To dislike it when men post on mumsnet?

[N225NNW]

I find it annoying. Why can’t they use their own men’s websites? Of which there are many!

*Note I put a thread up like this last night. Then went to bed. When I woke up this morning, it had been deleted by MN. Not sure what went on there..

do you mean hearing from "people who agree with you"?

WHY does it matter if someone is a man?

For all we know, "Sarah from Slingsby" who is shocked/ horrified/ repulsed by the idea of a man is a man taking the piss. Or a woman taking the piss because she things the man haters are funny. Or any combination and we'll never know because it's an anonymous forum.

Mumsnet. By mums for mums.

It’s actually “by parents for parents” isn’t it?

I didn't agree or disagree to when it was set up 15 years ago because I was only 13 years old then so I wouldn't be joining Mumsnet lol,I only went by from what you commented, remember you quoted me first ..Have a good day.

Agree with this ^
i understand that people posting here could be anyone even Cheshire cats but it’s more helpful for the discussion if a man states this from the beginning. The same about being child free or from Ireland or from India… it doesn’t matter for some topics but for most of them it does.

@opilikg

‘Don't worry I'm balanced with my general
dislike of most people from both sexes’

Made me laugh 🤭

I know what to expect. Bit like a game, seeing what / who comes out of the woodwork.

It is actually really interesting to read a site where the majority of posters are women. It gives different perspectives sometimes and has been really useful to me as both a parent and, until recently, as a teacher.

There are women’s sites out there, and men’s. But I have no interest in echo chambers, and I like the healthy debates on here.

I do think the stated purpose of a site is what users should respect. I would never post on a women’s site. But MNHQ have made it clear that men are more than welcome.

For all we know, "Sarah from Slingsby" who is shocked/ horrified/ repulsed by the idea of a man is a man taking the piss. Or a woman taking the piss because she things the man haters are funny. Or any combination and we'll never know because it's an anonymous forum.
This

I do feel a bit off about it for some reason. I guess I see this as a safe space for women. I do wonder if some people are pretending to be women? I guess they have a right to be here, or more they can't exactly filter them out. I mean I don't have kids so maybe I shouldn't be on here either!

Woman here.
I like it, it's for everyone.
But then, I don't despise men and think they're all porn addicted cheating narcissists.
I have a brother, partner, dad and son.
I love them all and the slating blokes get on here just for existing is embarrassing and gives fodder to the many people that sneer about this site.
It's fine if them posting annoys someone, that's up to the annoyed party if they feel that way; but there are many more annoying women posting
(Head tilt, tinkly laugh and all that)

Because lots of men are misogynists who have a deep hatred of women. Not all obviously. But it would help to put some of the comments here in perspective, especially when, for example, a woman is posting in distress due to mistreatment from the men in her life.

See, this is the sort of nonsense that's irritates me. You can come on to a site where every day women are offered a plethora of free advice from other women who may have expertise in law, finance, DV, counselling or lived experience, advice that supports, motivates, changes (and sometimes even saves) lives; yet you're so fixated on and upset by some negativity towards men from some posters, that you won't even acknowledge that, and so discredit us all.

Before advising women not to come here, you should consider revisiting some of the threads and try looking at them without viewing through the lens of your own bias. Because for every 'man hater' there are countless balanced, helpful and informed posts.

@Howbizarre22

‘There are plenty of spaces for men ie the rest of society’

💯 Exactly.

There have always been men on Mumsnet.

What's worse than men on MN is people whinging about men on MN.

Lots of people on MN that aren't Mum's

Why don't you moan about that too?

Maybe the website ethos being "for parents, by parents" means you're a goady fucker.

where every day women are offered a plethora of free advice from other women who may have expertise in law, finance, DV, counselling or lived experience, advice that supports, motivates, changes (and sometimes even saves) lives;

How do you know they are all women giving the advice?
Is advice only worthwhile if it comes from a female lawyer?

Why have you name changed for this anyway?

Non issue from my perspective. I think in reality any posters that have really bothered/concerned me have been women, usually those who can’t handle disappointments or conflict healthily and think going no contact is the answer to everything, appreciating for some it is absolutely justified.

Which would be tricky to administrate reliably, but those men who realise they are coming into our space and therefore women here might appreciate that could respectfully start a post with 'man here' or 'I'm a man'.... 😁

but that's only your opinion.

I mean, I am sure "lots" of men are misogynists but a lot are not at all. Some men will even be a hell of a lot kinder than other women.

Some women are unbelievably nasty. Maybe they are not female, who knows, but I am sure at least some of the posters are, female.

Presumably MN deleted your post as they describe the site as a ‘website for parents’ so aren’t that keen on you wanting to exclude part of their clientele or intended audience. It’s not very on brand.

or the women who for some reason believe men to be a frail misunderstood and maligned demographic who need women to speak in their defence

Yep, the aforementioned dick pandering! I've never understood why some women do it. Men don't think better of you for doing it!

Didn't take long for the NAMALT posts to start!

What are people not allowed to question things now? Or give opinions? Interesting.

It doesn't bother me, men are entitled to their opinions.