Instrumental teacher refusing to teach my child

[MairSS]

I just cannot believe the email I’ve just received from my child’s instrumental teacher!
DS has been receiving instrumental lessons at school for a couple of terms. The music teacher is freelance and therefore parents pay fees directly to her.
We pay up front each half term. She invoices us. I had overpaid by one lesson last time, and she had not realised this. I therefore sent her a message telling her to check her account. She immediately did and apologised saying she had not realised and adjusted the invoice accordingly. I wrote another message saying that in fact I always pay on time and didn’t appreciate getting messages saying I hadn’t paid when I had.
She then said on reflection it may be better if I found an alternative teacher as she doesn’t tolerate rudeness and reattached her terms and conditions!
surely she can’t do this? How unprofessional! I’ll be making an appointment to see the headteacher on Monday!

Have you paid for any lessons she hasn’t delivered?

your child is missing out because you were unnecessarily rude to the teacher. She doesn’t have to deal with that. It’s on you.

Bet you haven’t got the balls to post a screenshot of your actual message to her.

Even before I knew what the detail of your post was, I read this line, “therefore sent her a message telling her to check her account” and thought - told, not asked? - how rude are you 🙄

So if I got that about you before even reading that you were dumped for your rudeness, I can well imagine the tone of your messages. It’s a certain mindset that recounts the tale with telling not asking, it says a lot.

Sorry OP, I wouldn’t teach a child if this was their parents attitude. You’re getting a bit of a beating but a few commenters are right in saying the way you communicate in your writing needs adjusting

Blimey! I wouldn’t put up with that either - good for her!

This is clever 😂😂

Is this a reverse, by any chance?

I bloody HATE reverses.

As a self employed member of staff, there is very little the school can do, they can’t dictate terms to her as then it starts to veer into employment. Chasing parents for payment is a nightmare - people frequently don’t pay on time and then you to send the child away who has turned up for a lesson. There was a mistake and she put yours right. There was no need to send the second email and if it comes across like in your OP then it would come across as rude. If you want your son to continue, then I suggest that you apologise for being rude and you didn’t mean it and you’d really like your DS to continue. There is a big shortage of instrumental teachers on some instruments and you may not find other options. It also means that teachers know that gaps can be filled very quickly.

Oh God, you're one of those parents!!

Rings the headteacher at the drop of a hat because your precious life and children have been affected by something you have done but oh so isn't your responsibility!!

You were rude to the freelance, independent teacher that is not paid to put up with your bullshit, if you're kid misses out then that's on you not them.

Manners do matter, somewhat worrying you got this far in life without understanding this. It’s a shame for your kid, but if you do this often then it won’t be the first time they are going to have to lose out because you can’t treat people with basic respect.

This - and don’t make the same mistake of being rude!

Uh huh.

If you really did do this, your comment was totally unnecessary. I wouldn't want to deal with you either. Play stupid games, as they say...

Your child is missing out because of you and because the teacher has every right to decide not to deal with your rudeness.

”I expect them to be delivered” 🤣 don’t be a dick!

Nothing at all to do with the headteacher.

Freelance - s/he can pick and choose.

so now you either apologise lots and lots

or you find someone for out of school hours

Your child is missing out because of YOUR actions. If you've already paid for this upcoming half term I'm sure the teacher will refund you.

Yes it's your child who is missing out - because of your own behaviour. Instead of a visit to the head you could try an apology for being rude. That's more likely to work IMO.

Good for her!

You were over the top OP.
People make mistakes. She apologised and corrected.

Make sure you tell your child why it is that she can't continue with these lessons any longer; that you fucked up by being rude. Useful life lesson for her.

Is she teaching your child how to play a tiny violin?

You’re ‘that’ parent OP. Just apologise and find another teacher.

Yeah, on second thoughts, I don't believe this.
No one could be that entitled and rude?

Don’t waste any more of her time and definitely don’t waste the head’s time - she’s freelance, it has nothing to do with school. I’d drop a client who sent me a shitty message like that too. If your child is missing out it’s on you for being so pissy with her after she apologised and fixed it.

Well I guess you’ve learnt your lesson. Don’t be a dick.
she probably spends hours chasing up unpaid invoices.

The only thing you can do OP is put on the grovelling pads and apologise as hard as you can, acknowledge that on reflection you see that the tone of your email was rude, say it was unintentional and that you hope she will reconsider her decision as your child is enjoying the lessons and would be sad to have to stop them . Your child, your move.