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To dislike it when men post on mumsnet?

406 replies

N225NNW · 02/06/2024 07:52

I find it annoying. Why can’t they use their own men’s websites? Of which there are many!

*Note I put a thread up like this last night. Then went to bed. When I woke up this morning, it had been deleted by MN. Not sure what went on there..

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N225NNW · 02/06/2024 08:20

Beezknees · 02/06/2024 08:07

Yes but if someone is asking a question about the law or horses then a solicitor's opinion or horse rider's opinion is relevant. The fact that it's a man responding is usually irrelevant, unless the poster specifically asks for a male opinion on things.

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unless the poster specifically asks for a male opinion on things.

Never seen that here, it’s not what we’re here for. Well. It’s definitely not what I’d use mumsnet for.

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fiddlesticksohyeah · 02/06/2024 08:20

stayathomer · 02/06/2024 07:58

Beezknees
It doesn't bother me as long as they don't start the post off with "man here" as if they think we specifically want a man's opinion on things.

I start a lot of posts with ‘I’m from Ireland’ because it changes people’s perspective/perceptions- surely it’s better we know they’re a man as they’re living it differently?

Good point.

Sometimes we can all get bothered about something far too easily on here.

saraclara · 02/06/2024 08:20

Basically men can't win. They're either trolling and pretending to be women, or they're open about being male, so 'being superior'.

But that's Mumsnet for you.

Michelle12A · 02/06/2024 08:20

OP would you support an Englishnet - only for ethnically English people where people of other races were banned?

TulipCat · 02/06/2024 08:21

Mumsnet is an open internet forum. There are all sorts of people on here that I find objectionable, don't know if they're men or women, but encountering people with different viewpoints is part and parcel of the set up. Personally I find the tabloid journalists on here worse than men - I really dislike that they splash MN threads all over the tabloids. I find that much more of a threat to a women's space than the presence of men.

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N225NNW · 02/06/2024 08:21

AuContraire · 02/06/2024 08:09

It depends. When they just discuss things normally like women do then it's fine.

I hate the "man here" men, and also the men who hang on on the sex board who are all creeps. And the men who hang out on the relationships board wanting to talk about sex. Urgh.

The sort of men who seek out a female-dominated space where women are talking bout sex and relationship issues are often the exact type of men women are trying to avoid by using mumsnet.

Yes.

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Michelle12A · 02/06/2024 08:22

N225NNW · 02/06/2024 08:21

Yes.

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Some of them might also be trying to be better parents - this is a parenting forum…

or should men be banned from parenting?

fiddlesticksohyeah · 02/06/2024 08:22

Michelle12A · 02/06/2024 08:20

OP would you support an Englishnet - only for ethnically English people where people of other races were banned?

Oh stop it

Coradine · 02/06/2024 08:22

Michelle12A · 02/06/2024 08:17

I think they do it to show that they are a man and might not be the intended audience for the poster (who as many might want a women’s opinion) not to mansplain.

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That’s how I have always read it too. I find it a bit sad that so many people using the forum seem to dislike men so much that they automatically assume bad intentions.

opilikg · 02/06/2024 08:22

The problem is it tends to attract a certain type of man, usually condescending, incessant need to explain things to us little ladies, or worse, perverts.

No not saying this applies to all the male posters, but to many of the "man here" posts.

At least they mostly stay clear of the feminism boards (when not trying to stoke the trans debate) Netmums used to have a resident man lurking that used to post on any feminism related threads to explain to them why misogyny doesn't exist Envy

DickJagger · 02/06/2024 08:23

I totally agree with you OP.

There's an awful lot of dick pandering goes on when men post.

ByPeachSeal · 02/06/2024 08:23

Howbizarre22 · 02/06/2024 08:06

Mumsnet. By mums for mums.

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Nope. The tagline is by PARENTS for PARENTS.

How do you ever expect dads to be equal parents if you try to exclude them from a parental space where they can give and receive advice, ask questions and speak with other parents?

FixTheBone · 02/06/2024 08:24

N225NNW · 02/06/2024 08:02

Yeah.....

