Instrumental teacher refusing to teach my child

[MairSS]

I just cannot believe the email I’ve just received from my child’s instrumental teacher!
DS has been receiving instrumental lessons at school for a couple of terms. The music teacher is freelance and therefore parents pay fees directly to her.
We pay up front each half term. She invoices us. I had overpaid by one lesson last time, and she had not realised this. I therefore sent her a message telling her to check her account. She immediately did and apologised saying she had not realised and adjusted the invoice accordingly. I wrote another message saying that in fact I always pay on time and didn’t appreciate getting messages saying I hadn’t paid when I had.
She then said on reflection it may be better if I found an alternative teacher as she doesn’t tolerate rudeness and reattached her terms and conditions!
surely she can’t do this? How unprofessional! I’ll be making an appointment to see the headteacher on Monday!

Are you for real🙄
good on the teacher for calling you out….I wouldn’t want any more dealings with you either…..she won’t miss your money….. find another teacher and mind your manners in future

I'm sensing this isnt the first time you've pulled her up on something and been 'that' parent. Straw/camels back and all that.

You were rude, she doesn't want to deal with you and I'll bet the head will tell you she doesn't have to.

theres just the one lesson which I have paid for which she had carried across onto this half terms total after I pointed out her mistake. She’s since asked for my bank details so she can refund this one lesson so there’s no money or lessons owed. I don’t want a refund though, I want my child to continue with his violin lessons, he’s only 6 and really looks forward to them!
she’s now telling me I can return the violin which she has lent us on Monday morning to school so she can collect it.
I don’t want a refund or to return the violin! Why can’t she just move on and continue to do her job which we pay for???

I’m with the teacher. You are rude.

Chef’s kiss.

Agree with everyone else here.
Are you beginning to see that you are responsible for this OP? You can't treat people like that. People make mistakes. She sorted it. Your response should have been, thank you for sorting so quickly.
Your DC will now miss out. You should still apologise to the music teacher too for being rude. I doubt she'll relent but apologising would still be the right thing to do.

Agreed. I wouldn't want you as a customer either. She's self employed and can make that decision. It's nothing to do with the headteacher, who undoubtedly has more important things to do.

Give the fucking violin back ….take the refund or don’t….but she ain’t teaching your kid in future so move on

Why can’t she just move on and continue to do her job which we pay for???

Because she chooses not to tolerate rude customers 🤷🏻‍♀️

Why didn't you just move on when she admitted the mistake and adjusted the invoice?

Re-read your posts. You come across as unreasonable, rude, aggressive and unpleasant (whether you acknowledge that or not). She doesn’t have to put up with that from anyone, being freelance, and she’s told you that. She’s done it in a professional and constructive way so you need to find another teacher as you’ve burnt that particular bridge. Learn from the experience and move on.

😂Holding her violin hostage isn't going to make her turn around and magically decide to teach your child. You've fucked it, OP.

Have you posted this before? There was a similar post last year. YABU and rude.

No it's not. She's not your skivvy.

Is this a reversey-mc-reverseface?
Because if it isn't oh dear.

I mean this just makes you sound like a dick

Look for another teacher and don't be rude to them.

It's really very simple.

It was an innocent mistake. She immediately rectified it and apologised. To have sent a follow up saying you find her rude for requesting incorrect payment is unnecessary.
She believed she invoiced you the correct amount, it was not rude it was a simple error.
I don't really see how the head teacher can force her to work with your child against her will? And why would you want her to?

This. She has a choice and is exercising that choice. The world would be a better place if more people felt the consequences of rudeness.

1. This is marvellous. You sound quite deranged.
2. There are easier ways for her to make her money. She is not a peasant scrabbling about to be graced by your custom.
3. She probably has a waiting list as long as her arm so she can pick and choose.
4. Return the literally tiny violin on Monday and move on.

this is beautiful. I love it when people stick up for themselves against rudeness.
It is your own fault that your 6 year old will no longer be having violin lessons at school. I hope you reflect on that for a while.

Nope.

You paid her for a service. She has withdrawn your access to this service. She’s not an indentured servant.

As you are now beginning to realise, you haven’t a leg to stand on.

She doesnt want your money. Move on

Why can’t she just move on and continue to do her job which we pay for???

Because she doesn't want to.

I wrote another message saying that in fact I always pay on time and didn’t appreciate getting messages saying I hadn’t paid when I had.

Why can’t she couldn't you just move on and continue to pay her to do her job???

Still not sure this is real though. If it is you are VERY unaware of yourself.

There’s only one way out here and that’s apologise profusely. She made a mistake, started chasing invoices, you pointed out that there was an error, she apologised and amended it. The only response to that should have been thanks for sorting, DS is looking forward to seeing you on Monday. There was no need for anything else. You may not have meant to have come across as rude, but everyone including myself is saying that if the message was similar to your posting style then yes it was rude.
There was a similar story on here last year and the parent did apologise and it turned out okay. The parent found out the hard way that violin teachers are not easy to find.