This is where I take issue.
Safeguarding isn't something you should be offended by.
Safeguarding is just safeguarding. If pointing out there is an issue with trans activism neglecting safeguarding isn't offensive - its saying that its a wilful blindness to safeguarding protocols.
If a child presents with particular behaviours we should - as a matter of routine - be asking questions about whether they are autistic, gay, have a history of trauma, have a sexual abuse history BEFORE we affirm. Without exception and regardless of whether parents like it or not.
Because safeguarding is often about checking if a child is alright AGAINST a parent and whether they are happy about safeguarding checks precisely because of what safeguarding is!!!
You can't claim that its offensive to say that affirming a child without doing this isn't anti-safeguarding. Its clear that safeguarding protocols at the Tavistock, with the influence of Stonewall in schools, the pushing of Mermaids without question WAS AND CONTINUES TO BE a failure of safeguarding protocols. This was deliberate. It IS anti-safeguarding to say this isn't important or that its just one report or that its going to take time to unpick.
That doesn't change safeguarding principles. Its just saying once again that somehow we should be ignoring these.
And its not just one report. Its one report PLUS a whole bunch of court cases which are demonstrating sexism and homophobia being prevelant in TRA ideology and riding rough shot over the law and the well being of various vulnerable groups.
Half the fucking problem here is precisely because we can't talk about harms being done because people are getting 'very offended' by being challenged over how practices and protocols have been totalling ignoring all the principles that BALANCE rights in order to prevent harms and are in place to prevent abuses of power.
There are so many abuses of power that have gone on in the course of pushing this ideology I don't know where to begin.
As for your daughter getting rejected for jobs - you are asuming that its because of her identity. I think theres a fair few people around these parts who will argue that theres quite a lot of trans identifying individuals who have an attitude problem precisely because of the bullshit they've been fed. The whole TRA trying to suppress critical thought and challenging of ideas is a social problem. There's no willingness to be accepting of others and their opinions in the opposite direction and yes that matters. They have failed to learn essential life skills and how to relate and communicate with others outside their bubble because they've been overly protected or pandered to within education. Thats something that would come across in an interview. I'm sorry but it is too easy to dismiss as just purely being down to prejudice. Im sure that prejudice may be a factor for some employers as yeah quite frankly people are fed up and see Trans Activists as a HR headache, but i can't believe thats the case with every single employer. So unless shes not applied to that many jobs, I don't believe theres no employers out there willing to take her on either due to the sheer amount of TQ Rainbow pushing by companies out there.
I am fed up of denialism tbh. Its a tough job market for young people generally at the moment and one of the big issues I always saw even ten years ago with kids straight out of education is the inability to use their initiative or common sense in the work place. Ask a practical question and there was a clueless silence. Employers are relunctant to take on young people who can't prove practicality in a lot of job areas because training someone up takes time and effect and its easier to take on someone else who does have that. Getting the first step through the door IS a massive problem for a lot of young people, particularly if they've only focused on academic study. Again, there are a whole load of public conversations going on about attitude and young people and work generally. Don't assume its a trans thing. Theres a lot being expressed about difficulties with Gen Z in the workplace and the unrealistic expectations of young people in broader terms with not really much going on in terms of either how to help develop skills (by government or employers) or by young people themselves in terms of how need to be more realistic or how they can make themselves more employable. Parents are not helping their kids by doing the modern equalivent of adopting an Ali G persona and saying 'is it cos they is trans?' at every single slight hurdle in life.
I have said this from the off years and years ago: The problem I've always had is not about identity it is about the excuses and the denialism of issues relating to behaviour in various ways. Behaviour and lack of respect which would not be tolerated in any other situation is not just tolerated but actively encouraged and enabled. There always going to be consequences to this - not being good with social communication and social skills is one - and that will have lots of knock on implications. People who don't give good first impressions, perhaps due to a lac of confidence, or aren't particularly likeable have different life opportunities to those who do. It is that simple.
But no, we are not allowed to have conversations like this, because they are uncomfortable, difficult, perhaps upsetting and 'are offensive'. This does not stop them being an unfortunate reflection of reality though. If we don't challenge and we don't go 'erm hang on you are being your own worst enemy here, its not necessarily everyone else's fault' then we don't improve the lives of others either. So we are kind of stuck in this culture of just blaming everyone else and saying safeguarding shouldn't apply to this because other people said so and this should continue whilst the fuckwits struggle to get their heads around they created this problem. Erm no. I don't really care if people find this offensive - its essential that we stand up and be difficult and say stop it and stop it now, not in 5 years time. This is a cult. We don't pander to cults. Stop it.