The last post on their forum was 5 months ago....

Michelle12A · 02/06/2024 08:25

I can see why some users husbands are shit needing to cope with some of these mumsnet users like this

men can’t get parenting advice but need to do 50% of it

Snoopingaroundhere · 02/06/2024 08:25

That's like stating Mumsnet is only designed for women who have children/pregnant/who are TTC....I don't have an issue with anyone coming on here.

BitOutOfPractice · 02/06/2024 08:26

I generally find men’s posts irritating too OP. But then I generally find a lot of men IRL to be irritating too.

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N225NNW · 02/06/2024 08:26

@saraclara
There’s something right there about not leaving them to their own male ‘echo chamber’. Happy for them to read and digest. Consider deliberate. But no interest in what they’ve got to say, on here.

I’m referring mainly to the relationships and fwr type boards. Men really arent needed or wanted there.

Fine on cat litter boards or politics etc. If they must.

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N225NNW · 02/06/2024 08:27

Michelle12A · 02/06/2024 08:13

I dislike it when anyone who disagrees with me posts on mumsnet.

suck it up

Nice

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Howbizarre22 · 02/06/2024 08:27

ByPeachSeal · 02/06/2024 08:23

Nope. The tagline is by PARENTS for PARENTS.

How do you ever expect dads to be equal parents if you try to exclude them from a parental space where they can give and receive advice, ask questions and speak with other parents?

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Well perhaps it should be called parentsnet then. Why do you think it’s vastly women on here? Women hardly have any space to safely discuss their issues without being shut down or mansplained to and this is a place where women can support each other. There is a dadsnet too.

Michelle12A · 02/06/2024 08:28

N225NNW · 02/06/2024 08:26

@saraclara
There’s something right there about not leaving them to their own male ‘echo chamber’. Happy for them to read and digest. Consider deliberate. But no interest in what they’ve got to say, on here.

I’m referring mainly to the relationships and fwr type boards. Men really arent needed or wanted there.

Fine on cat litter boards or politics etc. If they must.

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I don’t won’t you on this mumsnet thread, yet I don’t bar you from the website…

MrsDTucker · 02/06/2024 08:28

Snoopingaroundhere · 02/06/2024 08:25

That's like stating Mumsnet is only designed for women who have children/pregnant/who are TTC....I don't have an issue with anyone coming on here.

Well that was the point of it.

SilverHairedCat · 02/06/2024 08:28

N225NNW · 02/06/2024 08:27

Nice

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Wait until you find out how many of us on here have no children.... 🤯

Michelle12A · 02/06/2024 08:29

Howbizarre22 · 02/06/2024 08:27

Well perhaps it should be called parentsnet then. Why do you think it’s vastly women on here? Women hardly have any space to safely discuss their issues without being shut down or mansplained to and this is a place where women can support each other. There is a dadsnet too.

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It’s called mumsnet as that’s what it was called when it was founded

if the name changed half of the users wouldn’t be able to find the new website

Boomer55 · 02/06/2024 08:29

saraclara · 02/06/2024 08:20

Basically men can't win. They're either trolling and pretending to be women, or they're open about being male, so 'being superior'.

But that's Mumsnet for you.

This. Men can sometimes have a good perspective.🤷‍♀️

Didimum · 02/06/2024 08:30

N225NNW · 02/06/2024 08:00

Yes of course, I’ll just have to put up with it. Life is tough.

However there’s a dadsnet for parents too. Why do dads not go there?

Sometimes I just want women’s voices (children or no children), without men sticking their oar in.

I’m here just so many responses, as I’m responding!!

And yes, Even more annoying when they start ‘dad here’.

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Life is tough

Life is not ‘tough’ because you can’t get exactly what you want on an internet forum 🙄 And no one should be shipped off to another website just because it’s called ‘dadsnet’.

What constitutes as ‘sticking their oar in’? Asking a question? Answering one?

Sounds like you have deep seated issues surrounding men if you have an issue existing alongside them on a chat forum – a chat forum isn’t your personal space. You may feel happier in life if you resolve that.