in the face. Personally when I go out to eat with my family I am more occupied in making sure dd is sorted & happy without noticing how much people are leaving for tips. You don't know how this couple earned their supposed wealth. Sometimes we tip sometimes we don't. Does that make me & dh tight bastards as we live in St Albans. I've never been to the Waffle House. 'total scum'?

Greensleeves · 07/04/2008 09:13

can't be fagged to read the thread, but I imagine it is peppered with poorly spelt posts from indignant Tories bleating about Working Damned Hard For Their Money and Why Should They Share it.

YANBU, the stingy cheese-paring Ebenezers. I hope the bank he works in goes bust and they end up in a council flat sucking up value pot noodles for dinner.

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