Was this weird of me at work?

[Handsomesquidward]

I'm a straight woman, I work in a semi-formal office environment. We have a young girl there who has beautiful long, blonde Rapunzel hair and who is just beautiful in general.
I haven't really spoken to her as she's in another department. I saw this girl and I just said 'Hi I hope you don't mind me saying, just wanted to say I really love your hair, you look beautiful!'
She seemed really happy I'd said it and appreciated it.
My other colleague was in the toilets too and had heard, she told me it was really weird and creepy id said that.
I feel so embarrassed now and wonder if I shouldn't have said anything. I was just trying to be nice, I imagine some women would be very jealous of her and she gets some cattiness, I don't think I said anything inappropriate.
Just wondered what others think? Surely it's a sad world where you can't compliment people.

If you have such a thin skin you are trying to force me to edit my posts, ( again bullying other women to conform with what you want ) on an anonymous forum where you've decided to engage in this discussion you have a serious problem. The fact you can't see the irony of saying 'mumsnet rules I'm going to report you!' and what I've been saying I fear you're like in the work place did make me laugh at lot.

Ugh the negativity on this thread. What a sad world we live in when someone pays someone a compliment about their appearance and they are ripped apart for it.

@ByNavyOtter what I did was provide a learning opportunity for you to show growth. Again it is MN rules not mine but you seem to get these things confused.
That isn't bullying.

@ByNavyOtter not too often as I said I work with amazing team members. Who I work hard to ensure they reach their full potential.

What I don't do is call them names, bully them or make personal comments on their physical appearance.

What an active imagination you have.

Or just a good judge of character and these types in the work place aren't as discreet and unnoticeable as they think:)

For what it's worth you are not coming across as a good judge of character.

Oh I love a compliment from a stranger with no ulterior motive and I remember them forever!

An elderly lady in the park once told me I had lovely legs.. and I still smile when I think back.. 30 years later 😁

Bla bla bla lol

Well I'm a woman and I told my female boss she had a nice arse so I obviously think it's ok. We were discussing bums didn't just randomly say it 😂😂😂.

I bet you made her day😂

It's fine! I've told random people that their dress is lovely or whatever, and my teenage daughter always gets people complimenting her on her hair (I mean since she was little everyone says her hair is gorgeous).
Just because you are in the same workplace is no different. It would be something else if you were her boss and making a pass at her by the compliment, but I don't think you were or that it was taken that way.

Chill out love.

No. I train people I evaluate their performance and then I work supporting them play to their strengths. I support them identifying their next development opportunities and then I support them to self advocate their progress.

Exactly how I could know which person prioritised their appearance shows up the flaw in your assertions. Nobody knows a persons value by their appearance.

Therefore by ensuring you support people's qualities and abilities you see people grow and achieve. I fail to see how your method of working from a base of physical ascetics works.

Nothing weird about it imo - I think it's nice to compliment people.

I was in court for work recently and the usher said she loved my hair and it was a great colour. Nobody had a fit about it. I said thank you very much.

I used to have a friend at work who was this woman, and people complimented her all the time. Equally she was quite lonley as many women avoided her and assumed she’d be aloof or something and despite looking stunning she didn’t have much self esteem. I think you can never assume. And compliments are always nice. I don’t think that sounded creepy

I have this type of hair. Someone comments on it at least 3-4 times a week. This woman won't think you were weird or creepy, as she will get told this all the time in all sorts of places. She probably was very pleased by the compliment, but I doubt she was surprised.

Seems like I’m going against the grain but would really people didn’t comment on my physical appearance at work. I’m happy for someone to say ‘nice blouse, where did you get it’. But commenting on my hair looking beautiful I’d feel strange about.

I complimented a random woman in a post office queue on her dress once, said it looked lovely on her and chatted about where she’d got it etc. Months later she approached me in the street to say that comment had spurred her into having a hair makeover after a horrible break up and to thank me. I’ll be honest, I had no idea who she was and had only a vague recollection of the post office encounter, but apparently it had made a big difference to her that day. So now I’m not shy to compliment strangers in appropriate circumstances. Why not?

Yes agreed.

There's a word of difference between complimenting an article of clothing and passing a judgement on someone's physical appearance.

I recently started a part time job on a supermarket checkout.. one of my favourite things to do is compliment the women I see with cool hair / clothes / nails / whatever! It always seems to be well received (especial kudos to the lady rocking the Uniqlo sundress on Saturday ❤️)