To dislike it when men post on mumsnet?

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I find it annoying. Why can’t they use their own men’s websites? Of which there are many!

*Note I put a thread up like this last night. Then went to bed. When I woke up this morning, it had been deleted by MN. Not sure what went on there..

So because I joined a few months ago I can't comment on your post 😂

How are childfree posters intending to "repurpose the site" simply by posting?

Man here = not claiming any ownership of a female perspective, offering this thought up, but it would be useful for you to know it's from the male angle as that could be relevant to how useful or not it is.

This. I see it as respectful and not wanting to deceive.

I'm happy for men to post, why shouldn't they? The idea of a public forum is to get a range of opinions. MN is also not a particularly supportive space at times, some of the (female) posters are brutal.

I don't really bother to be honest ,why do I need an introduction to decide whether their opinion is valid to me ? I don't need I'm male/female ,black/white or gay straight .

Personally I think some of the women on here are far more problematic and derogatory to other posters.

I dislike it when anyone uses MN as a platform for a male centred agenda, be they men or the women who for some reason believe men to be a frail misunderstood and maligned demographic who need women to speak in their defence. However on the plus side, they enliven debate, and I enjoy watching women post intelligent counter arguments to discredit the nonsense.
I dislike any posts that toss around the term 'misandry' as though it's the equal opposite to misogyny. It's dramatic, hyperbolic and often actually offensive in the context of the discussion. I find NAMALTing tedious, as its been said and answered so many times it feels like ground hog day.
I have zero interest in 'the male perspective' because one random on the Internet has no more insight into all men than we do as women who live with them all around us. Plus, there are vanishingly few topics where being of the male sex makes an opinion more valid and interesting than a woman's.
So, I have no issue at all with the sex of individual posters. Tbh we never know for sure anyway, as all we have of anyone is their words. It's the desperate attempts to centre men in one of the few places where women's issues are the primary focus that I take issue with.

@ilovesooty ,

To be honest, I don’t really mind who posts. I take posts on the basis of what they say, not who is saying it.

My point was that childless women saying they don’t like parents posting on a parenting site is, to put it mildly, slightly cheeky.

That’s right. And I’ve seen that - a lot. Hence my op.

As I stated earlier not too bothered if a man wants to come here and talk about politics or cat litter, their favourite band lyrics, private school fees or any of that. Couldn’t care less.

What I don’t like is the stuff you mention, and similar.

I don’t have a problem for all the reasons
given previously.
What I do have a problem with is all the obvious man-haters on MN who seeks to derail every attempt at balanced conversation, to the point where I wouldn’t advise anyone with relationship concerns to ask MN anymore. All reasonable advice is drowned out by claims of “of course it’s all the man’s fault” and calls to LTB. The concept of working on a relationship is almost now completely gone from MN discussions.

😂😂 thanks babe

Maybe they identify as mums 🤔. No female biology, no periods, no female hormones, no pregnancy, no giving birth, no pre/post natal experiences - but they can still share their experiences of “being mums”.

Ok I’m being slightly facetious, but you get my point. Males are nurtured and socialised completely different to females so I’m not particularly interested in what they have to say about female issues. If it’s in the litter tray, that’s different.

Now change the word "men" for "black people" or "gay people". 🙄

Fortunately they aren't idiots at MNHQ, they offer this site based on equality and understand what denial of services based on a protected characteristic is.....

What I do have a problem with is all the obvious man-haters on MN who seeks to derail every attempt at balanced conversation

Like what's happened here, it's just classic MN, OP has the gall to post an opinion, bored women line up to pummel her and tell she's wrong for their early Sunday morning kicks.

Don't worry I'm balanced with my general
dislike of most people from both sexes

@Snoopingaroundhere

No I said originally it was made for mums.

You gave reasons why it wasn't.

I said they didn't apply when it was set up and you agreed.

Attitudes like what? Recognising things are not equal for women because of MENS attitudes and the way we are treated so wanting to keep MUMSnet as one of the only space for women to feel safe to discuss issues? My attitude has nothing to do with not wanting men to be equal parents. There are plenty of spaces for men ie the rest of society.

You’re entirely welcome.

I'm a man. I found this site several years ago when going through various rounds of IVF. It kept on popping up on Google searches and while I avoided it at first I soon came to realise it was an excellent and helpful resource. I soon got pulled into the orbit of AIBU and Relationship boards and while the former was often a bit of a laugh the latter was a depressing eye opener as to how many men can behave. I only state my sex if it is relevant to the topic being discussed and yes I roll my eyes too when I see some bloke on here mansplaining away thinking he has some special insight on a subject because he is a man. If I am offering some advice on a travel, domestic appliances, the film I have just seen etc I keep quiet as to what sex I am.

I don't like the men who only post on the sex board. I think they make that board unusable for the majority of women on MN.

Yes and all the "cool girls" circling them (NOT envy!)

I have seen that a lot coming from women too to be fair.
The "I don't experience it" so you must be wrong or you must be lying.

Followed by the usual "if you don't agree with me, you MUST be a MAN".

So fuck all those women and men with infertility right?

Close down the infertility board?

Stop hosting all the work, pet, cost of living, politics, running a small business boards?

If it isn't a post about a child, you can't talk about it right?

Thing is OP, and I don’t want to ruin the internet for you, but how do you know who is male and who isn’t on here? It’s all anonymous. So the 30yo mum from Manchester giving you advice, could be 51yo Carl from Chigwell. 🤷🏽‍♀️

I think presuming who people are when posting under an online moniker, is very naive.

@5128gap

‘..or the women who for some reason believe men to be a frail misunderstood and maligned demographic who need women to speak in their defence’

😂

The “man here” type posts do have me rolling my eyes 🙄 but just regular posting doesn’t bother me.
Sometimes a man will jump on a thread and try and argue male entitlement is best but that happens very rarely and they tend to get their arses handed to them

Most threads by men start the same - asking for advice as there wife is distant, doesn't go on date nights etc. In there somewhere will be the actual issue, the wife hasn't had sex with him in a while, what advice can we give to convince her to have sex with him.