To dislike it when men post on mumsnet?

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I find it annoying. Why can’t they use their own men’s websites? Of which there are many!

*Note I put a thread up like this last night. Then went to bed. When I woke up this morning, it had been deleted by MN. Not sure what went on there..

I generally really like reading the mens' posts - for an alternative perspective

I'm on a long standing thread where I use a different name because of a male who always made comments straight after my posts. He was goady and at one point I thought he had tracked me down in real life. Tbh I was a bit frightened. He's not posted for over six months but he could of changed his name.
I did report him and others had asked why he seemed to pounce as soon as I posted. In principle I don't mind male posters but I think there are some threads that deal with female issues that don't need a male perspective.

It depends. When they just discuss things normally like women do then it's fine.

I hate the "man here" men, and also the men who hang on on the sex board who are all creeps. And the men who hang out on the relationships board wanting to talk about sex. Urgh.

The sort of men who seek out a female-dominated space where women are talking bout sex and relationship issues are often the exact type of men women are trying to avoid by using mumsnet.

I don't believe Dadsnet has an equivalent to 'the litter tray'

It depends on whether or not I agree with them.

I don't know why you would assume:
man here = move aside ladies man coming through, I hereby provide this opinion here on behalf of all men with greater authority, aren't you lucky.

Sometimes the poster might mean that and you can usually tell from the post.

But it could equally mean:
Man here = not claiming any ownership of a female perspective, offering this thought up, but it would be useful for you to know it's from the male angle as that could be relevant to how useful or not it is.

I find it odd that anyone automatically assumes the former and is immediately incensed, and I don't say that cos I think they don't happen, they do, but so does the other kind... Irl and online.

I'd rather than the men on the board identified themselves. They're very welcome here as far as I'm concerned, but it's helpful to know the perspective that they're coming from.

And of course some might be accused of 'pretending to be women' if they didn't.

I think it's all to the goood if fathers post/read here and get women's protective on things, rather than going to a male echo chamber. We know how that can work out

Well, as it’s an anonymous site how would you know you’re talking to a man or not?
I have no idea who anyone is on here 😄
I mean, I assume most people who post are women ( & that’s probably true ) but I have no problem with men posting. It’s nice to get different views. I also think it’s polite for a man to start a post with ‘man here’ - at least then you’re not jumping to conclusions that the poster is a woman.

I dislike it when anyone who disagrees with me posts on mumsnet.

suck it up

I do mind men being on here, but there isn’t anything I can do about it. I think they come on to gather intelligence, and use it against us. Paranoid!

I come on here to ask for the opinions and support of other women, which I don’t really have IRL. I come on here to get a break from men.

But it could equally mean:
Man here = not claiming any ownership of a female perspective, offering this thought up, but it would be useful for you to know it's from the male angle as that could be relevant to how useful or not it is.

Exactly

Absolutely. I’ve seen that a few times and you can see the op getting more upset. The responses are almost definitely from males, trolls or otherwise. Women don’t usually speak to other women that way.

Probably similar to what happened on my previous thread last night, that got deleted without me even seeing it.

😂 Then one should be started.

There are lots of angry women on this website aswell

You can dislike anyone posting but you can't stop anyone on a public website. Nor should you

Yeah, this. No issue with men posting but when they make a point of announcing it and mansplaining their opinion as if it they speak for the entire male population it makes me think they are a complete dickhead.

Me too

I also am fed up with the "my wife won't have sex with me" and he claims to also be doing all the childcare, all the cooking and household chores, and being the main earner, while his wife works only a few hours a week and spends all her time at the salon and out socialising.

While I'm sure there are relationships where that is the case, I find it incredibly unlikely. And there are so many of these posts from men. It's like the MRAs have just come to remind us that women are evil, actually.

Meh. YABU but also, YANBU 😂

I do hate the “man here” or “dad here” posts though. It always smacks of moral superiority - like us poor wimmin folk are expected to bow down to their infinite wisdom…

The responses are almost definitely from males, trolls or otherwise. Women don’t usually speak to other women that way.

So you have no idea whether they're men or not. And if you honestly believe that women can't be bitches to each other, you've had a very sheltered life

I think they do it to show that they are a man and might not be the intended audience for the poster (who as many might want a women’s opinion) not to mansplain.

What a nasty thread. Imagine wanting to exclude a whole group of people just because you want to be amongst your own kind.

For all you know we're all men

Yeah it's not a good look OP

And MNHQ has made it clear that you don't have to be a mum to post here.