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Instrumental teacher refusing to teach my child

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MairSS · 01/06/2024 14:30

I just cannot believe the email I’ve just received from my child’s instrumental teacher!
DS has been receiving instrumental lessons at school for a couple of terms. The music teacher is freelance and therefore parents pay fees directly to her.
We pay up front each half term. She invoices us. I had overpaid by one lesson last time, and she had not realised this. I therefore sent her a message telling her to check her account. She immediately did and apologised saying she had not realised and adjusted the invoice accordingly. I wrote another message saying that in fact I always pay on time and didn’t appreciate getting messages saying I hadn’t paid when I had.
She then said on reflection it may be better if I found an alternative teacher as she doesn’t tolerate rudeness and reattached her terms and conditions!
surely she can’t do this? How unprofessional! I’ll be making an appointment to see the headteacher on Monday!

OP posts:
JoshLymanIsHotterThanSam · 03/06/2024 18:41

You were fucking rude and you are entitled and this is where it gets you. Maybe rethink your attitude to people because I can guarantee you are like this in other scenarios in your life too.

piefacedClique · 03/06/2024 18:57
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Got this ready for tomorrow! 🙈🙈🙈

WingSluts · 04/06/2024 11:28

Today's the day! The violin could be being reclaimed as we speak!

viques · 04/06/2024 11:36

WingSluts · 04/06/2024 11:28

Today's the day! The violin could be being reclaimed as we speak!

Either we will never hear from the OP again, in which case we will draw our own conclusions and send virtual flowers to the violin teacher.

OR

The OP will return with a wonderful story about how the violin teacher begged her, on bended knee, to be allowed to teach the OPs child in 1-1 lessons, for free, in perpetuity. Which offer the OP is considering , will probably accept, but will keep the violin teacher in suspense for a day or two just to teach her some respect.

Rubbishconfession · 04/06/2024 11:37

Wtf I have a new found appreciation for the shit teachers have to put up with now.

I hope the teacher stands her ground and the Head backs her up.

Disgusting behaviour.

Pillowface1 · 04/06/2024 11:57

Scirocco · 03/06/2024 07:45

I suppose it depends what you want to get out of the swimming lessons. Group lessons aren't going to get a child to a high standard, but can be a fun and social setting to learn the basics so they can be safe. My DC does a small group swimming class and loves it - has made a friend, learned some basic safety skills, and has fun in the water.

True. I just wanted them over and done with. When my child joined her first group and some lovely mums told me this was their 4th year doing them, I balked. A one on one lesson was the same as the price for 6 lessons in a group of 8. But realistically they each only got a few minutes attention each. So by doing one on one's for 6 months, she was a great swimmer doing lengths with ease. This was job done for me as she doesn't really like the water, but obviously learning to swim is a necessary life skill.

saltinesandcoffeecups · 04/06/2024 12:58

Any updates.. has Little Lord Farquaad attended his lesson… does he still have a violin? Was he banished from music forever to lose out on his dream of playing the Met?

The suspense is killing me!

Butchyrestingface · 04/06/2024 13:05

I am a freelancer (different industry) of 20 years. I can confirm that clients can be rude, flaky, demanding, self-obsessed and clueless. And late payment is sadly an occupational hazard.

Thankfully, they're rarely as bad as this OP. Easter Grin I wonder if she's the same poster who was on a while ago complaining about her kid's would-be music teacher objecting to being given the Spanish inquisition about her suitability to teach OP's child prodigy.

Butchyrestingface · 04/06/2024 13:10

Rubbishconfession · 04/06/2024 11:37

Wtf I have a new found appreciation for the shit teachers have to put up with now.

I hope the teacher stands her ground and the Head backs her up.

Disgusting behaviour.

The music teacher is a freelancer though and ultimately can tell horrendous, gobby, entitled parents where to go.

Imagine being one of this child's unfortunate succession of class teachers or TAs. OP would probably drive them to drink - IN the class.

WearyAuldWumman · 04/06/2024 13:37

Butchyrestingface · 04/06/2024 13:10

The music teacher is a freelancer though and ultimately can tell horrendous, gobby, entitled parents where to go.

Imagine being one of this child's unfortunate succession of class teachers or TAs. OP would probably drive them to drink - IN the class.

I now only do a teeny bit of supply.

Prior to retirement, I was a Head of Dept and then Faculty Head in Scotland. (Principal Teacher Curriculum.)

One mother was always complaining. A real horror.

I'm still angry about this: SLT forced me to change my seating plan because the daughter complained that there was a "smell" coming from the girl next to her. There wasn't. The girl was of a different race and the mother's daughter was simply a bullying little racist.

We always had complaints from that woman.

My the time the girl was a senior, she was in someone else's class, but the teacher was off sick so I covered. Next thing, I was subjected to a formal investigation for "bullying".

I was interviewed; every single child in the class was interviewed. The conclusion of the investigation was that I had done nothing wrong. Apparently, my bullying consisted of "Be quiet. People are trying to work." (I was told that I was exonerated because I had also told someone else to be quiet!)

The mother refused to accept the findings. "My daughter always tells the truth."

My response to my line manager was that, in that case, perhaps he should let the mother know that the daughter had informed the entire class: "My mum's a slut! She got [euphemism for impregnated] wi me when she was 15! That's why she put me on the implant at 15!"

Sadly, my line manager declined.

OlderGlaswegianLivingInDevon · 04/06/2024 15:15

Well it's 3.15 pm on Tuesday...
so nearly ' home time '
and Mummy will know if precious child has the borrowed violin in his hands with him or not !

waiting with bated breath for the update...

fitzwilliamdarcy · 04/06/2024 15:39

After the discovery that this is probably a reverse, I doubt OP will be back.

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