Instrumental teacher refusing to teach my child

[MairSS]

I just cannot believe the email I’ve just received from my child’s instrumental teacher!
DS has been receiving instrumental lessons at school for a couple of terms. The music teacher is freelance and therefore parents pay fees directly to her.
We pay up front each half term. She invoices us. I had overpaid by one lesson last time, and she had not realised this. I therefore sent her a message telling her to check her account. She immediately did and apologised saying she had not realised and adjusted the invoice accordingly. I wrote another message saying that in fact I always pay on time and didn’t appreciate getting messages saying I hadn’t paid when I had.
She then said on reflection it may be better if I found an alternative teacher as she doesn’t tolerate rudeness and reattached her terms and conditions!
surely she can’t do this? How unprofessional! I’ll be making an appointment to see the headteacher on Monday!

Fucking lol. What subject are you revising?

Ok do that.

If you'd paid for more lessons she can provide those and if you've used all your paid ones she can get the violin back from your child.

I'd honestly start picking fights you can actually win 🤷‍♀️

Lol

Blimey

Just accept the refund, hand back the violin and draw a line under it.

How on earth do you expect your 6 year old to handle this?

You shouldn't have overpaid without noting it to her. It's annoying accounting for her to have to remember one random overpaid lesson maybe months later. She wants her attention on the music, not the accounting side.

You are unhinged.

Fuck me! 😲

I totally agree. You were out of order sending the second message.

Are you for real. I'm not surprised she's pulled the plug.

Shame about your child however.

Sounds like the music teacher has had a lucky escape. If she's freelance the HT can't do anything. If your emails to her are as rude as your posting style, you are going to struggle to find a replacement. Music teachers generally know one another and talk. They also have a lot of demand for their services so can generally pick and chose their students.

omg @MairSS you are not only rude, you are now putting your innocent 6 year old in a terrible position. It is NOT HIS violin , It belongs to the teacher and she will either a) not put him in the position that YOU have done to him and give him the lesson, but take the violin at the end with an excuse of tuning it or whatever or B) take the violin and send him packing . I hope for his sake it is A, but B would be more a point to you that you are not in charge of her class.

If this isn't a reverse: your poor kid, in the middle of all this, oh and YABVU obviously

Please don't put your little boy in that position! Imagine how upsetting it will be for him when she takes his violin back and tells him he's not having any more lessons.

I can’t believe you are going to put your six year old child in the embarrassing position of going to the music room for his lesson only to be turned away.

You really would rather do that than apologise?

Parent of the Month award winging its way to you right now.

Other violin tutors are available.

You expect your 6 year old to be sent out of a lesson because you won’t accept the teacher no longer accepts him as a pupil?

Send the violin back. You fucked up. Own it.

And if they find out about her from this teacher they won't want her custom either.

If you prevent her from refunding you, that's on you. Or she might send you a cheque

And on Tuesday, I expect she'll take the violin away from your son

I think it's quite telling that you've ignore everyone's advice. If you grovelled, apologised and begged for another chance, she might have agreed. But if your correspondence to her is like your tone in this thread, then I'm not surprised she wants to end the working relationship

Well I guess that you and your son have learnt a valuable lesson. Being rude doesn't pay off and your son is going to miss out as a result if your actions.

You can't send your son in with HIS violin cause he doesn't have one, it's the tutor's. She will rightly take her violin back and probably send a sad and confused 6 year old back out the door. You are just making an awkward situation for your child.

Are you honestly expecting that she will backtrack and continue with the lessons? She is self employed probably for this exact reason - so she doesn't have to deal with unhinged and entitled parents like you

You just made me snort with laughter. This is not how people behave.

This may be a reverse. In another of your posts you are self employed working within schools?

Dude, don't do that to your kid man. Shell take the violin, thank him for returning it and send him away. Don't to it to the poor little bugger.

There's a reason my sibling who teaches alongside her pro jobs doesn't teach kids any more.

People like you.

Can’t help but wonder if you’ve brought MairJr up with the same rudeness, and the teacher is actually glad to have an easy excuse to see the back of him.