To dislike it when men post on mumsnet?

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I find it annoying. Why can’t they use their own men’s websites? Of which there are many!

*Note I put a thread up like this last night. Then went to bed. When I woke up this morning, it had been deleted by MN. Not sure what went on there..

Maybe the menz didn’t like it..

Of course you can not like it.
But it is a parenting board and MNHQ clearly have no issues (along with other MN users ) so I guess if they follow the rules it's no different.
What is your personal objection?

You’ll just have to put up with it I’m afraid.

It doesn't bother me as long as they don't start the post off with "man here" as if they think we specifically want a man's opinion on things.

Sorry.

Why though? People used to ask why childfree people posted on a forum called mumsnet, why shouldn’t men be here too? They have questions just like us!! (At school gates Friday had a very enjoyable ten minute conversation on balancing cleaning with getting to spend time with the kids at the weekends)

I have no issue, this is like saying only people with children can you use this site too?

What’s the big problem? Sometimes a different perspective is useful?

Agreed 😂

I think many of the men on this forum are dads as this is primarily a forum for parents and expectant parents (or TTC). However, it has evolved to include childless people too so why should men be excluded?

Mumsnet. By parents for parents. Generally speaking you need a woman and a man to become a parent.

Beezknees
It doesn't bother me as long as they don't start the post off with "man here" as if they think we specifically want a man's opinion on things.

I start a lot of posts with ‘I’m from Ireland’ because it changes people’s perspective/perceptions- surely it’s better we know they’re a man as they’re living it differently?

I don’t like it when people make controversial opening statements and then never come back to the thread. I think they should be banned! Men posting don’t bother me if it’s a genuine query and they don’t get shirty when people disagree with them.

I think more men should read mumsnet, it might help them to understand what women go through.

YABU. This isn’t a site just for mums, or even women.

The tagline is “for PARENTS by PARENTS”. Last I checked dads could be parents too 🤔

Yes of course, I’ll just have to put up with it. Life is tough.

However there’s a dadsnet for parents too. Why do dads not go there?

Sometimes I just want women’s voices (children or no children), without men sticking their oar in.

I’m here just so many responses, as I’m responding!!

And yes, Even more annoying when they start ‘dad here’.

Depends if it's relevant to the context of the thread.

https://www.thedadsnet.com/

Lots of people start a post with 'solicitor here' or 'horserider here', and many men might do that due to the rather bizarre habit of some posters to say that any posts they disagree with must be men because a woman surely wouldnt post such a thing, almost as if being a man is a highly suspicious thing that a person must be accused of.

A lot of posters here really hate men and have awful double standards so god knows why a dad would post in any case.

I agree OP. It doesn't always bother me as long as the man who posts is respectful, but there are many on here who only seem to come to complain about women and to stomp on posters who show themselves to be quite vulnerable and often in an abusive relationship.

If a man wants to complain he can go to his own boards, rather than demand sympathy from the very women he complains about.

I’ve no objection to men posting here but agree with this. Unless an OP has specifically requested a man’s perspective I cannot stand when posters do this.

As if to say “I’m a man so let me speak for the entire male population and give you poor women an insight into what we think”.

Stating your expertise is very different from stating your sex. Being a man does not make you an expert in anything, whereas being a sollicitor or someone who has experience with horses might be.

Agree, I've seen really helpful contributions from men been given a kicking just for being a man which is out of order. I come here because the quality of the conversation is generally better than many other internet forums and most people have the right intentions (still the internet though obvs), so if the men are posting in good faith along those lines, then I'm happy with that.

Also it's strange that they all seem to be a victim of the family court myths myths 🤔 like we all know family court doesn't favour women (I don't think they favour anyone tbh) and that it's actually not that common women "stop" men from seeing their children you see it loads
"she stopped me from seeing them"
"have you been to court?"
"Can't afford it when they take 50% for child support"
"It's 12% for one 14% for more than one do you have arrears?"
"Yes because I haven't paid it"
"... so you could afford to go to court?"
"No because my >insert new wife car breakdown holiday of a lifetime excuse< so I've spent it"

It's unrealistic it's not like any real life I've ever known it is what i call F4J reality then they come on here and perpetuate the myth this is happening regularly And people believe it!

I agree totally.

Mumsnet. By mums for mums.

Yes but if someone is asking a question about the law or horses then a solicitor's opinion or horse rider's opinion is relevant. The fact that it's a man responding is usually irrelevant, unless the poster specifically asks for a male opinion on things.