To think it was obvious they were for the kids??

[Birump]

DS is having a little play date today, low key birthday “party” but DS doesn’t really do parties so it’s more of a gloried play date.
Yesterday I did some baking … 8 sausage rolls, 8 scotch eggs, 8 jam slags and 8 chocolate brownies.

Came down this morning and most of it is gone, I text DH asking if he’d touched the baking and he said yes, he’d taken it for work.

im fuming, isn’t it fucking obvious that they were for the kids for today?? He’s insisting that it was not obvious. This is not the first time he’s done something like this.

😂😂 what's a jam slag lol

Even if he didn't know, it isn't normal to just take a load of baking that someone else has done without actually asking them first what it was for.

Is he always such a selfish pig?

You think he did this on purpose?! What the hell is the matter with him? What kind of man deliberately steals the food from his child's party? He's clearly a total dick.

Well he's a shitty piece of shit so that's fun.

'Jam slag' is giving me a huge Ick though. I'm cringing for you.

Tell him to Uber them home if he’s too busy. Utterly selfish and his selfishness must permeate through everything. If he didn’t get them back, I’d be done with ever doing anything again for him (tbf I’d be done with him anyway)

Of course it’s not, it’s quite frankly bizarre to not check even if you have a partner who does sometimes bake for you/the office. But he would surely have known it was his own child’s party coming up, because if he didn’t it’s truly a reflection of how checked out of family life this man is and a huge problem in itself.

Not something to cringe over! It's probably just a local term for them.

Jam slag new name henceforth

Jam Slags, the Stormy Daniels of culinary eroticism, seducing OP's helpless DH to commit this heinous crime...

I think that this theft can clearly be considered cheating and that he should be banished from the kitchen forever.

He'd be making his own dinner for a loooong time after this. Theft is one thing, being arsey about it rather than apologising is unforgiveable.

I mean, that's a you problem. Cringe for yourself.

Im going against the grain here and going to say that, you should have made more or enough for your DH if you knew that he enjoys your baking. A little thoughtfulness goes a long way and now you're angsting over the baking for the party. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Op your husband sounds like an idiot, I would be so mad. It's so obvious that it's for a special occasion and that special occasion isn't for his work. Twat.

🤦‍♀️😤

He’s 100% done it on purpose.

Then why ask the question you have in AIBU? You know the answer.
You’d be better off posting in Relationships for advice on leaving, or if you’re not leaving, how to live without him destroying your mental health and your catering plans. What an arsehole.

I guess he might have had the idea that the OP had been baking for the party and that there were some left over.

Regardless, the only acceptable approach in this situation is to check. I can't fathom how anyone would think it even remotely reasonable to just take stuff without asking.

I would be so, so angry in this situation.

He is just a selfish bastard. Does he have form for this?

I’m sorry he did this. He’s only thinking of himself and not even listening to you even when you told him you were baking for the party.

I would be furious.

😄count me in.
But we need to know what a jam ball is .

Standards, please raise yours along with some self respect. If he likes baked goods so much he’s more than welcome to make it himself with extra for the family.

That’s seriously your response to this? 🙄

Thoughtfulness from who?

Surely he could have shown a little thoughtfulness by not eating all his child's party food? Is that too much to expect from a man?

She should have made enough for him to take multiples of each thing to work?

He didn't just have a couple of brownies because he was peckish. He took almost all of it to work.

And even if you're right, his response could have been "it would have been nice to have made some extra so it wasn't all needed for the party" rather than just taking almost all of it anyway!

WTF?

Agree with pp suggesting he Ubers them home.
Or he needs to order appropriate options on uber eats/whoosh/whatever is available. His problem to sort.

Apart from anything else it’s a massive amount of food he’s taken: surely he’s not planning to eat all that? Which makes it anll the clearer that it’s a power play/to undermine you and Ds. I’d also make it clear you expect him to bring it all back: even if it’s to freeze for a future occasion. I’m imagining him sharing it round the office as a mr bountiful…

I’ve never heard of a jam slag.